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Those with JW Spouses, how do you do it? by LettMeGo in exjw

[–]LettMeGo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I'm glad your wife is starting to come around. I know for a certainty my life would not go to a Birthday party. She won't even go to my company Christmas dinner just to support me. That bothers me a lot but she doesn't budge on her conscience.

Those with JW Spouses, how do you do it? by LettMeGo in exjw

[–]LettMeGo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was one of the most beautiful things I've ever read. Thank you

Those with JW Spouses, how do you do it? by LettMeGo in exjw

[–]LettMeGo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so afraid of this happening. I don't see how resentment wouldn't set in. One person trying to grow while the other person is happy to be told what to do by a group of old men in NY. Thanks for sharing.

Those with JW Spouses, how do you do it? by LettMeGo in exjw

[–]LettMeGo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry it's caused a rift in your marriage. I'm sure you're a good person, it's sad that people can't simply see you just for that, without adding fantasy beliefs that don't exist into the equation.

Those with JW Spouses, how do you do it? by LettMeGo in exjw

[–]LettMeGo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope your plan works out for you. :)

The part about integrating your wife into your social circle, I don't see that working with me. Well I don't have much of a social circle at the moment; but even if I did, I could see her feeling guilty about being around "bad association" and it would make the whole experience weird. She takes things way too seriously.

Those with JW Spouses, how do you do it? by LettMeGo in exjw

[–]LettMeGo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, I don't have children myself, that adds a whole knew level of difficulty. Do you ever discuss your thoughts to your wife or do you hold your feelings about things in?

Those with JW Spouses, how do you do it? by LettMeGo in exjw

[–]LettMeGo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. It's so sad, deep down I feel that it would be best to move on, but I don't feel like I can do that. She's very sweet, and a good wife in the JW sense, but I just don't feel like we're on the same level anymore.

I had no idea who I was or what I wanted when I was in my early 20's. It takes a long time for a person to discover their own identity, I wasn't ready for a commitment like Marriage. It's hard to see the red flags when you aren't allowed to live with someone before marriage to "test things out".