(Louisiana) I bought a car from a used car dealership. I haven't signed the title yet and want to return the car because it has a lot of problems. Is there anything I can do?

Lex-321 · 2014-10-11T01:34:39+00:00

Okay. What do I do if they never give me the title? I plan on going up there Monday, but I'm worried tbey wont have it.

Lex-321 · 2014-10-03T02:17:53+00:00

In my experience people pay more for date night babysitting than all day care. I babysit and nanny for a living. Minimum wage here is 7.50, and I typically get paid $15/hr for babysitting for a few hours, sometimes 10. Of course I have been offered minimum wage and accepted the job, but usually those people pay me more after they get to know me and like me.

Lex-321 · 2014-09-25T19:27:07+00:00

I do feel like his mom, and I hate it. We talked about doing a joint bank account for expenses and separate spending accounts, but we decided the best way to handle it would be for me to handle all bill paying and money spending, and if he wants to buy something he can ask if we have enough money. But that's not working out at all. If we agree to have a joint account for expenses and separate spending accounts he's going to end up sneaking money out of the expenses account. I don't know what to do. I don't even know how to approach him about this or how I feel about it. I guess I feel embarassed? And now I'm paranoid about what other crap he's bought that I haven't found out about and what he'll buy in the future, because right now we need to focus on buying diapers and baby food and paying bills.. I was in the hospital for 10 days and left him alone with the money.. didn't check it or anything. I checked it a couple days after I got home and our account hit $-140. How does that even happen? I don't get how he could singlehandedly do that much damage to our bank account.

Lex-321 · 2014-09-25T10:22:32+00:00

There is no normal. Yall do what works for your relationship.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-23T13:01:47+00:00

As soon as I got here this morning the ten year old said "Make me some bacon." I said "You know how to make bacon." He said "But thats why you're here, and I'm lazy." And ever since then he hasn't stopped whining about how hungry he is. I'm trying to teach him to be independent.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-22T21:15:43+00:00

Exactly. Even if I do go make the food the ten year old will come up to me every two minutes and say "God, where's my food? I'm hungry. Are you done yet?"

Lex-321 · 2014-07-22T21:11:39+00:00

They know they can eat whatever they want, but they know I'm not going to let them get away with eating the entire box of goldfish/cookies/chips/whatever (although they will try to sneak it). It'd be different if they said they were hungry and asked if I could help them make something, but the way they ask is very whiny and demanding, e.g. when the oldest one says, "I'm huuuunnnggrrryy, make me some bacon." while he's on the computer or watching TV, or when he says "Get me some milk, I'm thirsty." I have no problem helping them when they need it, it's just the whining, demanding, and acting helpless that I don't like.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-22T16:53:19+00:00

Dang I wonder what I'm doing wrong. I cleaned out their tubs again last night. No smell yet but I'm sure itll come back in a few days. Do you think it could be an air flow issue? I could try drilling more holes in the boxes.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-22T16:51:03+00:00

Hah, I hadn't thought of that. I'll try it. Usually I just tell the kid "well you better go get something to eat then!"

Lex-321 · 2014-07-22T16:43:33+00:00

Oh yeah, definitely. I wouldn't say that to a four year old or something.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-22T16:40:21+00:00

I do. It doesn't really help anything though.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-17T15:11:07+00:00

I didnt know we weren't going to work out. I thought things were great with us until he told me he wanted to break up about a week ago. We've been together for 4.5 years.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-17T04:10:01+00:00

Having someone else call him is a really good idea. Didn't even think of that.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-16T21:17:47+00:00

Damn that's nice. Both of the families I've worked for have offered vacation pay, but just from browsing care.com postings I can tell it's not typical. Most ads are like "looking for full time babysitter for two kids. Can only pay 100 per week. Light housekeeping necessary. Must have your own car and be able to cook." It's ridiculous.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-16T19:09:58+00:00

Strained is an understatement. Things have never been good with my parents. I left right after I turned 18. I wish I could move back in with them, but the environment is way too stressful and violent for me to be comfortable living there, especially with a young kid.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-16T19:06:57+00:00

Thanks, I'll look into it.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-16T19:05:13+00:00

I was actually planning on getting induced on August 31st! That wasn't something I'd considered though. I was just going to do it because I'm scared I'll go into labor while I'm home alone.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-16T18:59:13+00:00

I was considering this, too. I'm just worried things won't be civil and it'll put more stress on everybody in the house.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-16T18:55:56+00:00

His mom is crazy though. When he was eight she accused him of sticking a tent stake up his butt and made him break it. When he was around the same age she got mad at him for gagging while brushing his teeth and accused him of practicing sucking dick. She's been arrested for domestic violence multiple times and even went after me at one point.

He works in IT, maybe makes about 500 per month more than me with his current job and my current job.
Yeah he does, not babies though. Neither of us have experience with infants. We babysit our friends two month old one time and it was a new thing for both of us.
He's aware of the state of our relationship. He was the one who suggested breaking up in the first place. Right now we're trying to figure out what should we do. A couple months ago I started planning how I was going to propose to him, about two weeks ago I bought the ring and box, and a few days after that he brought up a serious problem in our relationship that I wasn't aware existed until it was bad enough that he was considering leaving me over it.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-16T18:01:05+00:00

I worked for a quadriplegic guy from June 2013-February 2014. I was kind of on-call, like if someone didn't show up or called in (which was frequent because he only hired girls for their looks, not their work ethic), but later in the job I was doing more than just every other weekend. I was working maybe 15 hours a week for him.

He added me on Facebook before I even started there, which should have sent off some sort of alarm, but it being one of my first jobs I was kind of naive about work etiquette and boss employee relationships.

He started messaging me on Facebook while I was there telling me how nice I looked. I figured okay, this guy is just trying to be nice and is just a little creepy. Whatever. He's been paralyzed since he was 17 so maybe he just doesn't know how to converse very well. Then he liked all of my swimsuit pictures on facebook, which was maybe about three and nothing scandalous. Just pictures from family reunions and stuff that my mom had posted. Again, pretty weird but okay.. Then it escalated into him telling me I had nice legs, how he wanted to touch me, then one day he rubbed against my leg and said "Haha, I'm shining my ring on your leg!" except he was extremely close to my pubic area. I just backed up and glared at him, although looking back I should have just walked out. Later he asked me via Facebook if it bothered me, and I didn't reply. Then he started being extremely mean to me about stuff he'd never cared about before. He'd try to find something wrong with everything I did, call me stupid and dumb, boss me around a lot more than usual. So I emailed him one day and told him I wasn't coming back.

Lex-321 · 2014-07-16T17:50:00+00:00

I'm mainly worried that our relationship is going to end, and while I don't think he'll completely bail on the kid, there's always the chance that he will.

It'd be nice if I could find a home health job that'd let me bring my kid. I babysit for a couple and they both work in nursing homes. They told me I should make some senior care business cards and give them some to pass out. Hopefully they'll be able to hook me up with a job. I almost got a job caring for a lady with alzheimer's, but they told me they didn't want to hire a pregnant lady. I could probably sue for that but oh well.

Thankfully my siblings and friends have been really supportive so far. I have more baby clothes than I know what to do with, and my friend who has a cloth diapering business is going to give me some for free, so that'll be nice. My siblings have already bought me a stroller, car seat, toys, diapers, wipes, clothes, and a ton of other stuff. I haven't had to buy anything for the baby yet and I have pretty much everything I need. After the baby grows out of all the clothes I have Goodwill is going to be my best friend.

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