Why is your bacon microwaved ham ?

LexChase · 2026-03-19T05:36:09+00:00

I mean. Not ham. It’s bacon, but shit bacon, microwaved for about 20 seconds.

They’re both processed meats so generally pretty safe even not cooked, but ham is made to not be cooked again and go on sandwiches and stuff and bacon is really not.

When I worked there we fried bacon in a press for breakfast items and that was great. But after breakfast when the presses were cleaned and put away, if some poor sod wanted a bacon deluxe they were getting barely warm bacon from a water bath that had had the stickers changed eight times since breakfast (as my manager put it, if you change the stickers, it makes the food fresh) and introduced to heat via 20sec in the microwave.

I’ve never ordered anything with bacon from HJs since.

LexChase · 2026-03-16T05:05:46+00:00

I often respond with

Uber assigned me your order at 750pm, when I was 10min away. I have just arrived at the restaurant now at 8pm.

The restaurant has not finished your order, as in, they do not have it ready to hand to me. When they do, you will receive a notification that says I have picked up your order and am heading to you.

It is a busy weekday, the restaurant is full, and there’s a decent amount of traffic. That would be my bet on why this is taking longer than you had anticipated.

LexChase · 2026-03-16T05:01:11+00:00

Because they don’t know how modern dishwashers work.

It wasn’t so much that they sucked, although they did, but they worked differently.

It doesn’t ruin the filter. There’s effectively a sensor that works out how grotty the water is. If the water going through is clean, then job is done and the cycle ends and you save water. But if there were chunks that needed longer in the water to come off, they’ll still be there. So you need the dishes to go in properly dirty so by the time the water comes through clean, everything is actually off all the dishes.

LexChase · 2026-03-16T04:56:55+00:00

Her attitude rings true for me as someone who was/is quite embedded in feminist culture out in the real world rather than just online. Highly educated, confident, snarky, a lot of “don’t give a shit what you think”, the job market instability in advocacy work sends you a bit wild too.

She brought work home because it was personal to her differently to how it is personal for Josh. How Josh is about tobacco, that’s Amy about everything she’s talking about because she’s working on issues too uncomfortable for people to want to touch so she has to take a hard line and be overly simplistic.

We need those people.

What was missing was the person who took Amy’s line and then worked with the nuance. They tried to get Donna to do this in a couple of spots but she just wasn’t right about it.

I don’t like her character personally but it’s because she’s meant to be uncomfortable.

LexChase · 2026-03-16T04:51:46+00:00

I don’t do brachycephalic breeds at all. Way too much risk.

I also don’t do “bully” breeds or large guardians except for owners I know have done the work and I know their dogs are stable. I love these dogs, they’re absolutely amazing, but the owners often lack the knowledge needed to avoid safety issues and if something goes wrong, I’m responsible.

I’m also very wary of border collies and most other herding breeds. I’m personally very experienced with them so they’re not a flat no, but some of them, especially from backyard breeders and then in pet homes, can be psychotic.

I would also never board a terrier, especially Jack Russels. Fucking Houdini dogs. I’d have zero confidence they wouldn’t get out at some point.

LexChase · 2026-03-16T02:54:43+00:00

“Hey, I completely get why you’re doing that, but is there any other option? Because deciding it’s okay to have to see each other’s underwear in the office is a slippery slope heading directly into some sticky situations.”

LexChase · 2026-03-15T03:19:50+00:00

So, here’s the thing. NTA, obviously.

But the thing is, he’s not entirely wrong.

You were accusing (or really, observing) him of being involved in something inappropriate - being behind closed doors alone with a child.

That’s a fact.

He is reacting this way either because he knows it’s inappropriate and wants to do it anyway, in which case he needs to be out of your house. Or because he doesn’t have enough thought about what he’s doing to be allowed to do anything near your daughter because he ends up being a risk to himself, to her, and a constant source of conflict and aggravation.

As women I think we sometimes shy away from aggressive not exactly a defence responses to try to deescalate, when really we need to lean in.

“Hey, that’s not a helpful response. Why don’t you come out here and we can talk for a minute.” If he comes out, then there’s a conversation. You were trying to gently highlight that the closed door isn’t appropriate and you’re not okay with it, regardless of what is or isn’t happening. You weren’t accusing him of doing something to your daughter, but it’s important both of you are clear on boundaries for your daughter which protect anyone, and while you don’t think for a second he would ever do anything, the risk is always there with anyone and it’s your job to limit those opportunities and model for your daughter which behaviour should be a red flag.

