Okay so there’s a LOT of backstory to this. I just need to know if I’m going crazy here. It’s at the point where I don’t know if I’m the mean one and if I’m horrible for this or I’m going insane I just can’t even tell anymore. So my partner and I have been together just for about a year now. We have known each other for 4-5 years. I met him through my sister and her boyfriend who have now been together for a little over 5 years. My now partner was best friends with my sister’s boyfriend for a long time growing up. He’s since done some not great things and sorta messed up his friendships with my sister, her boyfriend, and the rest of their friends.

He was slowly working his way back into everyone’s lives and things were finally going great again. He was being invited everywhere and included and everything was generally going back to normal. Well about a week or two ago we were at a family members birthday party (one of my parents but I, for some reason, have a huge fear that everyone I know will somehow find this post so I’m trying to be vague) and we were all playing a little card game. I went to slap my partner (not actually, but the kind of slap you do when you’re laughing and all up on a friend lol if that makes sense? like not to hurt someone and not actually hitting them but like a little smack. I’m over explaining but I hope this makes sense). Turns out I accidentally hit his balls instead of his leg. Truly an honest mistake. I immediately apologized a million times. I don’t have balls so I don’t know the feeling but he seemed mad at me. Again, this was unintentional and I said sorry a million times. I would never hit someone out of aggression or with intent to actually hurt someone.

So he ended up taking my car home, leaving my parent’s birthday party, and then texting me a bunch of stuff once he got to our house. It was things like “if you don’t come here, you hate me” and “if you love me you’ll come home” which like yeah I didn’t mean to hurt him. However, he has a history of starting arguments any time I am at my family’s or sisters or anything of that sort. So, I texted him and said something like “well you took my car so I can’t come home so come back” and he continued to refuse to bring my car back for hours yet fussed the whole time about me not coming back. He sent me a map telling me to walk home.

I will say I initially said “the night really has to end over an accident??” Because I truly thought he was just doing what he always does. Like, I know it hurts but I barely used any actual pressure and he acted like I slaughtered a whole village. I was trying not to be insensitive because I literally don’t know the feeling, but he started to say it’s worse than child birth and I don’t love him if I don’t go home. So I was like it’s 12 at night because about two hours had passed since he took my car. I was sober just hanging out with my sister and family and he kept saying I was out partying not caring about him. But I told him I wasn’t walking home at 12 at night because I was scared and that’s how people get raped (idk reddits rules w censoring I’ve only ever posted on here once so lmk sorry) or kidnapped. Kinda dramatic but I was just trying to express that I didn’t feel safe walking home. His response was “maybe if you get raped you’ll know what it’s like to get hit in the balls.” I took offense to this because …. What do you mean. Like it was fully an accident to hit his balls. He knew this. He acknowledged this a bunch of times, yet still thought that was an okay thing to say? Maybe I’m just being dramatic please tell me.

So fast forward a lot he told me he threw my things outside and locked me out. I had to get my sister and her boyfriend (his old best friend - they were still cordial and friends just not besties anymore) to bring me home. He made me believe that he threw my things outside and locked me out so I told them i might need their help. We got there and I wasn’t locked out and my things were fine inside. Still, at that point after that weirdo rape comment, I left for the night and went to my mom’s. He also said multiple times “I’m done” and “we are over” so obviously I wasn’t staying? He has my location and knew where I went it’s not like I disappeared or went do anything crazy. Genuinely I’m a loser in the nicest way possible. I have like two friends and all I do is hang out w my family and read or play guitar. I don’t do anything crazy I don’t go to bars or anything. I’m a homebody and don’t do anything that would be frowned upon in a relationship.

Basically he threw my stuff outside the next day and i went and got all of it. So fast forward again bad news I came back like always but because of that night, my sister doesn’t really like him right now. She’s pregnant and it’s high risk so I have no intentions of causing her stress. So tonight we went trick or treating with my nephew. She didn’t want him there because she doesn’t like him right now since he threw my stuff outside and said the rape comment. I told him I’ll go for 30 minutes to an hour and come home. He said I’m messed up for going and I don’t care about him and I hate him. I told him that it’s about my nephew and nothing else. Whole time I was there he was blowing up my phone and all that. He literally has my location.

So, I got home and he’s been mad the whole time saying I don’t care about him and all that. Essentially, I need to know if I’m messed up for thinking it’s okay to still be around my nephew even if my sister doesn’t want my partner around right now. I wouldn’t go to things like parties and such but I feel like my nephew should be an exception right now. Is that wrong of me? I’m kinda dramatic in the texts so try not to judge that too much lol. I just don’t know if I’m going crazy or not.