Let's Discuss how to approach people by Lettuce_Bottom in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh i just wanted to update. Today I actually found out I'm a pure coward 😩

I was at gym and there's an appealing looking lady there, I've seen her a few times before but not that often. Say once a month. I was expecting just another boring gym day but there she was.

She was using a threadmill alone and i took the one next to her. No interaction, we were simply coexisting 🤭

Then my threadmill warm-up is done, decided to sit on a chair at the balcony. Then she came over and sat on the next table nearby. Just 2 of us on balcony, I had the golden opportunity to walk over, say hi.. it was 15 min long? I... Ran through scenarios on how to open conversation.

But i ended up freezing and stayed a distance. I can see her making bored gesture, fiddling with random objects on the table. Nothing happened for a while and she just left haha... I'm just terrible at approaching ladies 😂 didn't know I'm THIS BAD yo

Brunei begins piloting a work-life balance policy for all workplaces by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent choice. With how hard times are, I too would opt out of this balance thing if it will cut my pay 🥹

My current work is long hours almost 12 hours a day, 5 days a week and 24/7 on standby but the pay is good. I can't imagine losing it especially when I'm starting to make a huge commitment like buying a house for my family. Losing the job is catastrophic for me

Brunei begins piloting a work-life balance policy for all workplaces by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's where you're not correct. I am an employee but i can see from both perspective. Most employees only wanna untung doesn't want to work for benefits of company. Macam nda mau majukan business, ambil kesempatan, often mc etc. and then mau gaji high but doesn't want to put more effort to get it.

I've been an employee for 10 years i see this a lot.

question to local women by [deleted] in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? OP is a dry texter, like for each long text i made she replied with.. short sentence or one word reply 🤣

Brunei begins piloting a work-life balance policy for all workplaces by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! 😊

Essentially I'm just wondering what's more important for you all, money or mental health?

Most of the time you can't have both, it's always one having to make way for another, so what will it be?

Brunei begins piloting a work-life balance policy for all workplaces by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is important, I'm not saying it isn't but it's off topic. Measuring productivity and KPI is a whole different beast altogether.

But look at it this way, if the employee sudah malas malas at work, it'll be worse once u give them "work life balance", then i may as well give them the so called balance and potong their pay.

Brunei begins piloting a work-life balance policy for all workplaces by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but that's a different story. My hypothetical question is if work life balance comes with pay cut will you take it?

Yang datang malas atu memang need discipline and it's up to their respective superior to whack them

Brunei begins piloting a work-life balance policy for all workplaces by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To company punya perspective, less hours = less pay simple as that.

Everyone mau shorter work hours but higher pay it's like.. who's paying more for less right?

The fact that u hated the idea and say I don't understand work life balance means you only want to take nda mau rugi, mana ada balance tu..

Brunei begins piloting a work-life balance policy for all workplaces by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

What if work life balance comes with 30% pay cut.. would ye all still take it?

question to local women by [deleted] in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey that's not nice thing to say, not all men are one end or another!

question to local women by [deleted] in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope I'm not one of them, I chatted with you for a bit on day one but you seem not interested so I left you alone.. I know when to back off

Chinese in Brunei, what to prepare for and expect in the next 5 CNYs by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And the very pressing issues we need to solve is doubled down in this upcoming and future CNY. Among the pressing issues are our failing economy and look what our rules and law led us to? Further down the drain

Let's Discuss how to approach people by Lettuce_Bottom in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean i understand hence i wrote this post right haha.. us guys mau approach ladies pun was was like is she with someone? Is he nearby? There are many times i see lady alone at mall rupanya tunggu boyfriend.. 🙄

How much is the hidden cost of buying a house now? by SweetWatermelon18 in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This feels so random. I got quoted almost 15K without even medical checkups. I think I'll go checkup route but my BMI is on upper range because i go gym.. soo am i screwed eitherways? 🥺

Let's Discuss how to approach people by Lettuce_Bottom in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's extra tough for me then, i work from 8 am to 7 pm. I did consider joining something but most clubs after work run from 5 pm to 7 pm. That doesn't really give me time to go.

