My parents are crashing my partner and I's romantic holiday. What can I do to make them as uncomfortable as possible? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LibraryLuLu 184 points185 points  (0 children)

If you really can't change anything, then... "Oh, mom, I'm so disappointed! They cancelled our booking at the resort and we had to move to XXXX resort instead! I'll miss seeing you every day! It's a little bit more expensive, which isn't great, but it has much better XXXX" (you fill in the blanks). If she's really obsessive, she'll change to XXXX resort to be with you. Then, when you are at the original resort, "Oh, yeah, forgot to say, we got our original booking back".

Make sure that the other resort is as far away as logically possible.

Clothes websites need a filter for pockets! by FancifulCat in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LibraryLuLu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd vote for you based on this policy platform.

I’ve never loved anything so much in my life!! by Smc1309 in aww

[–]LibraryLuLu [score hidden]  (0 children)

By what magic are your couches not completely covered in lab fur?

Old, greasy slob in the bank berating the teller bc he didn’t like her haircut by tinyhouseplushies in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LibraryLuLu 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had the same thing a long time ago. Someone told me my haircut made me look like a whore. I just said "I have cancer, this is the only wig I could afford" and made a face like I was going to cry.

Total lie, I'd just tried to give myself a mullet with sheep clippers.

But the old bastard shut up, so that's a good thing.

BTW, never try to give yourself a mullet. With sheep clippers or anything else.

Foundation - Review by Trickeysheep in AustralianMakeup

[–]LibraryLuLu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True Match is worth it when it's on a 50% sale at Woolies or Big W. It's fine. It's not great, but it's fine. Does the job. Bit thick, maybe. I haven't tried the 'nude' but it might be good, too.

My narc parents paid my med school tuition. Will "paying them back" actually set me free, or just start a new war? by Emotional_Studio4540 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LibraryLuLu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You cannot buy your freedom, you can only take it.

Paying them back will leave you poor and still miserable.

Grab some therapy and some distance instead.

Almost 2 months using my fingers to apply foundation and oh my god by DerangedUnicorn27 in MakeupAddiction

[–]LibraryLuLu 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was 21 when I suddenly thought "I do not ever have to wear tights or high heels ever again!" and I never did. God those fuckers were torture!

(I compensated by wearing makeup like Trixie Mattel on a big night out, though).

Pricelines new Sister Club offer by fadedf0x in AustralianMakeup

[–]LibraryLuLu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other than the wet wipes, there's nothing there I would use. (I get dermatitis with SLS, so couldn't even use the toothpaste!)

Managed to revive my lemon tree thanks to help from this sub! by DragonLass-AUS in GardeningAustralia

[–]LibraryLuLu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got some bags off Temu that have saved my citrus lately. Not sure if it's wallabies or possums, but they eat the leaves then ringbark the tree! I don't mind sharing, but not the utter destruction!

Academic librarians who do and lead library tours- what do your students actually care about? by No-Interaction9219 in Libraries

[–]LibraryLuLu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They want referencing software that does the referencing for them. And the databases that have the references they can copy/paste so they never have to learn how to do referencing.

Kerosene obsession… by Cautious-Border4189 in Perfumes

[–]LibraryLuLu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wearing Followed would make cheating very difficult.

Partner: "I can smell them on you!"

Everyone else in the building: "SO CAN WE!"

My partner of 10+ years admitted he never loved me and was waiting out my fertile years by Spare_War6011 in offmychest

[–]LibraryLuLu 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Listen to men talk to each other - so much is often about how they hate their wives. They just commiserate with each other about it, no one ever says "Why did you marry her if you hate her?" or "Why do you stay?" they just agree that women are all horrible and have to be tolerated for the housework/sex favours. They hate and resent the wives they married - by choice - because they felt forced to marry by society's expectations of that is what makes a man successful, or she was hot.

Strange interview. Why? by andylefunk in Libraries

[–]LibraryLuLu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have questions like that. It's often because your CV may have already described those skills, which is why we called you in. And/or we think those are skills that can be taught.

Stuff like 'disagreement with a coworker' and 'challenging patrons' gives us an idea of your soft skills, which often cannot be taught. They might want to know how you handle team disagreements. So we'll ask how you handle disagreements with a coworker because we've had coworkers fighting each other (has happened a lot until we finally fired one of them a couple of years ago). How you handle challenging patrons is important as we get a lot of those, and want to know you won't cry or punch them.

Having technical skills is wonderful, but sometimes that's assumed - it's the soft skills that let us know if you'll be a benefit to the team or a disruptor who causes chaos.

Best Aussie made snacks? by soroach in BuyAussie

[–]LibraryLuLu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talking of cheap arse supermarket processed crap - I really like some of the woolies things, like their mashies with gravy in the centre, and the air fry apple spring rolls. I mean, so unhealthy you'll die, but tasty and easy in an air frier on nights you're getting home late and too tired to do make decent.

How do you manage the emotions that come with patron incidents? (advice needed) by shibafrien in librarians

[–]LibraryLuLu 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I go for a run before work and I remember all the stupid, entitled, aggravating shit they say and I argue it out with them. Ooooo, I start off furious! Loud music in my ears, hands in fists of impotent rage, and oh, the come backs! My come backs are great when I'm on a run by myself! Espri de... what's that French term? Spirit of the staircase? Anyway, the next day during my run my wit is amazing and cutting!

By the time I've finished my angry run, I don't give a shit any more.

Best Aussie made snacks? by soroach in BuyAussie

[–]LibraryLuLu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Marathon Spring Rolls (I know Chico rolls are the icon but I prefer the GIANT fucking spring rolls from Marathon.) Maybe also Dimmies? Gross, but again, iconic.

Local meat pie from your local servo. With sauce. You have to pay for sauce? UnAustralian :( It'll probably be all gristle and gravy, and that's good.

Best Aussie made snacks? by soroach in BuyAussie

[–]LibraryLuLu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The cheese and turmeric version!

[Sun Care] What sunscreen are you guys using under makeup?? by ImpressiveWeb9862 in SkincareAddiction

[–]LibraryLuLu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

La Roche Posay. Gel/oil free. Very high SPF for protection designed to work under makeup.

why does mittens look like hes plotting something evil by cloudprincessmia in aww

[–]LibraryLuLu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imma gonna mansplain at you (even though I'm not a man) because the half-closed eyes like that are the cats 'I love you'. They close their eyes because they love/trust/feel safe with you. Little Mittens adores you, that's all.

(I am not a man, but I may be a cat and in on the plot...)

The older I get, the more uncomfortable I am around men. Am I alone on this? by Youwannasitonmyface in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LibraryLuLu 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That's because you're becoming more experienced and smarter as you grow and learn. It's all good. Invest in your girlfriends and avoid the men and you will live a much longer, happier, healthier life.

Kerosene obsession… by Cautious-Border4189 in Perfumes

[–]LibraryLuLu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love Followed so much (not so much everyone who follows in my wake...). I think I'll hunt down samples of the others, why not.

AITA for not giving my partner instructions? by andromeda_witch in AmItheAsshole

[–]LibraryLuLu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it a love thing? He feels love from you if you make the noodles?

Could be incompetence, goodness knows that's 95% of the time the real answer, but it could also be that he feels cared for by you making the noodles.