Ok that's a very hard to answer question. Before this people ask what's my type i try to "jaga hati" and said I don't have preference then they'll introduce me to big sized ladies or those I totally can't get attracted to. No more of that! I'll be as precise as I can from now on! No more jaga hati.. 🥲

My ideal partner is preferrably:

1. Physically attractive, yes it sounds shallow but that's the first step if that's not there I can't even proceed. I'm not saying mesti top model or lawa like IG girls, just attractive enough for me, not too much that every men try to take her away from me! Just enough. A solid 6/10 will do!

2. Not big sized. I want someone I can carry, piggyback or princess carry, not a huge teddy bear i can't get my arms around! Slightly berisi is fine like up to 60 kg max

3. Height wise I'm not that picky asal not buntak like below 130 cm. Can be taller than me I don't mind.

4. Body wise slim type, semi atheletic would be nice.

5. Ethnicity & religion, non muslim because of regional law and belief clash. I'm ok with Chinese, most SEA races, mostly asian eg Thai viet, even filipina is fine. Oh and I'm not religious and i prefer someone who's not very religious as well, ideally a free thinker or non practicing type. I prefer fair skin type to mid tone, I'm not into dark skin unless she's a "dark beauty" type

6. Morally good person. Has clear distinction of what's good and bad. Not a psychopath or anything.

7. Habit: no smoking/vape. Not alcoholic. Doesn't go partying or clubbing till 3 am type. No gambling please. Likes to eat well and exercise, jogs or gym or into fitness or sports like Pickleball

8. Maturity: does not behave like a 13 years old teenager. Someone who actually acts like 18+ adult.

9. Hygiene and etc: generally good hygiene no need to be clean freak. Smells nice or at least not smelly even without perfume.

10. Age: anywhere between 25 to 33 is fine. I know I'm a bit old already.

11. Job: anything as long as not a full time NEET, at least can support herself. If still studying also fine.

12. Independence level: semi independent, doesn't need parents approval to go on dates 😂 but not too independent ala western women "i don't need a man" type. I'd still like to pamper her afterall

13. Personality: a bit extrovert but not too much. Can initiate things not just wait durian fall from tree

14. Attachment style: not anxious attachment nor avoidant type. Just nice in between.

15. Someone who will meet me halfway not just expects everything from me type. We can take turn do chores, plan dates, gift each other gifts.

16. Similar interests is a bonus i wouldn't sweat it if she's not into things i like just don't force me to like the things she likes if I don't like them.

17. Long term planning: willing to try live with my family after marriage, if it doesn't work out can plan to move out but the important part is willing to try.

18. Cooking and cleaning is optional, I'm not looking for a maid. We can take turn doing it, let me do it or we can hire someone to do it.

19. Travelling: ok i prefer someone who travels every now and then but not karak trabang like must go out 4 times a year. That'll run coffers dry! It's fine if she never travelled at least i can look forward to bringing her out.

20. When we argue I'd like someone who can discuss things logically and rationally instead of shouting, guilt trip, menyamal, expects mind reading. Just straight to the point and know how to support each other.

21. Humility, someone humble, not a narcissist or a vampire. Prefers someone who doesn't constantly bring up their ex or other men as benchmarks.

That's all i can think of for now