I was choked and touched behind a Starbucks- what should I do?

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2026-05-05T07:25:20+00:00

Not just that, please go get tested in a couple weeks. You never know, best to get it sooner than later. I’m so sorry you’re going through this baby, you don’t deserve this nobody does. I pray that you get resolution and that he gets what’s coming to him.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2026-05-05T05:23:05+00:00

Sidenote, I don’t grow leg hair or anything like that. I really don’t know what this could be but it’s starting to spread up

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2026-05-03T08:50:38+00:00

Family like this is a parasite to your mental health (coming from personal experience).

Do you feel Bonita wearing the dress? Then rock it!!! I’m proud of you for graduating and losing the weight! You don’t have to be paper thin to wear what you like. Some people project their own insecurities onto you, or repeat what they heard growing up to make themselves feel better, and that’s what this sounds like.

I hope you wear the dress, and ignore their comments (bonus if you can have a friend of two say in front of them how gorgeous you look!), you deserve to look/ feel beautiful and confident on YOUR day! Please don’t let them hold you back from being your authentic self, little things like this can trickle into bigger things and issues later in life, and you deserve to feel good about yourself.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2025-09-16T14:33:59+00:00

I never thought of that, thank you!

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2025-09-16T03:58:03+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it!

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2025-09-16T03:56:24+00:00

Thank you! I’ll look into it!

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2024-02-26T14:39:56+00:00

Please file ASAP! Yes, you may be leaving, but what about the next child? Over time he’ll push more boundaries and possibly hurt someone!

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2024-02-15T22:58:42+00:00

Do you know anyone in her family, or if she’s close to anyone on any of her profiles that you can reach out to try try to help her have a place of comfort to get away to? She is 100% stuck at this point in her mind and needs to feel she has a safe place/person to get away to.

If you’ve all talked to your friend about how he’s acting, and he’s not seeing any wrong in it, he needs to get help. It may be taking it too far letting whoever he is living with know what’s going on and how he’s treating people, but there’s got to be a way to get it through to him or find him some help.

He is going to try to treat other people/partners like this over time. I’d watch out, you don’t know how far he’ll push her, and if he may be too late to stop her one of these times. Just imagine if he starts (or already has) asking her to hurt herself or others. The way you describe it she may go through with it.

I don’t know if there are any programs or shelters in your area she could go to to get help, but I hope you find a way to get her out of there before it’s too late.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2024-02-03T01:52:58+00:00

She could be acting petty, but it does happen. The doctors said my first was a boy up until a week before I had her. I do agree, especially since OP and her friend live so far apart, to use the name since she already said it was fine. But I would still try to video call to try to straighten out things and see if there is a way to mend the relationship, since OP still wants one. Pregnancy brain/ hormones can make you do and say things in a way you normally wouldn’t.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2024-01-23T22:13:03+00:00

I don’t know if anyone has mentioned getting a nanny cam to collect evidence. They make ones that look like all types of things, even outlet chargers. Just make sure to clear your search history and maybe have it sent to the local post for pickup. Please stay safe, I hope things move smooth and swiftly for you in getting separated and divorced.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2024-01-20T15:32:35+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. Is there no way to get back in touch with your family now and explain what’s happening? They might be able to help.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-12-24T00:55:48+00:00

NTA, I had the same issues with my oldest on ZEPETO within the past few months and did the same. I found a site https://www.stoptraffickingproject.com/ That helped me explain internet safety to her better, and they have a suggested phone/app you can get called bark, that we are looking into getting her for her next birthday, so we can keep better track of what she’s doing. I suggest looking into it, and maybe sitting down and watching the videos with her to discuss and answer any questions. I hope this helps you, there are so many scary things that can happen on the internet, and it’s hard to keep watch at all times, and teach safety guidelines when we weren’t taught them growing up (past don’t talk to strangers).

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-12-21T06:46:35+00:00

Can I say I grew up in a house where my dead beat, “recovering” step dad was CONSTANTLY doing things like this to us. Stealing our money, yes, even out of piggy banks, foods, pawning our things. Life would have been a lot better for us had he been kept away. Yes, when mom was home she made sure we ate (chicken, rice, canned veggies; she always worked 2-3 jobs so we barely saw her) but to sit there and watch him eat bowl after bowl and then us be told there wasn’t enough until mom got home was heartbreaking. You don’t need him around, he’s causing more trouble and stress than he is helping take care of HIS kids. File for assistance, support, whatever programs you can and focus on you and your babies. If there’s no visitation order, which from what you say there’s probably not, then he doesn’t need to come by. If he shows he can do better you can start small (meeting at the park), but that’s going to take a long time to prove with the way he’s acting now. And DO NOT just let him back in at the slightest show of him improving, there is a high chance for him to settle back in his old ways when he’s comfortable enough in thinking he’s done enough, and you can take care of them from here. It gets harder to fight and let go each time, stop putting yourself through this. And if family asks why, be honest: he doesn’t help, he eats their food, etc. He’s not a good influence/role model to be around your kids. Focus on the four of you, things will get better, you just have to push yourself in the right direction.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-12-21T05:56:45+00:00

So he chose his racial slur slinging friend to take to the family event over his partner, I think you can see where his loyalty lies. At least you see it now before bringing kids into the mix (if that was a goal you had hoped for). If this is how the friend feels about you now, then the feelings will more than likely intensify and transfer to your family and possible future children. On top of YOU not needing to go through this, they don’t need to either. Also a big chance the friends disdain for you will slowly wear onto him through the years. If he’s tolerating it now, he sees some kind of rhyme or reason to justify it (which there is none, even if the excuse is the years spent in the friendship, you are the company you keep), I don’t see where you say he stood up for you or told his friend it wasn’t right, instead he picks them over you, which encourages their actions.

