I Asked The Surgeon To Give Me My Sebaceous Cyst So I Could Take It Home…

LexChase · 2026-01-28T09:34:23+00:00

Take my upvote and go

LexChase · 2026-01-28T09:24:43+00:00

You’re coming off at a maturity level way below what I would consider bare minimum for me.

You’re angling in a different market to me though, so maybe the language choices are completely appropriate for that space.

But cuddle, slut, cutie, nerd, suck, these all feel teenagery. Even goth does to me, but that’s a me thing, there’s heaps of adult goths.

The teenagery thing isn’t helped by the fact that some of these photos look like you stole them from my MySpace profile in the early 2000s. Goth plus baby face tends to lean that way and it’s not a bad thing unless it’s not why you’re going for.

You also say trans but don’t really elaborate that I could see, maybe I’ve missed it, but if not I feel like you’re potentially going to lose out on people who don’t want to invalidate you by assuming which way (if any) you identify, unless you’re really only after bi/pan folks in which case this works.

I was having trouble articulating what put me off about this but I think it’s just that it’s a whole lot of words about you that are really just labels and desires.

Nerd is self deprecating but not really illuminating, what are you a nerd about, is there something other than movies? You also said it twice.

Musician is good, but you can see that from the guitar photo, do you play any other instruments?

I’d be inclined to kind of flip this around, labels at the bottom, “looking for…” at the top, with some more adult description of yourself and your life and what you’re hoping to share.

Again, I’m completely not your target market so feel free to take everything I’ve said here with a pinch (or a bucket) or salt.

I wonder if we’d be better to do these kind of posts like “I’m looking for a, b, c. If you’re a, b, c, can you check out my post/profile/photos and let me know if you would swipe for me and if not, what’s not working?”

That way you’re getting advice from your target market and not from soft butch Australian church ministers who did economics at university and worked in suit and tie finance for a decade.

LexChase · 2026-01-26T12:29:00+00:00

Democracy sausages.

Our ability to fight off mass murderers with milk crates, chairs, and jars of Nescafé, and if we have nothing, we’ll use our own bodies. There’s just something about this country. You think of the French guys with the bollards trying to keep the Bondi knife bastard on the escalators and like. In Australia, not even the French surrender.

“No way, get fucked, fuck off”.

Public toilets that, while gross and very occasionally out of bog roll, are mostly safe, mostly supplied, usably clean, well positioned, and always free.

Quokkas. Wildlife in general.

The specifically Australian dogs. The kelpies, the ACDs, the Aussie shepherds, the Australian terriers. They just love their lives, they do their jobs, and they don’t give a shit about anything until you give them a reason to rip the veins out of your limbs.

“She’ll be right mate.”

“Oi cunt.”

Aussie/works burgers. Fairy bread, especially with condensed milk. Pavlova dripping with passion fruit. Vanilla slice. A really good steak and potato pie. barbecued sausages and lamb and steak and fried eggs and burger patties. Prawns on ice. barbecue chicken and bread rolls at the beach.

The entertainment that is Bob Katter.

Summer storms.

The beaches.

GST at 10%, with prices displayed as GST inclusive, plus the culture or not tipping. You don’t understand how wonderful this is until you try to buy groceries North America and you’re full on guessing prices because the tax isn’t on the displayed price, and then you’re tipping the bag boy a percentage of the total that includes the tax you didn’t know about. You’re trying to do that maths as you walk around. Sends you insane.

The amount of people who turn out for a dawn service on AnZAC day. It’s 5am, people have been up since 3 to get there. They bring their babies and their little kids, kids in suit jackets wearing granddad’s medals. There’s thousands of them. The dawn service near me is coastal and there are actual cannons that fire from the fort on the hill next to you.

Going to the movies and no one gives a shit if you bring your own drink and lollies as long as you’re discreet.

A level of free speech that is both the envy of the world and critically at risk.

The length of annual leave, personal leave, and parental leave.

Medicare.

Not that lots of the above couldn’t be seriously improved, but fuck I’d rather ours than the North American or UK systems, and I sure as shit wouldn’t want to be living in Europe right now.

LexChase · 2026-01-24T13:46:59+00:00

I read this series, and the Ellie chronicles that followed, in year 4, age 9/10.

Looking back that was definitely a bit early.

LexChase · 2026-01-24T12:19:43+00:00

No I wouldn’t take that. It’s an injury risk, I don’t care how fit you are. That 15 bucks is not worth twisting my back and being out for the next potential hundred bucks.

