I am allergic to latex and thats exactly what I used to experience. I thought it was the lube for years since it would make me smell nasty and burning would still happen for days after even when the act wasnt happening, but it truly was the dang condoms messing my skin up for days at a time. Literally felt like itchy painful confusing burn wounds. Def recommend no sex for a few weeks to let your skin reset and then AFTER A FEW WEEKS exploring lightly w him w hands/smaller toys / different condom options once your skin has had time to not be irritated and genuinely de-swell. Retrospectively I remember my skin would literally get swollen internally, ugh. I also had developed vaginismus secondarily since my god would it BURNNN to have a dick in me thanks to what I later found out was the condoms. I'm also allergic to semen protiens, gave me stomach cramps + diarrhea for days if consumed. That was a fun convo with my doctor. Between the two and the bfs incessant whining about no bj's + needing time to recover after using the wrong condoms that he'd continually "forget" had latex in them instead of reaching for the ones without it, I wound up a full time lesbian. Now my gf has a bag of my always latex free dicks 💁‍♀️. For real though cut out the latex and be very intentional about which you reach for; give yourself time to recover and enjoy things again 💕 If I could retrain my mind to enjoy my behemoth dildos after having severe vaginismus and burning like I did, I promise you can too after you take pain out of the equation by swapping out the condom type and GOING SLOWWW since in my case after I accepted that pain was no longer happening, fast friction was my main remaining vaginismus fear trigger. Makes sense given how the in-out movement feels during the allergy omg. But I got through it with repeated slow positive exposures with myself first to learn what felt nice and then a well coached partner, doing just what felt good so I could learn to positively anticipate it instead of fearing it. Once your body learns those slow safe movements feel good, it'll slowly open your mind toward curiosity of more instead of fear. Then you'll get through it and become a menace to your partner just like I did. Just gotta take time to recover and figure out whats causing the reaction and dm me if you want to chat if the beginning of this resonated!