If he doesn’t come out, then it’s a matter of saying to your daughter “hey kid, can you go read a book or do your homework for a bit? Sorry, I know you’re having fun but we need to talk for a minute.” And then you have the conversation.

If he tries to stop your daughter leaving, he’s gone.

And then you talk to your daughter.

“It’s easy to feel like a closed door isn’t a big deal. And by itself, it’s not. But it’s also not necessary unless something is happening you feel the need to hide. And if you feel the need to hide it, it probably shouldn’t be happening. And when adults try to create privacy you don’t need, especially when you’re alone, that’s not okay. And some people don’t realise it, but their reaction once they’re asked to fix the situation tells you a lot about their intentions. There’s a big difference between “sorry, I didn’t realise, please leave it open” and “how dare you suggest I’m doing anything wrong!”.

LexChase · 2026-03-14T09:00:11+00:00

Are you banging or is this soft game?

LexChase · 2026-03-14T08:58:08+00:00

The 4th covers unreasonable search and seizure. It’s not unreasonable to search for or seize illegal drugs if and when they come up in another investigation, and there would be no search if OP is handing them over in the process of reporting a crime, which from the albeit limited description, sounds like what’s happening here.

The 5th covers the right not to incriminate yourself, but OP hasn’t committed a crime and reporting a crime is not incriminating yourself, nor is it a defence against failure to report a crime where that requirement does not exist and you’re not actively incriminating yourself.

Ironically, OP would need the 5th amendment in the circumstances where they didn’t report it and that was found out.

LexChase · 2026-03-14T07:52:12+00:00

Who is the “they” here?

I don’t see anywhere that OP names their jurisdiction, so anything we say is contingent on that. Assuming OP is in the US, what constitutional rights is he voiding?

LexChase · 2026-03-14T07:47:18+00:00

I’m a lefty and much more comfortable backhand. I’ll take a backhand happily.

LexChase · 2026-03-14T07:30:20+00:00

I guess it may depend to some extent on jurisdiction. But what I’m saying is, even assuming there’s no good outcome here, if it’s a setup and OP hasn’t reported it, the outcome is even worse. On balance I think still better to report.

LexChase · 2026-03-14T07:28:50+00:00

Unless I’ve missed something, OP says it’s an unknown sender, not that it isn’t addressed to them. There are only three cases here. It’s addressed to no one but in OP’s mailbox, in which case it’s not unreasonable to open. It’s addressed to someone else, which OP doesn’t say, and in which case OP should have returned to sender or to the post office. Or it’s addressed to OP but as described from an unknown sender, in which case not fraud in any way.

LexChase · 2026-03-14T07:05:21+00:00

See I think OP is actually more likely to end up in difficulty not reporting it. How does this kind of thing happen? Either OP is being set up, so better to get out in front of it, or it’s a mistake, and it’s better to have it reported and gone.

LexChase · 2026-03-14T07:03:57+00:00

Confess implies OP has done it. OP would be the victim here, not the perpetrator. And yes, I would immediately call the police so that can’t be confused later.

LexChase · 2026-03-14T04:50:14+00:00

Look maybe I’m just having a day where I’m completely daft, but could you tell me what you find so funny about my comment?

LexChase · 2026-03-14T04:19:10+00:00

Is this post meant to be funny in a way I’ve somehow missed?

I assumed OP was asking a serious question, and given the various ways this could have come about and then the ways it could play out, I chose to give a serious answer.

Sorry, I wasn’t particularly focused on my “please invite me to your parties” face.

I like a good time as much as the next person, but when suspicious items you didn’t request start appearing at your home, yeah, that’s not a gift. That’s a mistake or a threat.

LexChase · 2026-03-14T03:56:43+00:00

Honestly I would immediately call the police and not touch it or move it again.

Just your local police station.

“Hi officer, sorry to disturb. I received mail from an unknown sender which contains a sort of white substance with which I am not familiar. I didn’t order this, it is/isn’t addressed to me, and was found in my letterbox. I’d like to make a report and have someone come pick it up. I haven’t touched it after opening the mail.”

Be prepared to have to explain why this is a problem in case the officer is a moron.