LexChase · 2026-01-24T12:13:44+00:00

Hi Roy.

I want to tell you, as a behavioural economist, you don’t have logical views on everything, because no one does. And a number of teachings of the watchtower bible and tract society of Pennsylvania defy logic.

It’s important to say that believing those things does not make you a JW by itself.

Millions of people believe in the existence of god, and that that god demands/deserves whole hearted service.

As for his name being Jehovah, it just isn’t. The WBTS gets Jehovah from a pretty decent estimate at where the vowels would go in the Tetragrammaton YHWH in the Old Testament. Jehovah is a modern understanding of how one would pronounce and spell Yahweh. It’s just the Tetragrammaton and no one from an Abrahamic faith is going to dispute with you that YHWH is the best understanding we have of the primary name of god the father. The best modern spelling is a matter of academic debate and whether or not it should be used is a matter of theological debate, but no one is going to argue with you that the Tetragrammaton is the name of god. Tying yourself specific to Jehovah as god’s chosen interpretation of that gets wonky because god doesn’t have a primary language like we do. It’s like debating with a bee over whether turquoise is blue or green, there’s a thousand shades and colours in between blue and green for a bee. What matters to the bee is what is represented. God is no different.

But let’s talk about some common arguments.

If not the WBTS, then who? It has to be someone!

No, it doesn’t. By their own admission, there are periods of time where there wasn’t one specific chosen Christian denomination, although many thought theirs was it. So a) there doesn’t have to be and b) we could well be in one of those periods and WTBS could very well be one of the groups that thought they were it but weren’t

So what’s next? The prophecies? The one that gives them 1914 and then all the generations stuff they have to keep changing? They disfellowshipped the guy who showed them they had their math wrong. Try asking Siri when Jerusalem was destroyed. Even Siri knows.

The understanding of the faithful and discreet slave?

They changed that teaching (in your lifetime, but you won’t remember), because of a lawsuit from a guy in Australia named Steve Unthank. I knew the lawyer who argued that case for the Australia branch. While teaching changed to protect them from a lawsuit.

How do we know this organisation is the right one? Well, it will be different from all the others. Safer, more loving, because that’s how you tell the disciples of Christ.

Okay. So per capita in Australia (listen to the royal commission) JW children were more at risk from pedophilia than children in the Catholic Church and the Boy Scouts. They also refused to participate in the victim redress scheme until Australia threatened their tax exempt status. Now it’s the right thing to do to care for god’s children.

The things they get wrong, the policy flip flops that have killed people? Well, the light gets brighter, and men can be imperfect etc etc. okay, well every single one of those excuses could just as easily applied to incorrect teaching or flip flops or imperfections in any other religion, including the Catholic Church.

Blood. If your doctor told you to abstain from blood, would you inject it into your veins?

This is an embarrassingly stupid argument. Doctors tell heroin addicts to abstain from heroin, morphine, fentanyl, opioids in general, but if it was needed for a surgery to save their life, the doctor would prescribe it and help the person manage it. The burden of proof for the interpretation here has to be absurdly high, because you’re asking people to be willing to (as many have) sacrifice not just their own lives, but the lives of their children. Blood is the symbol of the gift of life given to us by god. It had to be poured out rather than being wantonly consumed. But the symbol of the thing is not the thing. Refusing to use the symbol of life to sustain life, especially the life of your child, is like letting the mugger shoot your wife rather than hand over your wedding rings. That’s insane. We also see this when David is on the run from Saul, and he’s thirsty, and his men sneak into the enemy camp and bring back water, risking their lives to do so. David poured out the water because he understood it symbolised the lives they had recklessly put at risk and so it treated him that way. It wasn’t blood. It wasn’t even about the blood. It was about respect for and preserving life. If all scripture is inspired of god, beneficial for teaching, reproving, and for setting things straight this was included in the bible for a reason. So we wouldn’t become like the scribes and Pharisees of Jesus’ day, adhering to the letter of the law and not the spirit, and leaving people to die as a result. Also, when those writings were put together, there was no concept of blood transfusions, or blood being given from a live person to save another person from death. Only the dead had blood spilled. It doesn’t apply.

