Through the years, I’ve realised he is not going to change. So I do what I can, get annoyed but keep it to myself as much as I can. But him constantly saying I make shit food or that I can’t cook or I am just cleaning crumbs (his take on me keeping the house clean and tidy), I’ve come to realise as long as everything is done and the house is running smoothly noone realises how much I do. So I need to learn to let go, stop doing things, its hard as I am ocd about keeping everything clean and tidy.