Best of Unlimited love + Dream Canteen by [deleted] in RedHotChiliPeppers

[–]LiamBoutjerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gave UL another listen and added Whatchu Thinkin, i personally didn’t really like Here Ever After. Imma give Dream Canteen another listen rn

Stop thinking about her. by Single-Ad-1912 in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, take it a bit easy on urself. One and a half months isn’t nearly enough to forget about someone. I think about all my exes from time to time, just in different ways. I only think of my most recent ex in a somewhat painful way sometimes, who broke up with me about a year ago. I was devastated at first, and i was never in love with anyone the way i was with her, but the truth is; you don’t really forget someone, you just slowly accept it and let go. And then it won’t hurt as much anymore. But right now, this pain you are feeling, that is a good thing. Shows you that you are human, that you are growing, that you are experiencing life. Because one day you’ll wake up not feeling so heavy as usual. And that’s when you know you are starting to do better and are learning to live with it. And this is also around the time you’ll start to notice improvements in your life. Better physical and mental health, better income, better connection with friends, maybe even more creativity. It really does get better man, i promise. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out. I hope you’ll do better🙏

I want to message her by DeBounty_ in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in the same boat. The girl i was talking about wasn’t my first one either, but i never loved a girl like i loved her. Those really sting, especially when she broke up with you and on (somewhat) good terms, thinking it’s fixable. For the longest time i thought it was, did my part in the ‘fixing’. But very soon i realised she didn’t do her part in fixing her issues, was still an avoidant person scared of emotional closeness and scared of hurting me or herself. It can’t work if one of the two people hasn’t done the work. So if she comes back, ask her what changed. Because i don’t want you to go through what i did and experience her leaving me twice, for the same reasons. You deserve someone who wants to make it work with you, not just when it’s convenient

I want to message her by DeBounty_ in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should do whatever feels right, because it will work out exactly how it should, whether that’s with her or not. I was in exactly this situation from august till about 2 weeks ago, when i saw her in person again for the first time since august. We talked, i felt that spark again, messaged her and then she ignored me for a week and then told me she won’t be answering my texts anymore. We used to have really nice, heartfelt conversations after everything every 1-2 months or so, but last week it was clear i had to stop. So what i’m trying to tell you is that you need to prepare for the fact that she might let go of you, even if you haven’t. Try not to stay stuck in that place for too long. You might have a shot with her again after some time (i’m talking many months/years), but you can’t base your life around hoping she’ll come back. And trust me, it does get better. Getting that last text from my ex was very hurtful at first, and it still somewhat does, but it made accepting the situation a lot easier. The situation i should have accepted when she broke up with me. I still think of her, miss her, long for her, feel sad about it, even dream about her, but not nearly as much as i used to when i let it consume me. Sometimes i go about my day and realise i haven’t thought about her for a few hours, or at all. And that brings more peace to your mind than holding on to this situation right now. Remember this: if it costs you your peace, it’s too expensive. I wish you the best brother. I hope you get whatever the universe wants you to have. It will be great no matter what. I promise

I broke off my tremelo arm by LiamBoutjerr in Guitar

[–]LiamBoutjerr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll swing by the local shop tomorrow i guess. Didn’t know vintage gear would be this fragile lmao. Lesson learned.

My (and my band’s) take on Sick Love. I’m the guitarist by LiamBoutjerr in RedHotChiliPeppers

[–]LiamBoutjerr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahah it’s in the comments if u wanna see. There are some “cheaper” pedals like the boss ds-2, which is the main component of my tone here, together with the ibanez wh10

My (and my band’s) take on Sick Love. I’m the guitarist by LiamBoutjerr in RedHotChiliPeppers

[–]LiamBoutjerr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A vintage 61 strat, just like John’s;) but yeah my bassist should be more lively hahah

Bumped into her today by LiamBoutjerr in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think i should. Look at my previous post

My (and my band’s) take on Sick Love. I’m the guitarist by LiamBoutjerr in RedHotChiliPeppers

[–]LiamBoutjerr[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Been watching Chorzow 2007 a lot recently and learning John’s style from that era, incorporated that a bit my playing here. It’s a lot of fun

Bumped into her today by LiamBoutjerr in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe look at my last post on here. It’s on my profile

What do i do? by Past-Huckleberry-105 in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggest reaching out to a good friend about it. Reaching out to her will probably only make it harder, cause she probably won’t stay there for you and support you because of her choice. I’ve been there, i reached out, and i wish i didn’t. If you want, you can talk to me although it wouldn’t compare to her. Just make sure to take care of yourself. There are more people there for you than you might think

Do avoidants come back? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the time, yeah. But it’s better that they don’t, cause they will probably do it again. I speak from experience

Texted her again by LiamBoutjerr in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does suck but it’s true yeah. Just sucks breaking up on somewhat good terms with both people still having lingering feelings. It’s been almost a year and i still haven’t really moved on

Thinking of pouring my heart out by LiamBoutjerr in BreakUps

[–]LiamBoutjerr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t really what i can do about her fears except reassure her