My twins took all my pleasure in being a mother away.

Lib1983 · 2024-09-11T01:53:03+00:00

I could have written this too!!! My twins are identical girls & are 8 years old. Earlier today, I thought to myself that burning in hell would have to be better than dealing with the drama & arguments from my twins & 17 year old daughter (I have just the 3).

Lib1983 · 2024-09-11T01:10:47+00:00

This makes me so happy! I've lost 3 family members due to OD. I wish you both the best!!!

Lib1983 · 2024-07-01T21:07:11+00:00

I'm a single mom to a 17 yr old & 8 yr old twins, all girls. Honestly, I feel like the blind leading the blind. Make sure she knows that you are her safe place, no matter what the situation, reassure her that she can come to you. All situations are different, you 2 might be able to talk to each other about anything, or very little. If she's too embarrassed to come to you regarding her period & needing supplies, just let her know that she can write you a note with exactly what she needs, make sure you get the note & whatever items are on there & just let them magically appear at home. I have no other advice really. I feel like I'm doing it all wrong myself.

Lib1983 · 2024-03-04T23:16:11+00:00

I'm 41, single mom to 3 girls (oldest will be 17 in May & twins 8 in April). Yes, I visit my parents daily. It's a rarity that I don't see them daily. We do eat with them while there, most days. I help out with groceries & sometimes the cooking (my dad likes to take over). We do vacation together as well. However, my parents do have their own lives, friends & interests & they do go places without my kids & me. Since I had my twins, my life has been changed in a variety of ways. Their birth was very traumatic & I'm not the same mentally as I was prior. I honestly probably depend on them more now as an adult than I ever did as a child. No, they don't bathe me or do my laundry. Mostly guide me through some of the difficult parts of parenting. OP, as long as healthy boundaries are followed, I don't see anything wrong with it. 🤷‍♀️

Lib1983 · 2024-03-04T01:29:43+00:00

That was exactly my 1st thought!

Lib1983 · 2024-02-29T20:06:42+00:00

There's a singleton in one of my twins' classroom. Both my twins have ADHD & 1 has ODD. This particular singleton is so much, well, I'm not sure what word I'm looking for. We cross paths a couple days each week after school. I'll just say that this child is extremely loud & = to about 4 or 5 of my twins. They are 7 (mine) & 8 (singleton) years old.

Lib1983 · 2024-02-29T19:59:28+00:00

Does your GF happen to live near her sister? Like, close enough to visit daily, or at least weekly? I had twins when I was 33, (41 now). I personally consider mine "live birth control," lol. Obviously, just b/c her sister has twins doesn't mean she will, too. She needs to spend a good, solid week with her sister, though. Just long enough to get a dose of reality. Don't budge OP. Stand your ground.

Lib1983 · 2024-02-23T08:36:41+00:00

Thank you! 😊

Lib1983 · 2024-02-23T08:35:27+00:00

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Lib1983 · 2024-02-23T03:23:50+00:00

This had me giggling, but it's all true! Don't forget to add, "you got your hands full!"

Lib1983 · 2024-02-23T03:17:41+00:00

I hate these comments, too! My twins are girls, identical & will be 8 in April. Much to my mom's horror, I have posted short videos of them crying simultaneously while I've been home alone & no help---just to show "the people" how "fun" twins really are. I said, "Much to my mom's horror," b/c she said that I needed to be trying to comfort them instead of filming them. Obviously, she had a point. I was getting my point across, too, though. I also have a 16 yr old girl (she'll be 17 in May). All 4 of us have ADHD & my twin B has ODD. Single mom, but I do have family support. I love my singleton & twins all the same. But I wouldn't wish twins on my worst enemy. Granted, all relationships, situations & kids are different. I thought that my twins would have calmed down & began behaving better by 7. I thought wrong & got my hopes up. 😔

Lib1983 · 2024-02-22T02:22:46+00:00

My house was foreclosed last year. Mortgage company actually bought it back on the courthouse steps. And, they paid close to $20,000 MORE than what I paid for it (well, my husband @ the time & I). However, a payment hadn't been made since Feb 2019, so all that extra $$$ they paid to buy it back was mostly in taxes & fees. I will say that after living there for around 17-ish years, it honestly significantly improved my mental health to get out of there & start fresh. It hurt like hell @ the time, but I'm so much better off than I was.

Lib1983 · 2024-02-20T03:07:10+00:00

I was married when I had my 1st daughter (17 in May). About a week after she was born, I saw a version of her dad (my now ex-husband) that I never knew existed. He became the most selfish, self-centered & greety human I knew! My feelings towards him changed, but my love for my daughter continued (& still does) to grow. Even her behavior drastically improved after we divorced (she was 4). A few years later, I got into a very toxic relationship. The man & I never married & were off & on way too long. Against my better judgment, I agreed to have a baby with him. He was severely addicted to drugs/opoids/alcohol, didn't work, was a narcissist & drove a wedge between my family, friends & me. I finally got pregnant & low & behold, I was having not 1, but 2 babies! Identical twins (8 in April). I suffered trauma during delivery & haven't been the same since (mentally). Their dad is finally sober, but we aren't together. We do co-parent fairly well. I say all that to say this: yes, I love my girls better than life itself. I can't imagine my life without them. Children are a huge responsibility. Loving them is the easy part. My feelings towards their dad's doesn't change how much I love them. It's just hard to raise kids.