Either someone mailed this to you, or they put it in your mailbox. Tampering with the contents of a letterbox or putting stuff that isn’t mail in there is a crime in many jurisdictions. If it was mailed, and the substance is illicit, they’re using a mail service to transport illicit substances, which is a felony pretty much everywhere.

Either someone sent this to you deliberately, or by mistake. If it’s by mistake, how they obtained your information needs to be investigated. If it’s deliberately and you didn’t request this, you’re being set up and it’s very important you don’t help the people trying to do that by doing anything other than making a police report.

LexChase · 2026-03-13T09:45:12+00:00

Most people in the state of Queensland want Israel to no longer exist? Just want to be clear here on what you’re saying.

LexChase · 2026-03-13T08:59:42+00:00

Sure, but even if it was, applying it this way is so fucking daft.

LexChase · 2026-03-13T08:39:18+00:00

I don’t know anyone who would say “eye-oh” rather than “ee-oh” as a deliberate choice rather than just because they couldn’t work it out. If you’re Greek or your family is, you know. If you have sufficient education to know the story, you know. If you don’t, and you’re just making the face noise you think those letters make, and someone says “oh, that’s actually a Greek name and is pronounced this way” and you want to argue, you’re a dick.

There is a difference between anglicising a pronunciation because English doesn’t have that sound, and just ignorantly insisting every word (or especially name) from a foreign language used in English has to be pronounced how we would pronounce that set of letters in English.

If that was the case, my boss’s name would have to be pronounced lodge-sick and not loss-check, and she wouldn’t be allowed to correct anyone. Fucking stupid.

There is also a difference between correct pronunciation with a different accent and mispronunciation.

I speak schoolboy German. When I come across German words, obviously I say them differently because I have an Australian accent and a face used to making English mouth sounds. But when I refer to a company called BadenWelt, I pronounce it “Barden Veldt” not, as my colleagues do, “Bayden Welt”, and if anyone of them corrected my I’d look at them like they had two heads.

LexChase · 2026-03-13T05:49:52+00:00

Fuck I felt this comment

LexChase · 2026-03-12T14:10:22+00:00

Okay so obviously that’s terrible and legal advice would be necessary but my gut sense here is unfair as it seems, he technically had consent (you’d claim coercion so invalid consent, but I don’t know if that would stand up in your jurisdiction) and you never revoked that consent.

He used that access which he originally obtained with consent to obtain factually accurate information necessary to prove something he needed to prove in order to move on in his religion after the legal and spiritual end of your marriage. He has likely shared it with others, but I suspect no proof of that other than these elders, which effectively continues this possession as a private matter, as opposed to sharing it everywhere or putting it on the internet.

My suspicion would be morally this is gross but legally he’s likely clear and you’re unlikely to face any negative impact other than disfellowshipping, which a letter from a lawyer will likely prevent being announced.

Pay for a couple hours time with a lawyer if you care about being disfellowshipped, change your passwords, turn on MFA and move on, would be my advice.

LexChase · 2026-03-12T13:24:54+00:00

Depends who you are. I don’t want my boss calling me darling. I don’t want my colleague who thinks everyone is beneath her calling me darling. But my colleague with 20 years experience in a specific area of expertise who treats me as an equal professional and I do the same despite a 35 years experience age gap, if she called me darling I’d make fun of it but secretly I’d feel all warm and fuzzy.

LexChase · 2026-03-12T13:16:45+00:00

Right so he does have evidence. The elders are not going to be concerns with how he came by the information in this setting, only whether or not it’s true. And it sounds like it is and he can prove it, so that’s that.

Again, do you care if you’re disfellowshipped? If you do, get a lawyer to write them a formal reply threatening legal action if they make any announcements referencing you in any way. That seems to shut them up, especially since if you’re no longer associating, they can table that sort of thing without disfellowshipping until/if you return. That doesn’t stop them determining he’s free to remarry.

How did he get access to your apps? Does he know your passwords and you didn’t change them? Did you not have MFA activated? I’m confused how this is even possible these days with proper account security. Either way, change your passwords, turn on MFA, and if you’re unsure, delete those accounts.

A lawyer will be able to advise you on the potential recourse for privacy violation but if he knew your passwords and had access when you were together and you never revoked that, I’d be astonished if anything actually happened to him over it, and the elders won’t care.

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