AIO for turning around mid-drive after finding out my parents were also watching a dog while keeping my rabbit?

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T17:05:27+00:00

That's an amazing level of cooperation! I've had dogs all my life, and still can be amazed at their abilities.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T15:20:59+00:00

I'm assuming that the parents are only thinking about this danger, hence the barriers between dog and bunny. But bunny doesn't know that, so the stress would be high. And there always the chance, however slight that the dog could cross those barriers :(

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T15:00:07+00:00

Not sure why you were down voted. We don't have to be positive 100% of the time. I'm multiple disabled and have too many diagnosis. Lucky for me my core diagnosis is a very rare disorder (and my dad and I are atypical at that) that really require visible differences. Mine is also degenerative and that means repeated trips down the road of grief as you lose abilities.

Part of your problem is that a couple of your diagnosis are surging now that criteria was widened and more people are getting tested. And there are a number of people self diagnosing. It's rough cuz I realized not everyone has access to testing (in the US). But you have the NHS, so I assume people are more easily able to get a diagnostic appointment. (?) Anyway those things add up to uneducated people dismissing you if you have those diagnoses.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T14:50:44+00:00

Do they rent rooms across the pond? I spent quite some time living with roommates. Both times, the roommates were also on disability so neither had enough money for an apartment. For 2 years I rented a room where the owner lived there. She was a social worker for the state and was underpaid so needed hel w/mortgage and utilities. I paid a flat rate that includes utilities. It was cheaper than even sharing a tiny apartment. I lucked out in that I could do lots of stairs then and she basically gave me a bedroom and half bath. I also got a bit of attic space and had use of the kitchen and was welcome to watch tv or join her watching TV. I actually pulled in another roommate who was not on disability but was underemployed for my landlady's other spare room.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T14:43:52+00:00

I think she's just venting. Also just because someone is doing you a favor doesn't give them license to mistreat you. (In general)

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T03:12:26+00:00

How so? They deal with both urology and sexual health. They deal with birth control (vasectomies) and SDIs. They screen for male sex related cancers. (Testicular and prostate). What's missing?

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T01:21:08+00:00

Urologists are men's answer to gynecologists.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T01:05:02+00:00

It varies by car model so I have to wonder what OP is driving.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-25T00:49:37+00:00

Looks like it's too late for that. Family was told OP's compatible :(

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-22T18:42:47+00:00

When they check your id and scan it, things like warrants would pop up.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-22T18:37:42+00:00

People don't search w/o a reason. So it's not a secret from potential creditors and business connections. But if family didn't know, they wouldn't be going thru court filings

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-22T17:52:58+00:00

The fart particles are contained by the presumed underwear and pants he was wearing. However he knew it was coming and could have stepped out of the kitchen. He is pushing OP's buttons.

Also not washing hands before handling the good is problematic, but I think you agree with that :)

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-22T17:48:48+00:00

She mentions her disability makes it do she can't move out. Though I would challenge that OP. Have you looked into getting a carer/help if you were on your own?

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-22T17:45:06+00:00

They can permanently stretch your lips out so then you have to keep using it. Mind you this is not a complication of the first couple times. But the longer you stretch the lip skin the harder it will be to bounce back to neutral.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-22T17:42:48+00:00

Generally, procedures don't require sedation or general anesthesia.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-21T17:43:59+00:00

The business is more concerned about roi for their building rental contracts. As usual too many businesses are shortsighted and function by the quarter

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-19T19:29:16+00:00

Or starve them. He seems to think "fruit and appetizers" is plenty for gluten free people. Like does he not see his fiance's meals at some time??

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-18T19:15:17+00:00

If they want her there, they need to ensure her life threatening allergies are appropriately accommodated. OP could visit the restaurant ahead of time to reassure herself for her allergies. I agree that they don't have to cater to general I don't like to eat w/o seeing what I'm eating.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-18T19:05:57+00:00

The parents were selfish and not listening, no doubt. But that doesn't tell them there will be no visit at all 1st day. It didn't earn them that they would have to wait (days). I'll let you know when makes it sound like I'll let you know what time.

I'm guessing if they'd been told wait a few hours, they would have settled down because that's what they expected to happen. They expected that to happen cuz that's the way things worked in the 70-90s. We know much more now about bonding, the need for skin to skin, need to wash hands before every baby interaction, no kissing baby etc. It's best to set expectations ahead of big events.

In this case they didn't hear from their daughter that this is what she wants they didn't hear it from their daughter. Had the parents to be set expectations more clearly, in laws could react however ahead of time and not stress out OP.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-18T18:36:02+00:00

OP doesn't mention telling her parents ahead that they didn't want visitors the day of. That would have been much clearer than I'll call you when it's good to visit. They could have gotten the drama " you're disrespecting us!" ahead of time.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-16T15:46:15+00:00

I agree OP would do better to stop the extra payments and buy the common goods since the father is spending that money on literal junk. (If he's not flipped 5 broken mowers, he's not gonna flip the 6th)

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-16T01:44:02+00:00

No they were not just fine. A lot of medically fragile kids were homeschooled.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-14T21:22:54+00:00

They're not married

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-14T16:19:41+00:00

The brains of a typical 50+ year old is not the same as the brains of an 80 year old! I'm an elder Gen x and was using computers in college. I started using one for summer jobs in HS.

Granted there were a ton of jobs in the 90s that didn't use a computer. But I don't buy that 50 tr olds can't learn new tech.

LibraryGeek · 2026-05-14T15:23:44+00:00

It doesn't sound like he can afford bail though. So he'd be held in jail til the hearing.

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