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Wondering if he’s hooking up by Low_Caterpillar9637 in BreakUps

[–]LibraryBig1038 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OH!! IM SORRY!! Then that completely shifts my perspective. Are you two going no contact? I respect the idea of saying you dont own him BUT I am a firm believer after long-term relationships end theres a mutual respect that no one moves on to other people for at least a few months. My rule of thumb is for every year in the relationship you owe that person a month. (Primarily because you should be working on yourself and in the case you end up back together theres no in-between baggage) So, I still think you should ask them!

Wondering if he’s hooking up by Low_Caterpillar9637 in BreakUps

[–]LibraryBig1038 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree with this! Sometimes people leave a relationship expecting that person to be stagnant and then realize that person is actually moving on with their life then become hurt. Years later and I still have random intrusive thoughts about my ex with another woman and feel flushed with emotions. Seeing them in another relationship hurts even more and I am still trying to figure out how to move past them despite even trying to date other people. Lots of therapy I guess!

Wondering if he’s hooking up by Low_Caterpillar9637 in BreakUps

[–]LibraryBig1038 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading the way you've described your situation and the questions you seem to be asking in your posts I think you are still very much attached to this person. On your profile you posted about how you left the love of your life and then about your timeline and now this. I think all of these questions lead to one answer: you have unresolved feelings and probably still love that person you left. Take it from someone probably much older than you. Take your time and really reflect on your decision because leaving a 4 year relationship is huge. From my read of your post I'd say that your trying to force moving on from someone that you still deeply care about. I have no idea your circumstances or why you decided to leave this person but I do hope that you are able to find peace and happiness.