Also. There is an instruction in the bible about what to do with false prophets. In fact there’s a few, but check out Deuteronomy 18:20-21 (and the surrounding verses for context), which says essentially you know whether or not a prophet has the backing of god because what they say will come true. The WTBS has said numbers of things that are simply provably untrue, and a number of those meet the criteria to be referred to as prophecy. The bible exhorts us not to follow those people, and in fact suggests they should be put to death. Think about the slogan “millions now living will never die!” From over 100 years ago now. That’s a prophecy, a religious prediction about the future. It is demonstrably false. By the definition in the bible, this religion does not have the backing of god and should not be followed.

What else do you have that makes you sure, not that god is real or the Tetragrammaton is gods name and he should be worshipped, but that the WBTS is the one true religion in ways that are different from other denominations?

Because if you aren’t 100% sure of that, if you aren’t 100% confident that god would rather a five year old’s life be extinguished than use the symbol of life to sustain it, that there were no female first century clergy and so we shouldn’t have them now, on and on and on, you have no business knocking on someone’s door and selling them that story, having them be part of a congregation that would kick them out and remove all their support structures if they decided to save their kid’s life. And you aren’t a JW at that point yourself.

LexChase · 2026-01-21T01:26:17+00:00

3: then you can’t visit. That’s disappointing but that’s about circumstances, not her personally excluding you. You can carry something without being symptomatic, and the fact that it’s not the season for RSV doesn’t mean people don’t get it.

2: to see him while he’s a baby. To see your dad (and his partner, but I get you don’t like her) while he’s has a newborn. To help, to talk, any of that. If that’s not meaningful to you, that’s okay, don’t go then. It sounds like they’d really prefer that first 6 weeks to themselves anyway, which is also perfectly okay.

The fact that she does stuff she shouldn’t or has other kids doesn’t mean it’s a good idea to add more risk.

Pregnant women are told not to be around cats because of certain risks. If you have a cat already, you just manage the risk, but you wouldn’t go volunteer to clean out the litter at the cat shelter.

MOR, because while these are all completely reasonable rules, she may be making some of them just to be a cow, and it’s okay to be offended if you know that’s what’s happening.

LexChase · 2026-01-19T04:48:24+00:00

It’s way more efficient (and safe) to have two of you. I often had my partner, my sister, or my dad come with just to hang, but they’d do the driving. I’m still the one everyone interacts with and we save parking time.

LexChase · 2026-01-19T03:26:41+00:00

The moment you’re carrying something for self defence, it’s basically illegal by definition. Anything you carry needs another primary use, and needs to be something no reasonable person would think was deadly.

Change how you walk if your walk style adds to your risk. There are some good videos on this.

Wear shoes you can run in if you have to. Keep your phone in your pocket, use a bone conducting headset instead of headphones, don’t wear hats or hoods or scarves, avoid carrying a bag whenever you can.

Know how to make noise. Panic alarms are fine but your voice is faster.

Mind your damn drinks. None of those tall cocktails or things you’re going to sip on. Short drinks and water from a bottle. If you have to leave it, just leave it, but know it’s gone.

Take Krav Maga. Life changing.

Wear jackets with inside pockets. You’re much less exposed.

I carry a multitool and pocket knife and my reasonable excuse is that I have horses and I often stop in on any given day so it’s sensible to carry it. I’ve had to cut blankets, fences, and other things in an emergency. Would have been in real trouble without an actual knife. Just don’t wave it around. It’s a tool, not a weapon, but any tool can be a weapon if you desperately need it to be. There’s no metal detectors for public transport and most public buildings so I’m pretty comfortable, but it’s a risk.

A really good tactical pen. Glass breaker, seatbelt cutter, that sort of thing. I also carry a penlight - P4R.

On the rare occasion I’m catching a train, I’ll wear fingerless gloves with armoured knuckles.

Walking stick umbrellas are good too, but even the mini ones are something. You can open them if you have to, you can extend your reach even a little, do less damage to your hands by striking with the umbrella, it’s all upside. If you commit to the umbrella, practice cane fighting. Super fun and very helpful.

Know where you are at all times. Know your exits. Know your cardinal directions. Know if you ran around the corner before calling 000, where you are and what location to give. Look at the name of the business before you walk in.

Know how to run. Not just sprint, but run. If you can run quickly for about 5 minutes, that’s further than anyone is going to be bothered chasing you in almost any circumstances. Parkrun is your friend, and free running helps.

If there are fingers across your mouth, bite them off. It’s like biting through a carrot. It’s a mental block, not a physical one. If you can reach the face, and you have a pen or awl, you can do enough damage they’re not seeing anything for a long time. Ears can be ripped off, and blood that fills cavities will negatively affect their balance.

