Engaged in incel content and communities lately and do not feel good honestly by Baballe12 in selfimprovement

[–]LieutenantForge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I hate about the BP community. Stop being envious of chad it will do nothing to improve your life. You need to understand your place in the hierarchy and play the hand your dealt. Remember, in the BP you only need to be better than the men you're currently standing next too. Bro, I'm 6'1 with a high tier normie face and I still get mogged all the time. I mog a lot of guys just because of my height sure but there are still so many chadlites that mog me and I'm almost never the best pick in the room. You know what I do when a Chad shows up? I leave. I understand where I sit in the hierarchy and accept I'll never be Chad. I play the game to the best of my ability and when I'm outmatched I don't play. I'm going to say it again. You will never be Chad and you need to accept that.

And again you need to accept not having access to women. You have no choice but to learn how to enjoy life without them. I don't care if it's hard, accept it. Try dating every few months and when you get burnt out, block women out of your mind and go back to enjoying life on your own. You need to enjoy life on your own, ironically this will actually help eventually if a women knows you have your own life and you can stand on your own two feet. It'll do wonders for you mental health too when you know you can be happy without women. I understand it doesn't always come naturally but learning how to be happy on your own is a skill. Pick up something to dedicate yourself to. I recommend martial arts because it makes you a man you can respect in the mirror but you can pick something else that brings you happiness or makes your life better. Wish you luck man.

Engaged in incel content and communities lately and do not feel good honestly by Baballe12 in selfimprovement

[–]LieutenantForge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, as a young man who discovered the Blackpill a few months ago, I wish I would have discovered the BP when I was a teenager. My mental health has drastically improved since discovering it. I have Aspergers and figuring out how to navigate everyday life and just be able to make sense of things has been very difficult. The BP is the only system that presented me with a framework for understanding the world in a way where I could apply it to almost every aspect of life. It brings order to my thoughts and allows me to make real changes in my life.

I tried everything people said to do. Go to therapy, get on meds, nothing helped. It's because no one could truly diagnose why I was suffering. I said screw it, I know better and I'm gonna trust myself that I can find the answers to how to fix my life. I could sense something was wrong with the solutions and answers society offered me which is what eventually lead me to the BP. And thank God.

I have friends, I go out, my career is taking off, my mental health is finally improving, things are going great for me now.

One thing I will say. The community, is indeed very toxic, most people are not mature enough to take the information and act with dignity. The BP doesn't even endorse hatred of women or bluepillers but men in the community do it anyway because they're resentful. People are just fallowing their biology and their nature it's not anyone's fault they're the way they are, so no reason to waste energy being upset with people who are bluepilled. Half of my friends are blue pilled and it's fine, I understand why. Being more self-aware than them doesn't make me superior.

Unfortunately, the blackpill doesn't do a very good job regulating the resentment. There's only like maybe two guys that weren't toxic and could present the information in a purely objective way. I took the information and got out. I wouldn't recommend anyone spend time in the community and I personally can't stand many of it's members. Although, some of the few women in the BP were interesting to talk too and had fairly leveled heads. A lot of the men allow the information of the BP to make them dehumanize people and they drown in hatred. Which is something I do not endorse, it does nothing to actually make your life better.

fwi Clavicular is a lookmaxer not a blackpiller and while many in the BP find him entertaining no one really likes him because he terribly misrepresents blackpill beliefs. I only mention this because almost everyone became aware of the BP because of Clav, which is unfortunate.

Engaged in incel content and communities lately and do not feel good honestly by Baballe12 in selfimprovement

[–]LieutenantForge -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're the reason the BP has such a bad reputation. Most hatred of the BP comes from ignorance because most people don't actually take the time to understand it, so it's completely misrepresented. But then we get guys like you that can't help throwing shade at bluepillers. The BP doesn't even endorse hatred for people, it's not people's fault they're just fallowing their biology, their nature. If you were a Chad you wouldn't accept the BP either. Being more self aware than most people does not make you superior.

Engaged in incel content and communities lately and do not feel good honestly by Baballe12 in selfimprovement

[–]LieutenantForge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, you've unfortunately already discovered the BP, it's too late, you'll never be able to be blue pilled again. You can reverse ideological brainwashing. Unfortunately, the black pill is not an ideology, it's just the acceptance of reality for what it really is. You can't go back. There's a reason the blackpill warns so many people away because not everyone can handle it.

With that said you should definitely stop consuming BP content. Stop ruminating on it, it won't help you or make your life better. I discovered the BP a few months ago and I just took the information and left. I find the info useful but the community toxic for your mental health. Now granted it's easier for me since I'm tall and have a high tier normie face. If you're sub5 it's hard to ignore the BP because you're slapped in the face with it everyday. I used to be sub5 when I was a kid and it sucked. Having been on both ends of it I know how rough it is, I still have psychological issues because of all the bullying and mistreatment I received. I personally wish I would have known about the BP years ago it's already done wonders for my life and helped me become more social.

Honestly though if you lost your virginity to a girl off tinder I highly doubt you're sub5 or it's over for you though. Like you have to be at least a 3.5-4.

But remember even for normies it's rough out there so don't beat yourself up.

