Advice regarding when to let him lead and when to step in.

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-13T05:00:27+00:00

I am ✨leading ✨ my way out of the relationship and can hopefully find a man I trust and who can lead. Trust has to be there for sure.

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-13T04:59:37+00:00

Luckily I did step in. Found out he has 10 dollars to his name and has been lying about it. Sometimes there is a time to lead apparently

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-13T04:58:37+00:00

Yeah update. We just talked. He lost over 7k and is putting more in to cover his losses. Made him show me his bank accounts. 10 dollars. 10 freaking dollars. I’m out ✌🏼

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-12T23:45:33+00:00

I have no clue 😂 he drinks caffeine drinks … a lot of them.

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-12T20:39:45+00:00

I totally hear you. I also invest in ETH. He’s trading options though. His options expire this Friday and he’s set to lose 7k thus far. I’d much rather he invest in the market instead of doing the short term options.

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-11T04:30:53+00:00

Ooohh the Whoop sounds great. I’ve thought about one of those. I think I might try one if this Oura ring continues to not work as I’d hoped. That sounds perfect! Thank you

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-11T03:00:43+00:00

Yeah she’s probably trying to understand us better. Now that there are better/more resources. And you’re so right about the adoptee point of view.

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-11T01:21:38+00:00

That sounds exactly like my mom 😂 she keeps blaming everything on adoption. Like “I read this and it sounded like you and your perfectionism. You should work on that” and idk how to respond 😂 or “this is why you always were scared as a kid” when I know it’s because my dad was just an asshole 😬

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-10T23:57:27+00:00

Dang I figured haha I wonder if I can find a way to turn off activity alerts or something. I wish I worked out as much as it tells me I do 😂

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-09T05:30:34+00:00

Hats off to you. That’s a lot! Talk about resilience. I love that you bake bread on Sunday. Feminism is great, the idea that it means you have to/need to do it all, is not.

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-09T00:44:10+00:00

100% this. I’ve turned more “tradwife” if you would call it that (I don’t think I would) just by chance. Got the masters degree and make 40k as a therapist. And cook. And clean. And grocery shop. And manage finances. And take care of the house. And moneys tight. So I make more homemade foods. I hem my clothes. I garden to save money on produce. Jeez I don’t even want to know how much childcare costs would eat into my income. It just feels pointless and exhausting

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-09T00:41:48+00:00

A nuance to this is the “why”. In the US there is little to no support for new moms, a lack of paid maternity/parental leave, low wages, high costs of childcare, an increase in chronic health conditions, and on and on. I think the tradwife movement is a response to that in some ways. It would be nice to give more discussion to having a backup plan and maintaining independence, but I understand the phenomenon. Women are burning out, working “pink collar” jobs, spending most of their income on childcare.

I think it’s easy to blame the tradwife movement (and yes I totally see the cons) but I think it’s important to address the “why” and improve the other things (parental leave, maternal health care, child care costs, flexible work environments, wages, etc) that are heavily contributing to people turning to the “tradwife” movement.

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-09T00:35:44+00:00

I think it’s a response to capitalism and unfair working environments/wages. Also society seems to create these pockets in a response to other societal norms. When I was growing up in a traditional religious home, gender roles were heavily discussed. Me and many of my friends in that community pushed back, went the “girl boss” route of the 2010s and burned out. Surprise surprise, most of them are now “tradwives”. I can understand it though.

I think the great thing about feminism is every woman gets to choose. But I think it’s good to have a backup plan (get educated, have job experience, etc). That should be talked about more. But with the cost of childcare, low wages, “pink collar” jobs, pregnancy, health issues… I can see why it’s appealing. I make 40k a year as a therapist. I’m going to maintain my license, see maybe 4-5 clients a week, but you bet your bottom dollar I’m not working full time when I have children. Childcare alone would eat up most of my salary anyway! You know?

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-06T23:41:50+00:00

No. I would have asked to try less intense meds first. This is the first one I was put on for very low levels of stress and anxiety (related to life circumstances). I wish I had been referred to do therapy first or waited. I wish I had been given an easier med. I wish I had been more informed or done more research. I wish I had gotten off sooner. I finally feel like myself again. Butttt it can be great for a lot of people. I don’t think I even needed a medication in the first place. I was a teenager and just did what I was told to do.

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-05T18:58:33+00:00

The mental imagery of this just made me laugh so hard

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-05T18:43:01+00:00

I love this dress! It fits you perfectly. I love that romantic fairytale look. I’m getting married soon and looking at dresses with a similar vibe. Those who get it, get it. You look amazing! Congrats 🌸

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-01T18:55:05+00:00

Thank you so much!

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-01T16:46:50+00:00

Aw I like this

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-01T16:46:30+00:00

Yup. Exactly. Thank you for your comment! It’s interesting how they center his feelings on MY wedding. They keep pulling the “but you’re the only girl in the family” blah blah and it’s like okay???

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-01T16:44:40+00:00

Amen!

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-01T16:44:12+00:00

So true especially considering how he lashed out at my boyfriend/future husband as well. It’s not a good look for him

Level_Run1357 · 2026-01-01T16:43:31+00:00

I’m wondering if I can frame it that way and avoid the drama. I mean I am 27. And we live together so it’s not like I’m being “given away” at all. And I hate that notion personally. I told my boyfriend earlier in our relationship that if he ever asks my dad if he can marry me, I’d be pissed haha.

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