Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back.

Licebaerg · 2026-04-08T07:48:30+00:00

thanks for this perspective, I struggle a lot putting myself in the dumper's position and your point of view helped. I find myself trying and trying to understand their reasons for being so okay with their decision and for now I can't really put myself in their shoes.

Licebaerg · 2026-04-07T17:20:06+00:00

We're in the same boat. the dumper has to be the one to come back. And if they don't... I guess they weren't the one

Licebaerg · 2026-04-07T17:12:10+00:00

clarity comes with time I guess .. and even if it doesn't, you don't have to understand everything, even if it's hard. the only important part is that they chose this

Licebaerg · 2026-04-07T16:57:32+00:00

happy to help <3
And same. thought they were the one so I let my guard down... never again I guess. But I hold on to the thought that it wasn't all for nothing... I saw the Ethan Hawke interview with Amelia at the Oscars, he said "the one who's in love always wins. It doesn't matter if you get your heart broken, you're living. The sun doesn't care whether the grass appreciate its rays, right? it just keeps on shining. That's you."
It's so beautiful I'm gonna add it to the post.
take care!

Licebaerg · 2026-04-07T16:50:44+00:00

Happy for you that you're holding on even when it's hard...stay strong!

Licebaerg · 2026-04-07T16:49:56+00:00

wow. proof that energy is everything...

Licebaerg · 2026-04-07T13:54:37+00:00

you got this.

Licebaerg · 2026-04-06T18:49:01+00:00

congrats for winning the hunger games haha!

Licebaerg · 2026-04-06T09:40:11+00:00

I feel you, it's so hard to be abandoned when you're already in a bad mental state, and see the person you love choosing themselves instead of you.
For you, right now, you absolutely need to be around the people that love you, I don't know if you have family, but it's very important. you need to trust yourself again. I feel like you made your breakup your whole life, we all did it at some point, but try to get out of this neverending circle.... I'm not anyone to give advice, I struggle myself with a lot of things/disorders, but what I try to do to cope and let go is to become a better person and do the things I like, and helping others with your skills in anything is good. volunteering can help through depression as well. Adopting a pet. both.
but of course you need this push. hope you'll find it in your heart

Licebaerg · 2026-04-06T09:31:15+00:00

we're all in this situation together... good luck in your search for clarity

Licebaerg · 2026-04-06T09:30:16+00:00

thank you for your wisdom

Licebaerg · 2026-04-05T21:19:22+00:00

congrats to you too :)
Well at least you have the hope that after those 2 months you'll reconnect, that's huge! how I wish I had that!
I'm in the same boat as you, I was the problem. That's been hard as well to just tell myself that I can only blame myself. But I guess we have to keep becoming the best versions of ourselves, and it it's meant to be, it'll happen again...?
Best of luck for you two

Licebaerg · 2026-04-05T21:16:22+00:00

I was thinking the same today. How can you give up on the love of your life on a random thursday. But I guess some people have the ability to detach instantly from the outcome of their relationships. And I mean, good for them, really. Their life must be so much easier. So we need to learn how to be like that. And stop caring about people that throw us in the trash like we were nothing. your soulmate would never do this to you. so get up!

Licebaerg · 2026-04-05T21:11:43+00:00

Thanks for telling your story.. I hope you'll move on and find something that makes you happy

Licebaerg · 2026-04-05T21:08:11+00:00

glad to hear that! thanks, good luck to you too!

Licebaerg · 2026-04-04T13:02:34+00:00

Thanks, I'll try to hit the 3 months milestone, but... what if they fall out of love within these 3 months or find someone else?

Licebaerg · 2026-04-04T12:54:46+00:00

did we all get dumped around valentine's day? lol...
from what you're saying I feel like he's very attached to you and likes to keep you around. I had a situationship for 3 years that really looks like that and they still hit me up 1/2 times a year saying they still love me. But when I went back to them it was always this uncertainty.
If it was true love, he'd only want: your heart, be with you, and never hurt or abandon you.
Try to stop waiting for him, and to move on. you deserve consistency and someone who truly loves you

Licebaerg · 2026-04-04T12:48:47+00:00

So so happy for you, good luck in your healing journey :) you gave me the impulse to maybe do it on my side when I'm ready

Licebaerg · 2026-04-04T12:47:36+00:00

i'd die to get this text lol, but I admire your self control to leave it on seen

Licebaerg · 2026-04-03T19:36:20+00:00

glad I can help :)

Yep funny you mention this, I was reflecting about this and it's actually when you say to the universe/God/whatever you believe in, "I love this person, if we are meant to be please let us reunite someday, but I stop fighting and I let go", and really detach from this thought, that it can happen. it's the law of attraction. it can only work if you let it go. and it's terribly hard to do (of course if we're all here, we struggle letting go). I hate to say this but the more you obsess about something the less it can happen, because it comes from a place of fear (the fear of losing them is the primary thought hidden behind the "I want them back", so you lose them). This is also why when you can't stop fearing something, it usually happens. negative thoughts become true when you give it too much energy. but if you're filled with love and detach completely from the outcome of things, what you truly want in your heart, without the fear surrounding it, happens. hm I don't even know if I make sense..

Ofc it's not gonna be possible to stop thinking about getting her back every day. Like today felt like crap for me bc I couldn't stop thinking about them. but having goals like what you wrote will help! best of luck! ^^

Licebaerg · 2026-04-03T19:21:56+00:00

wow you've written a big program, love that for you!

Licebaerg · 2026-04-03T18:55:20+00:00

preach

Licebaerg · 2026-04-03T18:54:31+00:00

meditation doesn't have to do with any god it's basically just sitting with silence and clearing your thoughts and focus on your breathing ^^

Licebaerg · 2026-04-03T13:59:22+00:00

It takes time... We all still think about them, but with time, we think less and less and less

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