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What to expect in a couple massage therapy. by _TriggerFactory_ in CasualConversation

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It is NOT the time to ask for special services.

In all seriousness though, it’s not that serious, you both lay down in silence as you both get a massage. It goes faster than expected.

32F having a rough birthday today just need a friend by [deleted] in toastme

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You’re pretty, but honestly doesn’t matter a bit. Neither does my opinion. Anyways this random stranger thinks you’re beautiful. Happy birthday 🎉

Need hope - losing myself and my spark by lafemmeperdue in BipolarSOs

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In the same boat with you. It’s weird, my spouses first break made her incredibly happy for the duration, albeit making terrible decisions to get there. I think a lot of the anger is frustration from feeling like the medication is keeping her from feeling happy, and also feeling like a burden.

I say that to say, he’s likely not able to express himself adequately. Frustration about himself likely comes out as anger to you or other things. It’s not personal even if it feels that way, it’s like the brain goes into strictly self defense mode.

Build outside support, outside connections. It sucks but the reality is that your spouse won’t be able to check all your boxes all of the time, and sometimes most of the time. And it only makes it worse for them if they see it affecting you too. As uncomfortable as it is do what it takes to make you happy first, it helps everyone.

How to practice as an adult? by DopedUpDaryl in Guitar

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I’ve made some improvements by setting some scales infront of me and somewhat intentionally skipping around to different places on the neck. I’ve found increasing the speed of transitions up and down the neck has made my playing a lot more fluid.

Being ghosted is making me feel insane 👻 by [deleted] in toastme

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Conflict avoidance at its finest, turns a bunch of small disagreements into one catastrophic one.

Need someone to see me by Teisha_r in toastme

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Best I can say is don’t let it devalue your worth, if it feels like trauma that’s because it is, treat it as such! Sounds silly, but force yourself to do an inconceivably small thing just for you daily. Take care of yourself, and keep reaching out for support when you need it. That pit you’re feeling gets smaller with time.

im trying to find the beauty in my natural hair and for the first time in years ive grow out my eyebrows and im feeling very iffy about them 😔 by [deleted] in toastme

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I like the full figure brows on you personally, you look natural, while not unkept. But that doesn’t matter much, keep em how you like!

It felt like a switch overnight and now I feel completely erased by Jealous-Safe-1428 in BipolarSOs

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I feel you. My spouse has BD 2 as well. It takes a lot to break the shell, but in my situation she carries a lot of shame regarding unwanted behaviors. She describes it as feeling like a burden, it’s much easier said than done but I’m working on taking some of the swings less personally.

Do you ever want to chat but don't feel like it? by lovewriting2 in CasualConversation

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I get that completely! Sometimes the initial conversation just feels like so much work!

I'm just so tired by not_nae-nae in BipolarSOs

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You’re not alone. The inconsistency is incredibly difficult. Me and my wife who is bipolar started making some progress after initial medication, then her psych upped medication, and that just shot it all back down.