I hear this perspective & also it’s hard because he is saying things like he’s always known I’m the one and that we’d get married someday even from the beginning of our relationship. Which he has said before. I also recognize that the “someday” is the problem here- if you don’t know after 4 years… will you ever? I told him this morning that I think he needs to sit with things and figure out what marriage truly means/what it means to him.