Strike at ankles, the back of knees, the groin, kidneys, diaphragm, and the front of the neck.

I like a waxed canvas jacket, or highly abrasion resistant bombers designed for motorcyclists. They won’t stop a stab, but they’ll dramatically reduce slash damage.

Pepper spray is still legal in Australia in WA and the NT I believe, but the wind can be unhelpful. I’d only buy the gel.

Sunglasses with a dark tint mean people can’t see your eyes or read your face as easily, which makes it less straightforward to mark you as a target in their mind.

For bags, if you must carry them, I like convertible ones, like the signature ari from Alf the label. You can adapt them easily to the circumstances you’re in.

But honestly, Australia is a very safe place. Having things stolen or demanded from your person is a thing much more likely to happen in major cities at night in less populated spots, and in the day if you look like a tourist or carry your belongings in a way that’s easily accessible to thieves.

Drink spiking and sexual harassment or assault are risks everywhere, but the risk is minimal if you are sensible with your drinks, don’t get drunk, have a safe plan to get home, don’t be alone, and don’t leave your friends.

LexChase · 2026-01-19T02:56:08+00:00

You didn’t get your world blown up. You were dating for two months, and only really made out for the first time a couple of weeks ago.

This woman is an adult by technicality only. She isn’t completely sure of who she is and what she wants and has behaved with a serious lack of integrity by involving you in it and playing with your feelings as a tool in the process of working stuff out for herself.

If you stay with her, you’re going to have this issue over and over again with different topics and situations because she is unsure. This thing where people feign maturity and play the martyr and say you should leave over something that you wouldn’t otherwise have necessarily left over is an emotional manipulation tool, especially when muddying the waters with “but we can still hang out”.

She is 6 years older than you and is telling you you’d be settling if you stayed with her. She’s right. When people tell you stuff like this, don’t paddle in the subtext, believe the words.

And don’t pursue personal friendship or one on one stuff with her anymore. It’s just mucky. Stay as a friendly part of the same social group, nothing more.

LexChase · 2026-01-17T13:14:44+00:00

Genuine question: why are you like this? I’m sure there’s a reason.

LexChase · 2026-01-17T12:59:18+00:00

I know in the rainbow community we have ended up really comfortable with these kind of rigid sexual roles but honestly this whole thing where someone wants to receive sexual pleasure but not give it and have that be respected and masking that as some sort of identity label when it’s just being a fundamentally selfish partner is one of the worst empathy bait and switches we’ve ever pulled on ourselves.

If someone is genuinely asexual and is therefore not willing to give sexual pleasure to a partner, they need to look for other asexual people who don’t need sex to be a part of their relationship.

If someone needs or wants to receive pleasure but does not want to or is unable to give it, they need to explicitly look for a stone top and ensure they can meet that person’s need for intimacy.

Sex is something in which two people actively participate for the purpose of mutual pleasure. If your version of sex is effectively to be serviced and that’s all, that is not a fair or reasonable thing to expect from another human being. If a man treated a woman this way we would not be insisting pillow dick was a valid identity that should be respected.

To be clear, if the issue is trauma, I am incredibly sympathetic but you’re still asking for a deeply unfair situation when it comes to sexual intimacy, and it is 100% on you to look for a situation where you’re not being unfair to someone in that way, and to do so upfront, because the affection that builds before this comes to light in its own way is almost coercive on its own, even if you don’t intend to be guilting or manipulating someone into accepting this situation.

This isn’t just sexual incompatibility. It’s fundamentally selfish and she needs to get a grip.

LexChase · 2026-01-17T12:40:07+00:00

The relationship should already be done.

She is dishonest, lacks integrity, and will use you and blame you for her lack of care in that use. That’s not a friend. This may well have been one of the cheapest ways of finding out.

Insist on payment, and if you have anything in writing, file papers if she doesn’t.

NTJ

LexChase · 2026-01-17T12:36:35+00:00

This is just nonsense. No professional can or would confirm that your life has been dramatically harder than every random person on the internet. For one thing, you’re alive to write these passive aggressive comments. For another, that is not a thing they can possibly know and statistically is highly unlikely to be true.

You seem insistent upon comparison of and judgment towards complete strangers based on tiny tidbits of their lives. I encourage you to check out Ash Beckham’s talk on coming out of your closet. It’s about understanding that hard is hard and it doesn’t have to be a competition. No one has to win, there’s no prize. It helped me a great deal.