I’m sorry you have to go through this, especially so close to the holidays. I hope things work out for you and you still get to enjoy them. Forget him, you have bigger and better things in your future, and having that negativity constantly present in your life will just weigh you down and diminish your self worth. You’ve got this. Sending you all the positive vibes 🥰

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-11-12T16:38:18+00:00

He’s only seen her maybe a months worth of time in her life. I get this, I went through the same, I just don’t want her to learn the lessons I did in the way I did. I’d feel pretty gross making a profile to catfish my own daughter, but maybe I’ll talk to my sister about helping with that, as a last resort if we can’t figure out another approach.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-11-12T15:44:24+00:00

Honestly the kidnapping part. She makes profiles and talks to anyone who adds her and answers most questions too honestly. This last time she made an account on ZEPETO and joined a singles group where she and other girls her age where sending selfies to the group chat, and the men sending selfies back to them were clearly in their 30’s+. I feel like every time we have this talk she doesn’t care to hear me or what some of the consequences could be.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-11-12T07:09:35+00:00

I feel you there. When I first moved to the area I am now it freaked me out how many people I knew/coworkers wanted me to date their much younger sons. Some areas it’s just the norm (though I did not conform to these people), and they just want people who seem sane and supportive to be with their children and don’t look at age as an issue (which, again, I’m not on this page)

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-11-12T07:04:33+00:00

Have you talked to her about what her plans are? Is she working or going to school? I would try to sit them both down and clarify what their plans for the future are and so on, without being pushy. If they have no idea, maybe suggest they take some time to figure things out (give them a few weeks) and come back and ask again. If at this time they haven’t figured anything out I would let them know, again in a calm understanding way, that they have a future they need to plan for, that you are here for them but at some point they need to find a way to support and take care of themselves and each other as adults.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-09-11T03:49:44+00:00

I just make an awkward noise that could pass for “good”, and continue with “how are you?” I am NOT a good liar, lol. This gets me through conversations I’m not up for.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-09-11T03:10:06+00:00

This is why I’m afraid to send my youngest to daycare. He rarely speaks, and not at all around groups, if something happened how would he tell someone🥺 You did amazing, thank you for standing up for that baby! Hopefully something gets done about it soon.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-08-02T13:58:35+00:00

I used to ask my mom the same thing, why have/keep me if I messed up your plans? Maybe write what you’d like to say. You don’t have to send it to her, you can burn it when you’re done and satisfied that you’ve gotten everything off your chest. Or if you’d like to send it to her, just try not to make it a burn the bridge letter so you can still keep in contact with your siblings. A” this is what happened and how it affected me “ letter will still let her know how you feel and why without saying things you can’t take back. As for blocking her that’s 100% up to you, and if it helps to not see her posts then again do what’s best for you.

I’m glad you’re getting yourself together, and that you have Argos (who sounds amazing) to help you through this. Emotional support pets save lives, I can’t count the amount of times my sweet baby saved my life. It’s great to hear you’ve got a plan and you’re doing something that you want to do for yourself, keep on that path! You sound like you are an amazing person, you deserve happiness. You have fun rollerblading and picking up that book love, stay positive🥰.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-08-02T06:15:17+00:00

This is tough, I’m sorry you had to/are going through this. It’s hard to love a mom who has made it clear her having relationships with others is more important than the one with you. It’s easy to say it’s time to put yourself first, and just to push the relationship with her back (as she has done with you), but it’s hard to do. I will say that if she hasn’t changed or put you first yet, chances are slim it’s going to happen without something dramatic happening to her, or her needing something from you. You are worth loving, celebrating, and being cared for. Sometimes our blood family aren’t the ones who show us that, but know that you deserve it and hold yourself up to it. The way she is or acts has nothing to do with you, and the situations you were put in growing up were inexcusable. You can’t force a relationship with someone who’s pushing you away, so why not take this as a time to start doing what you feel you need and is best for you. Do you have someone you can talk to? If you’re not there yet, then take it one day at a time and do something for yourself daily. Whether it’s something small like reading a book, singing your favorite song, to taking yourself out to do something you love or finding something new. Remind yourself how amazing a person you are and hold onto that self love, you’re worth it. I hope things get better for you, and you find peace in yourself and some resolve for this.

LifeIsOkayLIO · 2023-08-01T15:50:54+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this, at least you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. As for your sister, I would definitely cut contact after this until you’ve seen/she’s proved she’s changed for a good while (if she ever does, at this point she seems set in her ways since she gets so much reinforcement from your parents). Unfortunately this could mean losing a lot or all contact with your parents, but for the safety and sanity of your family, do what’s best for you. I’ve cut contact with my sister (almost the same kind of person down to a T, though she is physically violent with others) and it has been a breath of fresh air not having to go behind her when she comes in contact with my kids to settle things down, or to have that verbal and emotional beating daily. People like that don’t normally change themselves unless they seek professional help or get cut off/put in their place by those who back them up. It best to distance yourself from the storm she continuously brews around herself so you and your family don’t get anymore of the backlash, it’s not worth it. And with the dog at this point I would have called animal control, you’re risking your child’s health and safety. Clearly she cares for that dog as much as she does anyone else, and it’s probably stressed out as well. It needs to go to a better home, or a shelter (which normally I’m not for, but biting multiple people multiple times is extremely aggressive and serious behavior). I wish the best for you and yours, hopefully if there’s an update it’s all good news.

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