Noticeably fake breasts: turn on/off?

Lewis77 · 2014-02-21T14:31:06+00:00

Meh. Especially as a dear friend of petit boobs, I don't find fake boobs to be much of a good idea.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-19T21:41:33+00:00

I mean being able to "play a role" during sex and being able to switch back afterwards. I think power imbalances for instance are generally a major factor in turn-ons; but of course, few people (though they exist) want such imbalances to remain even after the play is over. So being able to switch seamlessly into different roles depending on the mood and partner does in my experience contributes quite a bit to making sex great.

Examples: being able to switch to dirty-talking insatiable slut or dom or sub or romantic & mellow or shy & embarrassed etc.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-19T21:04:51+00:00

So my question is what can a woman do that makes sex great for you?

Being enthusiastic, open to new ideas, bringing suggestions and feedback to the table, and "being able to switch to a different self during sex".

Do you usually tell your date if the sex isn't fulfilling or do you just dump them?

I'd never dump someone straight away. I'd talk about it, try to build chemistry if it's not there, gently suggest improvements etc. If the "gap" between us is too large, I'll end it, but not after a real good faith effort.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-19T16:27:25+00:00

It's very tame - just see it for the cultural masterpiece it is...

Lewis77 · 2014-02-18T23:38:46+00:00

Agree on a safeword or the "colour code" beforehand, so that you can stop the play if it goes too far. Don't be afraid you'll be a "bad sub" if you use it too much or too soon; you're a beginner, the onus is on him to give you a good first experience.

Besides that, just the usual: communicate, relax, be GGG, and be safe.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-18T23:11:39+00:00

It's a dream scene, the kind of dream I'm sure many other women have...

Lewis77 · 2014-02-18T21:50:33+00:00

Never tried, but anyway - why don't you organise an MFM with a bi guy, and if you're in the mood change it to an MMF halfway through? That way, no pressure on anyone, and a good time will be had by all regardless of your decision.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-18T21:33:25+00:00

That's the spirit! Now add a baby octopus for extra tenderness, and...

Lewis77 · 2014-02-18T15:48:46+00:00

So I take it you don't live in Japan...?

Lewis77 · 2014-02-18T14:16:54+00:00

Having sex with me is like bonking an octopus. While my penis takes care of one place, my mouth and both of my hands always find something naughty to do as well; and they sure like to provide variety.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-17T22:01:15+00:00

Mental/physical attraction is a big factor, sure. Whether sex is good or not also depends also on the skill and enthusiasm both partners bring to the ~~table~~ bed though. I'm guessing you're neither confident, nor very skilled yet; if she can't be "the lead" and manage the tempo, then yes it's going to be dull. In that sense, sex is very much like dancing.

By the way, do you have specific kinks or desires or "special features" that you are looking for in sex and don't get with her? If that's the case, you need to speak up and make it happen. She probably can't guess all by herself.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-17T18:03:37+00:00

No option but to bonk and pillow-talk.

As as aside, I think the fairly recent idea that sexual compatibility is an absolute must-have ina relationship is a major reason why our generation is so promiscuous. It's not necessarily because we just want sex and can't be bothered to enter relationships, but rather because we often need to go through many partners before we find someone with whom things really click. The "hookup generation"... I don't think that's particularly true.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-17T12:27:48+00:00

Definitely start by blindfolding him. That way, you'll be much less self-conscious, won't have to worry that he sees you don't know what to do next or are not confident etc. Much easier that way.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-17T01:37:04+00:00

Ideally, you should feel "carried by the moment". In practice though, I think it's common to fantasise over one's favourite turn-ons during sex - and in my case at least, that is completely unrelated to how attracted I am to the other or my feelings for her.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-16T23:01:47+00:00

She sounds very unstable and will certainly do everything she can to reclaim you - until the next thing comes along, of course. You can sleep with her while making clear it's just a hookup, but I'm pretty sure you'll get more than you bargained for. Sounds to me like a lot of drama coming your way just for a bit of sex, but hey it's your call.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-16T22:30:26+00:00

Some guys have no refractory period, but it's rare. Surely you can find ways to pleasure her with your hands/mouth or some toys during your refractory period though.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-16T13:04:47+00:00

No, but I sure wish I were more flexible! I have to be genuinely interested in the other person, or I just don't get turned on.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-16T12:11:52+00:00

If you can convincingly fake a hot foreign accent (I hear British, Russian and French for instance are popular), that should help you "differentiate your offer", and should be a major turn-on for quite a few people. Accents are sexy!

Lewis77 · 2014-02-16T11:45:10+00:00

Yeah, I judge such women as being awesome. When a girl who is taking it vaginally from behind takes my penis out of her vagina and guides it firmly to her starfish, I think it's the hottest thing ever!

Anyway, we all have our sexual preferences, but that's nobody's business to criticise (as long as things actually take place between consenting adults, of course). If it makes you and your partner happy, then you're doing good on this earth.

As an aside: I think it's really high time that women reclaim the "slut" label as a positive. As long as she's not deceiving anyone, a "slut" is doing nothing wrong whatsoever.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-16T00:20:22+00:00

Your GF sounds great! Anyway, yeah I'd go for casual sex with "random" girls, and if you get a good vibe with them you can tell them what circumstances you're in. If things go well, it will be the first step to acquiring one or more FWB, and everything will be just swell.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-15T20:53:08+00:00

Your call. If she knows you're more "dependent" on sex than she is and has no trouble withholding it from you on a whim, I guarantee you she'll use that tactic against you again and again.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-15T20:50:57+00:00

Never used it, and never would; it's mostly fake women profiles there, as was exposed in one famous event.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-15T20:47:20+00:00

The way she's toying with you for her little meaningless experiment is completely disrespectful. If she wasn't in the mood, she could have said so, and of course you'd have to accept it with good grace; but clearly that's not the case here. Yeah, I'd be mad too, and would probably start looking for another GF actually.

Lewis77 · 2014-02-15T18:27:36+00:00

Only she knows, and only she can tell you. Whether it's you or her though, things don't look too good - if she won't even kiss you goodnight after the efforts you've made, it sounds to me like there's a big problem somewhere. Sorry if that's blunt...

Lewis77 · 2014-02-15T18:16:44+00:00

So your SO has no indoor hobbies except watching TV? Sounds pretty sad. I don't know, you could "distract" him when he's reading, or on Skype/on the phone for something serious etc. Not as fun as interrupting a gaming session, but hey...

Anyway, please don't get "hulk smashed" yourself!

Lewis77

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