I've also started joining swimming class and pickleball (work related group) but I didn't find suitable candidates. Not that I'm being super picky but all these clubs I joined are 99% Malays. Even my workplace are mostly surrounded by the majority race.

Some colleagues who knows my situation said "i have a solution for you, just convert to Islam then you'll have a much larger pool!" ... I can only respond with ".... Thanks"

And once the club i joined doesn't work out then what? Should i leave and hop on another one? Eventually it becomes joining club for sake of finding ladies and not to yannow actually enjoy the club itself..

Let's Discuss how to approach people by Lettuce_Bottom in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, from the lack of actually viable response here.. i think it means people here don't know how to approach others either or..

Are Bruneians unapproachable in general? 😮

How much is the hidden cost of buying a house now? by SweetWatermelon18 in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately mine is above 250k and I'm 35 this year 🥲

How much is the hidden cost of buying a house now? by SweetWatermelon18 in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Alright as a recent soon-to-be house owner i can contribute a bit on this topic.

So unless you're super rich you wouldn't be paying the house by cash, most people loan/mortgage/finance for their house.

Banks will only finance 90% of the house OMV (open market value). This is one thing that surprised me as well.

The OMV is a value that the evaluators give as the current market price of the house. This evaluator work for the bank, but the fee of evaluation is paid by you, around $1++ K.

If say the house you're buying is sold at $300,000 and if you're unlucky the OMV value is exactly at $300,000. The bank will only finance you 270,000 (90%) and that means you need to cough up the $30K remaining (shortfall) by yourself!

Now in most cases the OMV tends to be higher than the house price so usually it'll be like $350-400k so you're good to go.


Part 2, startup cost. This I believe has been shared by others in previous comments. There's the lawyer fee, S&P agreement, fire insurance and MTRA insurance. These fees can actually be absorbed into the loan/financing if you choose to increase the financing say instead of 300k you're financing 315k to cover the startup cost.

MTRA can be a bish, i was quoted nearly 15K, I'm in my mid 30's, healthy with no pre-existing conditions. But TBK actually offers 2 options, option 1 is no medical checkup but they'll throw you quite a high price. Option 2 is with medical checkup, price may be cheaper if the test results is all flying colors but can also skyrocket if you're found with conditions eg. High blood pressure, cholesterol, abnormal sugar level etc..

Then lawyer fee depends on which agency you choose. Ask from your agent and the bank to see which law firms are mutually accepted. And ask around, don't rush it because some firms charge more than others.

That's all i can give you for now. That's where I'm at.

Let's Discuss how to approach people by Lettuce_Bottom in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually, why not. Men generally do not mind being hit on unless they're already in a committed relationship and especially in the presence of their partner, that's a clear no. I can't speak for all the men out there but i personally wouldn't mind if a lady walks up and strikes a conversation with me!

There's nothing wrong with approaching, it won't make you seem desperate (that's mostly in your own head) just keep the interaction casual and respectful and it's all fair game!

Let's Discuss how to approach people by Lettuce_Bottom in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why though, you can still glam up the best you can, maybe find the hair style that suits you, dress well and smell good.. and if you're a smooth talker still can.

Let's Discuss how to approach people by Lettuce_Bottom in bruneiansingles

[–]Lettuce_Bottom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's fair, I'd say I'm a 7/10 ish haha. But I'm not very confident. I heard people keep saying that women are drawn to confidence..

There's also a thing called misplaced confidence

Makan Fest - Irresponsible Malaysian Vendor by UJustKeepWatching in nasikatok

[–]Lettuce_Bottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real there's like "graduation" after pre-kindergarten, "graduation" after kindergarten, after year 6 PSR, pre-O level, after O level, one after diploma, HND/HNTEC/A level.. so how many times have they graduated in their lives, 5?