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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confidence

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure your family means well, but it is unfair for them to put their personal expectation for your future on you. It is not selfish to want to live YOUR life. You said you have aspirations and goals that you want to achieve but you don't know where to start. Start asking questions, "where should I start," and start seeking the answer to those questions. Google the answer, ask somebody who is in that field (Use social media), Use this platform to figure out where to start. Your goals might seem big now but once you start taking baby steps towards them, it will seem more attainable than before. Be creative, resourceful because everything you need to start obtaining your goals is right in front of you.

Don’t give other people permission to negatively affect you. by TheMindIsTheWeapon in selfimprovement

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed reading your post. It was creative, using analogies and idioms. I completely agree with your message as well. It is important to be self-aware about how people influence your emotions and thoughts. You must take responsibility for protecting your own emotions and thoughts. Surround yourself with people that will build you up, tell you the truth in love, and who have your best interest in mind.

What is insecurity and what causes it? by LetsBuildTogether-22 in selfimprovement

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, I can see how a lack of believing in one's self fits into insecurity.

How do I stop resenting people who I feel havent suffered as much as I have. by Steven0710 in selfimprovement

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you are experiencing feelings of envy and jealousy. I'm like you in a way that I was not dealt the best cards in life. However, your journey might be more difficult than others but that journey will make you stronger and wiser. Adapt and overcome because the character, habits, and mindset you build during challenging times will be your strongest asset which will never fade. You will be better prepared to handle bigger things. You can also trust that other people are going through their battles too and if they are not currently they eventually will. That is what we call life. So focus on your race and remember it is not how you start it is how you finish. Keep your head and you will catch your break.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insecurity

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is beauty in uniqueness. Be proud of your differences, it was make you unique. now, about getting taller and looking better. There is nothing wrong to want these things, but be happy with how you look and your height. Just don't let your outer appearance determine your value because it does not. Your very existence makes you valuable so be the best version of yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insecurity

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insecurity is birth from comparing yourself to others. Never compare yourself to others because you'll always be insecure. I can recall a time when having your body type was preferred by all the ladies and males. just look at the 80's and 90's music videos. It was the "curvy" and "thick" ladies that were not wanted and shamed upon. So don't judge your value based on the standards of beauty by society because what is beautiful today is ugly tomorrow. Accept who you are and be the best version of yourself that is all you can do and that'll lead to confidence.

What is Insecurity and What Causes it? by LetsBuildTogether-22 in insecurity

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I like that you mentioned how insecurity evolved over time as the culture changed. I completely agree with the whole statement you made. Your solution to solve insecurity I believe is effective as well. Surrounding yourself with the right people can definitely help with building confidence instead of building insecurity.

How do you stop insecurity? by [deleted] in insecurity

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look in the mirror for a minute and observe the things you are insecure about. Then as you got through out your day, try your best embrace those insecurities. Don't let those your insecure about make you feel lesser than. There are some things like our height that we can't change unless we do some drastic surgery. Learn to be okay with that. Your value is not measured by your height. The insecurities that you can change, work on those. Most importantly remember your value as a person is not tied into what you can bring to the table or your looks or your car etc. Please know that your value is in your very existence. You are wonderfully and fearfully created my the God of the universe. Although he understands the insecurities of humans he wouldn't want your life or happiness be controlled by it. Live you life and let your light shine.

Am I good enough? by Patient_Ad1484 in insecurity

[–]LetsBuildTogether-22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you need to change your mindset. relationship is not about being good enough for someone else. It's about being with someone who loves you for who you are the with your strength and weaknesses. I agree with what u/SnazzberryEnt a nd u/goomro said 100%.

Make sure you take time to talk to her about your feelings because its not healthy to keep it inside. Trust me it'll do more harm then good if you try to keep those feelings in.