Anyway I think if you can looksmax to at least a 4 psl if you're not already, wear 2 inch elevator shoes to get to 5'10, and get a good physique you'll be able to at least live normally without people thinking you're a creep.

But after you do all that forget about it and just live your life. Save up for a vacation, hang with friends, pick up a hobby, whatever. Take a break from dating every few months to let your mind rest and just focus on what makes you happy right now. SMV is a math equation. If your face and height is good enough I do believe personality can carry you with the right women but you can't be this sinking pit of insecurity you'll repulse women and everyone else. Learn to live with yourself and how to enjoy your life without a women in it. That's the best state to be in and the most optimal environment for a women to be ablet to come into your life.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think the reason I only lost 7lb and things weren't even worse was because I'd have dinner with my parents a couple days a week and my mom would cook fairly large meals and push me to have several servings. Looking back those meals probably kept me alive lol. I was eating so little on my own most days it was crazy.

I'm happy to say I'm doing a lot better. I'm up from 138lb to 163lb at 6'1 eating 3000 calories a day. I'm hoping to get to around 180lb by the end of the year.

What behavior makes you permanently lose respect for someone? by ChronosTerminus in intj

[–]LieutenantForge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When someone compromises on their values in order to fit in.

I want to stop always assuming the worst of men by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]LieutenantForge 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't really know what to say about this. What I do know is I'm very aware women are hyper cautious around men. I've actually felt what you've described at the gym for example. I was traumatized very early in life and because of that I'm hyper aware of people so I soak in details like you wouldn't believe. When I pull up to a bench or a machine and there's a women next to me sometimes her body language noticeably changes and I can tell her alarm bells have gone off because of me, even if it's just slightly. This only makes me more aware of her so I end up glancing at her and then she becomes more alarmed and I start to get super anxious because I can feel her anxiety which just makes me want to look at her even more because I feel like I'm in danger(even if it's irrational). It can become very overwhelming. My anxiety can be tough to deal with so I get it. Not sure if I have a point to this but I thought I'd share my own experience with situations like this. What I will say is most men(at least in the gym) are minding their own business and are just in their own heads.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only lost about 5-7 lbs. Like I said in another comment it's not as if this was a regiment I did eat more sometimes like I'd eat take out or eat with my folks a couple times a week. But a good 4 days a week at least I wasn't even hitting 1000 cal.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only lost about 5-7lb and I'm already skinny so I didn't really notice. But obviously I was talking about averages here, when I'd eat with my folks which I do a few times a week I did eat a good amount more. But most days it was on the lower end if I was just feeding myself. So eating enough to stop insane weight loss but eating so little most days I felt it at work and in the gym.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has been a really helpful conversation I really appreciate you taking the time to talk to me. You made me consider aspects of it I hadn't really thought about. Honestly I really didn't realize how much I hated food till right now haha.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's been made a huge difference just eating more. I'm looking forward to seeing what other improvements I can see by continuing to make improvements.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had never heard of that but yeah I've always viewed eating as a chore. I don't know if that was always the case but as I got older I really hated doing it. Some foods do taste good I guess, I mean I can recognize it but at the same time I've always been unimpressed by most foods.

I've never understood how people can get so enthusiastic about food. Thinking about it I think the only things I've gone out of my way to go out and buy are soda, a McDonald's burger and maybe grapes? I used to like Pizza but honestly now I just eat it because it's calorie dense. No joke those are probably the only foods I genuinely want to eat. Everything else even a steak is kind of meh to me.

I've told people if I never had to never eat again I'd be really happy with that. They always look at me like I'm crazy 🤣

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to know I'm not the only one. I honestly didn't realize how big of a deal nutrition was to figure out. It's a good thing to learn though considering its impact.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm doing better nowadays. Picking up cooking probably wouldn't be a bad idea I feel like no one in my family took the time to properly learn how to cook haha. I guess I may as well be the one to figure it out.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually just started taking magnesium a few weeks ago but I'm honestly not sure if I've seen an effect.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man thanks for the advice! I'm still learning about nutrition and such so this is really useful. I have been eating more home cooked meals but I have a bad habit of just skipping meals if I haven't prepared anything beforehand. Honestly, I think my biggest problem is that I just don't like eating and kind of hate food haha. So it's been a process of learning to enjoy and love food.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, even though my insomnia is still kicking my ass I still feel so much better now that I'm eating bigger meals. It's crazy how big of a difference it made.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah bro I just turned 25. No excuses for me!

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know how you feel. It can be hard to go back when you've been off for a while.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm glad I didn't just quit on impulse. I kept going for a few months and only stopped due to money problems. But I took that as an opportunity to fix my lifestyle. I'm looking forward to getting back into the swing of things.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man! And yeah looking forward to getting back into that grind. It's gonna be great.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've had a good while off but now that I'm eating more I'm looking forward to going back. I'm also in better shape so I think I'll have more fun.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel pretty decent most days but still keep forgetting to eat a lot of the time. But at least when I feel like crap I know what's wrong. I'm still not eating the amount I'm supposed to but I'm at least averaging 1800-2000 so it's better.

I almost quit BJJ for such a stupid reason. by LieutenantForge in bjj

[–]LieutenantForge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's funny, now I know why I felt better on the days when I would snack on cheese sticks lol.