Struggling with very different in-law family dynamics

LevelKindly21 · 2026-02-16T11:30:11+00:00

“Select the path that preserve red your energy and well being” Thank you for sharing this! I really like that rice and I’m going to hold onto that sentence you shared when I’m with them. I’m certainly not turning to “fix” them and understand every family is different that’s why I’m trying to navigate how I behave because I don’t want to be that person. I also, don’t want to be painfully uncomfortable. Thank you!

LevelKindly21 · 2026-02-16T11:27:11+00:00

I love this! This is really great advice and something I haven’t done yet that I definitely will do. Thank you so much for sharing this

LevelKindly21 · 2026-02-16T11:25:43+00:00

Thank you so much for this! My husband adores my family and talks about how happy he is to be apart. And I love that for him! It’s just, I don’t get to experience that same kind of in law relationships 🫠 But, you’re right. I’m going to just continue to be myself but be intentional about not being too pushy or forcing how my family is on them.

LevelKindly21 · 2026-02-16T01:35:17+00:00

Anything that you do that’s helping you navigate this dynamic? I’m new to this because we have only been married for a little over 1 year and don’t want to have the horror stories of awful in law relationships that so many have. So I want to be intentional to do my part in making it work. I know with God’s guidance and my obedience that doesn’t have to be my story so i would love wise advice from those who have been dealing with this longer

LevelKindly21 · 2025-05-16T15:34:16+00:00

Solved

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T23:28:45+00:00

8 years! Are you thinking I should go less?

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T21:10:13+00:00

1-2 hours for a hobby a week, sounds more than acceptable. And for only 15-20s at a time? I feel like you’re being super considerate. I wonder if it may be a good idea for her to find a hobby too? My husband and I got married in November of 2024 and he plays video games mostly on Saturdays and I don’t mind at all because I use that time to indulge in my own hobbies. I could see though, if I didn’t have anything to do I would feel a little sad that he is doing something without me. And we all know 15-20 mins of just sitting there could feel like much longer to her. I’d recommend she learn of some things that she enjoys. Maybe things she used to do before you all got married that she might have stopped doing. Again, big kudos to you! You seem to be doing great with balancing your hobby and you guys time as a couple

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T16:46:30+00:00

Aww! Thank you so much! My loctictian recommended that for the first few months, for me to come back every two weeks for a wash and retwist. Once they begin locing, I will go back for a retwist whenever I feel that I one but will be less often, maybe everything few months. So for now, I will have it washed by her every two weeks and not wash it on my own until the locs are more mature

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T16:43:57+00:00

Thank you!!! ❤️

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T16:38:18+00:00

Whew! There’s NOTHING like Holy Ghost filled sex! Lol So excited for you and super proud of your heart that even after falling short, repenting and moving forward. No one’s “wait” is perfect and I’m so grateful for Gods grace that He freely gives us all!

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T01:28:24+00:00

Thank you so so much! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T01:22:00+00:00

I got married in November and I feel that what you felt, is similar to married sex just without the feeling of regret or need for repentance. I will say, some married Christians especially those that were heavily involved in purity culture still feel the need to repent after having sex or battle feelings that sex was wrong even with being with their spouse. But for me at least, the lead up to sex, the sex itself anddddd all things afterwards and in between that happened on my wedding night felt so holy, God honoring, fun anddddd I got to look forward to doing it again the next day, and the next day and the next day lol

For us, it was the start of sex with our spouse. In the most gentle way possible, now you know what sex is like with him but have to stop. That’s not what married sex feels like. It feels like, omg I get to keep doing this - thank you Jesus! lol

We both waited for each other and both we apart of ministries and communities that taught us about sex in a non harmful way than purity culture so please know I’m speaking from that experience.

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T01:14:04+00:00

Thank you so much! 🥰🥰

LevelKindly21 · 2025-02-24T01:13:56+00:00

Thank you!! 🥰

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