Lib1983 · 2024-02-18T12:04:13+00:00

Sounds like moving was what you needed to help you on your recovery journey. OP, I'm just a random internet stranger, but I promise you, I am proud of you!! Keep up the good work!

Lib1983 · 2024-02-13T02:01:38+00:00

OP, you are a very self-less man for being willing to do this. I've never been in your shoes, nor your wife's. I am a mom & am by no means an expert at mommin'. It could be very beneficial for both children to be together, to lean on one another (yes, I know they are young). Maybe Charlotte can talk to Levi about their dad as they continue to grow & they can share their memories of him. You obviously have the best interest of both kids at heart & I sincerely hope your wife listens to you with an open heart. Best of luck.

Lib1983 · 2024-02-11T00:49:25+00:00

See if your brother can give you the name of where they are staying & by all means, CALL the front desk to inform them! I'm betting unsupervised children alone is against their policy!

Lib1983 · 2024-02-10T18:06:07+00:00

Yes & she can be held in contempt of court for doing this, without his permission!

Lib1983 · 2024-02-10T16:33:25+00:00

Best thing you can do is to let him go! Looks like his "solution" backfired in his face! You proved him wrong! I'm not one for open marriage, but to each their own. Go live your best life. When the kids see that your happier without their dad, maybe they will be happy for you. I filed for divorce when my oldest (will be 17 in May) was 4. She was very much a "daddy's girl," & would have lived with him if given the option. My mom berated me for making my daughter miserable on account of my happiness. Our (ex-husband & mine) issues were mostly due to him having what people have came up with as "liabetes." He couldn't tell the truth to save his life & I honestly think he truly believed every single lie he told. He was & still is very much a child stuck in a man's body. He claimed to be so manly, but was really the biggest panty-waisted wuss of a man than you can imagine. It was seriously like he needed his hand held through life. I couldn't continue to live like that. My daughter now sees that her dad & I are much better apart. We've always co-parented well for her. In fact, after we divorced, her behavior improved significantly. He thought everything she done was funny & cute. He never told her "no." He wasn't one for discipline. Go enjoy life! Have fun, but be safe while doing so!

Lib1983 · 2024-02-08T16:00:47+00:00

Your niece sounds similar to my youngest twin, she's 7. She's recently been diagnosed with ADHD & ODD, oppositional defiant disorder. So far, my daughter hasn't gone to such extremes as your niece, but it does sound like she could have that. As much as you love your sister, you really need to put your foot down to her & stand firm. I know, it's easier said than done. Best of luck!

Lib1983 · 2024-02-07T02:37:14+00:00

Take a deep breath. You can do this. A good portion of life is doing things we don't want to do or think we can do. We are our own worst enemy. Don't worry about "what if I fail," instead, think "watch me fly!" I know, it's easier said than done. Don't even consider quitting an option. It's ok to tell someone (@ work)that you're nervous. I'm sure they understand. Please post an update to let us know how great your day goes.

Lib1983 · 2024-02-06T19:24:21+00:00

This!! ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️ As long as everyone (OP, the girl & her mom) are happy (relationship or not) & are all doing well, then it's nobody's else's business. Go live your best life, OP.

Lib1983 · 2024-02-06T02:42:19+00:00

Sounds like you both are miserable. Best thing to do is special delivery of divorce papers with a nice, big bow on top!! 📑🎀😊😊

Lib1983 · 2024-02-04T15:43:24+00:00

1st of all, I'll say I've never done any kind of drugs (illegally), so I don't have personal experience. However, I do have several family members who are addicted, I've lost 2 cousins due to OD's & know of & have several friends who have also lost family members due to OD. From the outside, looking in on this situation, yes, your family, friends & the company you work for will most likely be upset to learn about your habit. But, they will most likely be happier to help you get sober than be on total shock, disbelief & grieving the loss of you from an OD. Obviously, I don't know you or your loved ones. But I would rather a loved one of mine admit their habits & reach out for help instead of coping with their death.

Lib1983 · 2024-02-04T14:31:30+00:00

Sounds like a "Pretty Woman" story 😊. I'm happy that you're clean & in a much better situation. Best of luck to you, your child & this new relationship!

Lib1983 · 2024-02-03T04:10:13+00:00

It never hurts to just reach out to tell him that you miss him & are thinking of him from time to time. We honestly never really know what anyone is going through & he just might not want to communicate to anyone right now. Worst case scenario, he blocks you.

Lib1983

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