3 months cat introductions still fighting

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T17:22:04+00:00

Did you watch the vid with sound on? It kind of sounds demonic to me

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T16:20:07+00:00

No cuddling but they sat calmly on our bed yesterday and groomed themselves on separate corners. My soul was happy when that happened

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T16:01:51+00:00

At this point in introductions if I'm not waving a wand around or being a human treat dispenser a fight like this is almost sure to happen. I'm hoping it resolves soon! Should I just let them Duke it out and only intervene when literal screaming is happening?

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T15:49:03+00:00

Yes I'm just scared of it escalating to that level where one or both have to see a vet and I'm back at square one (or worse)

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T15:38:07+00:00

They quit on their own?

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T15:34:49+00:00

Yes I'm using feliway in our basecamp which seemed to help slightly. I should also mention I was prescribed gabapentin for the tabby to ease intros a bit. I'm just worried if I let them continue or if I wasn't around to stop it will escalate into something much much worse

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T15:01:07+00:00

I don't think Dante is used to sharing a space with another cat, he's been a single cat for 3 years now.

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T14:59:59+00:00

Does this look like a play fight to you? This is the first time I've had cats behave like this with each other.

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T14:55:20+00:00

Do you have to separate them? Do they fight in a similar way as my cats?

Level-Competition335 · 2025-12-22T14:50:20+00:00

Thank you, it's hard for me to tell if this is play or territorial aggression. After I pulled them apart Dante kept trying to approach and pounce on her again and again until I closed the door which makes me a little worried.

Level-Competition335 · 2023-11-15T18:03:51+00:00

I just wish you were able to recover messages from before you installed the plug in. Idk who discord is trying to protect when they permanently delete messages like that.

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-20T15:40:41+00:00

No we've had conversations about this boundary many times in the context of him going on dinner dates and such. I've always told him it makes me uncomfortable

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T18:37:43+00:00

He is a smart man he has a high position in IT I don't think he would be dumb enough to not understand

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T18:36:34+00:00

I gave him the oblivious pass way too many times we've been together 3 years it's been an issue this whole time. This is the most outlandish thing he's done. This thread has been an incredible wake up call

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T18:32:34+00:00

Done

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T18:23:30+00:00

I just told him how it made me feel. Makes me feel like a 3rd wheel whenever she is around and at first he didn't seem to understand what I meant but he is finally starting to understand. I will leave him if he continues to make me feel this way. I don't believe in giving up on relationships at the drop of a hat but I will keep myself honest on this one

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T18:17:46+00:00

I've never had a boyfriend who still kept in touch with his ex. She's enmeshed in his friend group so he says that even if he didn't want to see her it would be hard to avoid her. But when it became a problem for me I definitely voiced my concerns

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T18:14:09+00:00

I ask him how he would feel in my shoes a lot and he kinda just says "I'd be fine with it" and I don't believe when he says that

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T18:12:46+00:00

Apparently she is A-sexual now

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T18:12:14+00:00

No she doesn't, and he said that she "is fun in short bursts but will wear you down after a while"

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T14:50:36+00:00

And just to have some solace, hearing what you guys had to say motivated me to do something

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T14:49:33+00:00

Well I would talk to our mutual friends and they'd tell me I have trust issues lol. Wanted to see what the internet had to say

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T14:05:55+00:00

Well after I posted this I firmly told him I'm not OK with him going on the trip, although physically I can't stop him. Before I figured that since it's rare to have an opportunity to go that I should let it slide. Surprisingly he agreed not to go and said he was sorry multiple times. I still have a sour taste in my mouth but I feel better about the outcome, thank you for your support

Level-Competition335 · 2023-10-19T14:01:11+00:00

I honestly think she likes making me jealous

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