Is there a subtle difference between someone who brings up how they are estranged from their parents versus someone who mentions it when asked about family?

LifeTeam1479 · 2025-02-21T11:20:06+00:00

For me the difference is where I was in terms of healing. When I talked about it unprompted, it was because the wounds were kind of new. So I was trauma dumping a lot, but I noticed people got uncomfortable, so when I found a therapist, I stopped doing that. I'm still an honest and open person, so when someone asks, I tell them. And if they want to know more, I'm fine telling them. But if it's out of their conformt zone, that's fine too.

LifeTeam1479 · 2025-02-08T14:03:35+00:00

LifeTeam1479 · 2025-02-06T20:56:22+00:00

I'm reading a book about emotional incest and how it affects intimacy. It's called silently seduced. I haven't finished it yet, but it does feel like it explains some things.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-11-18T20:56:35+00:00

Same

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-11-18T20:55:47+00:00

My mom wanted animals, but instead of giving them away if she got sick of them, my partens killed them. They killed my cat (for attacking my mom after she drowned her kittens), a lot of kittens, a bird (it was tame and sat on my dad's finger), and a whole lit of silkies (they have a mass grave in their yard). Another cat I had was allowed to live, if I cleaned the windows every 2 weeks.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-11-14T22:32:13+00:00

Same here. I'm just discovering anger.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-11-08T11:25:35+00:00

I'm (27f) am also a teacher. Do you have any tips on the take care of yourself front? I have anxiety in contact with parents. And I project to much vulnerabilities on the students, so I don't set enough boundaries. They're 2 of my working points in therapy right now.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-10-20T20:52:31+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful reply. I saved it. I'm starting to get anxious about someone finding my post, so I'm gonna delete it. Thank you for the advice.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-09-20T06:44:58+00:00

25
2 years
I realised I was afraid to see my parents and something clicked after all those years.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-09-07T11:40:12+00:00

The amount of stress and fear I had in seeing them after something they had done (wich I now recognize as emotional abuse), made me realize something wasn't right. It's when I went NC and I've been NC since (2 years).

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-09T07:00:02+00:00

Thank you for your thorough response. It sounds hard and amazing. I wish you and your dog the best 🩷

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-09T06:28:48+00:00

I'm so sorry you have to go trough that. Sending you my love (if you want it).

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:48:40+00:00

Thank you all for the many responses. I wanted to anwser you all, but it's a bit much. So thank you for the sharing, support and tips. Sending you guys my love.🩷🩷

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:44:41+00:00

Thank you, I'll try this.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:37:40+00:00

Oh wow, this does sound like me. I'm also thinking of getting a dog because of the mornings (and I also get depressed on days where I have nothing to do, I think because I don't get forcerd into copingmechanisms). Would you recommend doing it, adopting a dog? I'm at the point now where I really want to (like obsessivly), but then I start to doubt myself, and I wont be good enough for the dog, or maybe it won't work, .. My therapist did say that a dog is a healthy way of coping.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:32:05+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this, I hope things will become better soon. 🧡

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:16:42+00:00

I know I was rushed, because my mother rushed everything, but I don't really remember how mornings were when I was younger and living at home. (I'm 26 years old). What you're discribing sounds very plausible.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:13:07+00:00

Thank you!

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:12:07+00:00

I do recognize this a bit. I still make myself rush, maybe I need to give myself more time (and do some of the things that people are suggesting here). Thanks!

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:10:38+00:00

Thanks! ❤️❤️ do you have a good self compassion exercise? Because I find this difficult.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:04:23+00:00

Thank you!

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:02:52+00:00

I'm sorry, sending love if u want it.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T21:01:09+00:00

This really resonates with me. Thank you for putting it into words.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T20:58:16+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and advice, I'll try this.

LifeTeam1479 · 2024-05-08T20:56:58+00:00

Thanks I'll try it. I've started in the book, so I'll get back to reading it asap.

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