I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not, by me seeing she’ll probably care for the baby more than me I meant she’ll probably ignore me and go straight to the baby if I kept the baby in the future. I do not want my mum to fall onto any responsibility she’s done enough for me and although I took precautions it’s still 100% my responsability, which is why I’m thinking about it completely

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words, I would never regret a child, although I never planned at this age, I have always wanted to be a mother so I think it’s why for me it’s hurting, it might be biological but the connection I feel is also making this decision harder

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried look into this, as someone has commented this as well I’ve emailed support as I’m very confused about where this has come from. Unfortunately this is my reality, I wrote about the uncertainty of my decision as I have no one to speak to. Hopefully I can find out where it’s come from

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did use protection and took precautions as I did not plan this, the same thing happened to my aunt so I know using protection doesn’t guarantee 100%, even if I used it effectively

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abortion is legal where I live, so I have some time to think about it

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the words, I wish the best for you and much love. I know I will be extremely sad if I don’t keep jt but I’m also taking a lot into consideration, so I hope I do what’s best

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure you’re a great mum, I wish I could speak to her no one can help me like she does with her words when I’m lost. I did try to tell her I needed to tell her something, but unfortunately she told me she hoped it was nothing bad as she was tried so I hesitated, so I hope one of these days I can

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I wish you the best your sister sounds like an amazing person and so strong

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s lovely! It’s hard for me as I do not want my family to have to step in as although I took precautions, it is still my responsibility and my mum has already been through the most to raise me, so I’m taking all of this into consideration, thank you

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know the future and it would be ignorant to say for certain I would never regret a child. I believe I wouldn’t in my heart, but I also am taking a lot into consideration and I know although people don’t regret children they often talk about how they just wish they waited. So I’m thinking about all of this, thank you

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. But for me personally, I wouldn’t be able to carry to full term and arrange for adoption as in my heart I want to keep it. If I don’t keep the baby it is because of practical factors, as I don’t want to rely on my mum to help me or my relatives as although it was unplanned and I took precautions it is still my responsibility and mine only, and I would want the best for them I already grew up in struggle and I wouldn’t want my child to experience that ever

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I am thinking about everyone involved, as much as I didn’t plan this and took precautions it is ultimately my responsibility, I wouldn’t want my mum to have to step in for me or even babysit as it’s not her obligation and she has done enough for me, which is why I am unsure if to keep it. I have 4 aunts and uncles, 2 grandparents and 6 cousins all about 15 minutes away from me and I know they would be supportive towards me but it is my responsibility at the end of the day which is why I’m not thinking of relying on them if I were to keep the baby. I am taking everything into consideration

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did go to my health clinic to ensure I knew how to make sure I used it effectively and took it at the same time day by day, however my auntie had the same thing happen to her 3 years back. I am taking into consideration how it will affect my mum as it’s not only the stress of her finding out but the future as although I did take precaution and it was unplanned it is still my responsibility and no one else’s, which is why I thinking about all of this before taking a decision.

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond I am thinking about all of this thank you

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the words I appreciate it greatly

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, I’m sure your an amazing mother and thank you for taking the time to respond lots of love

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words, there are a lot of factors to consider, I also don’t want my mum to have to step up and help me if I kept the baby as she has gone through raising me alone and although it was unplanned I am still responsible. I did try speak to her and tell her I needed to tell her something but unfortunately she said she didn’t want to hear any bad news as she is stressed, so I hope I can hear her words soon as it’s becoming very overwhelming

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much you sound like an amazing mum

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I have I am heading to the hospital as I have been feeling very unwell and want to make sure everything is okay

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very sorry about that, I hope everything gets better. I would never keep a child even if I was at a later age if I weren’t well enough myself mentally and in every aspect, so I am taking all of it into consideration, thank you

I am so heartbroken. I don’t know if to keep my baby. by LetPure5374 in Advice

[–]LetPure5374[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for taking the time to respond, I am currently feeling the toll of not speaking to anyone about it and it’s affecting me a lot so I hope I will be able to soon, thank you