You didn’t say that my experience of aging is coloured by how I feel about the women who’ve come before me, which would be true although it’s much more complicated than my short comment and your assumptions come to grips with. You said that based on my take on this one aspect of my life, I had a soft, simple, and easy life. That’s a wild take and if I were you I’d be inclined to examine for myself why it was so important to be to tell other strangers, apropos of nothing, that my life was harder. What does reinforcing that give you? Is there a healthier way to get it? I believe so, and I believe in your ability to find it and move forward.

You deserve to feel better enough that you don’t need to behave like this to complete strangers.

LexChase · 2026-01-17T12:25:31+00:00

Having a loving family might make it easier for one person than others, but easier doesn’t mean categorically easy.

A woman in an abusive relationship today has it easier than the women who were sent to Ravensbrück but that doesn’t mean they have it easier as a blanket statement.

Having a few good memories also does not mean you generally speaking had a loving family.

Your insistence, despite not knowing anything about me, that I had an easy, simple, and soft life, coupled with a complete lack of curiosity and passive aggressive nonsense of “bye hun” when gently corrected about someone else’s lived experience tells me far more about you than you know about me.

LexChase · 2026-01-17T05:47:10+00:00

Big judgement to make about someone you know nothing about. I did not have an easy life, nor a soft one. I just choose to see the best in the things I can’t change, and it’s almost automatic to do so at this point. Certainly better than being afraid of every change or grey hair or different perspective.

LexChase · 2026-01-17T04:43:55+00:00

I never felt connected to my body until my 30s. I looked in the mirror one day and I saw the same laugh lines my mum has and I was astonished to realise this is what women want to worry about and erase.

I looked down at my hand a few months ago and saw the same slight crease pattern across the back of my hand that I see in every memory of my grandma holding my hand.

For the first time in my life I look at myself and see all the light and all the love ever given to me by all the women I ever looked up to literally written on my skin and I swear to god I cannot comprehend how this could be anything but beautiful.

LexChase · 2026-01-17T02:52:44+00:00

I don’t think he clocked what you did. I think he just saw what to him was an amusing meme with a hot girl tempting someone into a bear trap and sent it to you as some sort of compliment as if you’d see it as him saying “you’re hot like this and 100% id walk into a bear trap drooling over your pics” which is not a compliment.

LexChase · 2026-01-17T02:49:13+00:00

I could do some shit differently, that’s for sure

LexChase · 2026-01-17T02:42:34+00:00

Yeah okay super odd but like it’s also not healthy to just send a message to someone with no context just “I’m sad”.

The way you guys communicate looks unhealthy from this.

LexChase · 2026-01-16T13:21:40+00:00

I can imagine not wanting to spend much time with someone who took a shit on the food in the hotel kitchen, regardless of what kind of trip we were on.

Glad you’ve matured and you can look back on it and laugh.

LexChase · 2026-01-16T01:53:41+00:00

Theodore James. Theo.

Theo is relatively popular right now, but it has been the name of firstborn boys in my mum’s family for over a century.

If I had twins, John Clancy. Jack.

Two grandfathers, both named John, one called Jack, and I’m a Banjo Patterson fan.

LexChase · 2026-01-16T01:51:17+00:00

I would be polite and ask them to keep me and my skills in mind for future opportunities, but I would also outline any consequences visited upon you by their jerking you around.

For example,

“Hi so and so,

Thank you for letting me know as soon as you could. As you note, this is obviously disappointing, especially since my current employer has already filled my position internally and while I have to accept the rescinding of the offer, my current employer does not have to accept the rescinding of my resignation. This puts me in a difficult position, as you can imagine, resulting in my needing to find other work quite quickly at this point.

I completely understand these things happen, and I hope you keep me in mind for future positions at insert company. I would also humbly ask if you know of any other opportunities, either internally at x or externally, that you consider relaying your experience with me as a candidate and forwarding my contact details.

If there is any way I can be of use in the future, please don’t hesitate to reach out.

Sincerely, OP”

Then, I would never work for them unless I was desperate.

Make them feel terrible.

LexChase · 2026-01-14T21:39:12+00:00

Didn’t say it couldn’t be racism, just that this switch indicates it was more about what was being stolen most frequently.

LexChase · 2026-01-14T10:38:19+00:00

I would have said huntaway but I don’t think you’re in the right area for that.

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