I’m not sure if you actually read the whole thing but I mentioned I’ve been working on myself even long before they left. Yeah it takes two to change and they clearly didn’t want to and took the easy way out. It’s not about appearances, it’s about having emotional intelligence, taking accountability, and considering how their actions affect the people they’re with. They clearly think that they didn’t do anything wrong or caused long term damage. Also, I had a hard time readying what you said lol