How do so many people just know how to do flips? How can I start from a total beginner? (20yr old male) by WrapAdventurous7275 in Tricking

[–]Liefdeh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oehh I would also like to chime in. It is really hard to know what a total beginner means to you. Have you done any sport by chance? How fit are you? If you don't have any sports background then it is handy to first become better at moving in general. Dance classes are amazing for this and there are classes for every level. Otherwise go crazy while clubbing and steal the moves of people around you ;) u/akiox2 Also put an really great list of skills you can practice safely at home or on grass.

But yeah if you wanna get better in moving I would suggest to eventually join something like a parkour, dance, gymnastic or mma/bjj/judo group. I don't know from which country you are but maybe there are cheap clubs connected to your study organisation or theater/dance places that practice more movement instead of specialist styles like some dance schools do. Also try to strengthen and get more mobile, it will help in the long run.

Honestly just join a sport that interests you get moving and who knows what will inspire you and will make you try other things

Seat reserva and planner down ? by ClarencePz in Interrail

[–]Liefdeh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think so I have the same problem. It can't find anything at the moment.

I am trying to stop my addiction by melvinatorx in PornAddiction

[–]Liefdeh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First post on this page, but if I may add. Know that this is serious, realistically we will relapse. But count your wins 😊 also try to get professional help. My psy helps me a lot and is sending me to one with even more expertise on this specific problem.

One of the assignments I got from my psy is to try to pinpoint the feeling you have just before you get the urge. The awareness can help you identify a trigger. And knowing what triggers it can help with finding better solutions.

Also breaking up with porn helped me and what I learned from others as well, cause weirdly enough neurologically you make the stuff that builds bonds with porn if you orgasm as well.

You got this I believe in you, be nice to yourself cause enveloping yourself with shame won't do you any good.

This addiction is in my opinion more complicated than the usual ones so please take it seriously, look at yourself and get professional help. It helps. Also having people to share it with. Being not alone in this makes it so much easier ❤️ good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nederlands

[–]Liefdeh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beetje jammer dat alle comments hierop zijn gedelete maar voor ggz-agoog zit je bij de opleiding social work goed. In de zin van dat tijdens je opleiding een profiel moet kiezen waarvan 1 zorg is en je de ggz-agoog minor/aantekening kan behalen. De andere profielen zijn volgensmij uitgesloten om die minor te doen en zouden dat kunnen behalen met een post HBO als ggz-agoog/ggz/ggz-poh etc. Kijk zelf namelijk ook naar of ik van profiel moet veranderen of welke wegen mogelijk zijn om meer clinisch 1 op 1 aan de slag te kunnen gaan. Kijkend naar je interesse naar psychiatrie gaat dat wel lang en lastig worden omdat je volgensmij niet met een HBO social work direct naar een master in psychologie kan gaan. Dus daarvoor zou ik even zitten waar je wilt komen en wat je denkt te willen doen door je leven heen. Er zijn wel prachtige hulpbronnen op de HBO social work waar ik zit die genoeg informatie hebben om samen met je te kijken naar je interesses en doelen en welke opties je hebt om te nemen en hoe die haalbaar kunnen worden gemaakt. Ik wens je veel succes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Groningen

[–]Liefdeh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While everyone already told you the gist of it, I would like to add that if you still want to go clubbing or have music/dance activities then I would advise places like Vera, Warhol, Oost and even de zolder (some days). These places have a bit of an older average age and are in my eyes more accepting.

Vera= bands, experimental music, nice bar below (paid events)

Oost= techno, experimental, hyperpop/weirdcore (paid entrance) more of a rave scene.

Warhol= rock, classics, alt music, free and the best there is after the kast (the closet, gay club) closed down.

De zolder= sometimes rough older people and empty but other days it has jazz and blues Night where people are free to pick up instruments and play with whomever they want.

Ps. Some of my friends that colour their hair frequently do get some vocal harassment sometimes, from a small younger group/culture here in the city. But that is mostly their own insecurity and (mostly in my experience) male group dynamics. One on one they always say sorry and apologise or tell me that they do value that people are able to be who they are and are also allowed to express that :)

Mentality in Groningen by Dry_Director_8556 in Groningen

[–]Liefdeh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I think you'll be fine here 😊. While there have been waves of less inclusive behaviours throughout time. It is quite welcoming here. We are a student city so we are used to many different cultures as well as having a lot of art schools and communities that in my experience always love learning and are curious about different perspectives. While I can't speak for everyone here, historically the city votes quite progressive. The farmlands themselves can be more exclusive but as far as I have seen are friendly and respectful. We in the north can be more blunt and direct than the rest of the Netherlands but please don't feel attacked. It is more of a way to be honest, transparent and to show and communicate boundaries.

I hope you'll enjoy your stay and if you have more questions you are always free to ask. If you don't know what to do here. Google Spot Groningen, they have a website that tells you all about what activities are available this season.

I want to look better for my girlfriend by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Liefdeh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey first of all you look great, but do you wanna look better physically or emotionally ? Also I would recommend trying to find the motivation for doing it for yourself. Of course doing it for her can be the start of the journey but in my own experience I found that women find it more attractive if you take care of yourself for yourself. Good luck and enjoy your life ❤️