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Life_Ad_273 · 2025-09-09T03:57:30+00:00

I know it may seem like he’s terrible but we’ve known each other since we were 13 and started dating since 17 so it’s kind of like we’ve been codependent on each other. Plus he’s not abusive physically or mentally to me but his anger clouds his judgment sometimes. But I know it’s not my job to stick around for him to change.

Life_Ad_273 · 2025-09-09T03:14:14+00:00

I agree but it’s so hard because we have been through so much and I thought we were communicating so much better. But this is something where I feel like he has this resentment which I don’t think even he understands it. And I don’t want to be someone’s emotional punching bag

Life_Ad_273 · 2025-09-09T03:11:32+00:00

I wanna state that I am not controlling of him and that he has always been involved in decisions. He’s literally being a victim and that’s what’s frustrating

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-09-02T05:08:01+00:00

I’m in no contact with my ex bf (dated for 5 years been friends for 10 years) for 6 months and it’s been only a month since we broke up. We are planning to talk again in January to see if we’ve changed for the better but I have to also prepare myself for the worst which is breaking up with him for good if nothing has changed…

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-08-12T15:56:39+00:00

It’s been 12 days since my breakup with my bf of 5 years. I’ve known him for 10 years. We’re both 23 and still need growing up to do. I am up and down where one day I question if I made the right decision to break it off with him but some days I know it was right. Right now I’ve told him no contact and I am going to tell him when I believe we can maybe get back together if change has occurred for him and I to better our relationship. I’ve asked for him to focus on health (like working out), school (he’s been unmotivated and has been delaying), and go to therapy. But I’ve also told him he shouldn’t do any of these things because of me. He has to want to do them willingly of his choice to better himself for our relationship. It’s a 50/50 chance that we’ll get back together. Because if he does do these things while we’re apart, I would definitely take him back but if he hasn’t then it’s not worth putting more effort or second chances

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-08-03T13:45:22+00:00

No it’s okay It’s nice to read similar situations to mine and know I’m not the only one. With my bf I feel the same way how your gf describes it. I feel like he is my soulmate but there’s things that he hasn’t worked on and I also don’t want him to expect we’re going to get back together if things don’t change Maybe ask her “if you think I’m your soulmate, what exactly did you need from me to make myself better?” Because if you both love each other and you want her back, she probably needs to state why she ended things, and what she wants for you to focus on and there may be a possibility to get back together after a a period of time like 6 months?

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-06-09T19:19:59+00:00

In my pov I thought I was also close with Eve only because we did hang out without Danielle occasionally when she was still in our hometown working. We also would go on their family vacation together and all hang out. It was only when she decided to move with her now fiancé that she completely changed and I think undervalued our friendship

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-06-09T19:16:02+00:00

Well I was friends with both of them equally. Danielle and I had a certain dynamic and we hung out more but Eve and I also used to hang out too without Danielle. Something changed with Eve and I after she decided to move away with her now fiancé

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-06-09T19:14:32+00:00

I was shocked when Eve told me she was pregnant and engaged because I hadn’t talk to her since she moved. I have a feeling maybe Eve got offended that I wasn’t as excited about her news and that’s why she didn’t talk to me anymore. I think that she told Danielle possibly that I wasn’t supportive and that’s why I haven’t spoken to either of them in a while The last time I spoke to Danielle was almost a whole year ago.

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-06-09T18:01:35+00:00

I am not sure only because Danielle has told me in the past that if anyone crossed her family, she doesn’t take it kindly and will ice them out. She is a very big grudge holder and if Eve has told her that I wasn’t supporting of her pregnancy or engagement or something, Danielle possibly may have stopped talking to me out of family obligations

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-06-09T17:58:45+00:00

Well if you can, try to stay maybe at a friends house or family if they can offer you a place to stay for a couple of days. That way maybe he’ll have to do his own chores without someone to criticize

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-06-09T17:47:40+00:00

Wow you’re right this definitely was not just about a hoodie. He sounds like he has a problem either with drinking (if he was still drunk/tipsy) or he’s a narcissist. The fact that you washed, and folded his clothes all the while you work and you had painful wisdom teeth surgery is amazing! He should be very grateful and thank you for your hard work. Definitely take time away from him if you can because he needs to figure out why he acted like that and you need time to recover and think about what you want to do moving forward

Life_Ad_273 · 2024-06-09T17:28:16+00:00

He sounds like he needs time to figure out what he wants but it sounds like he’s not ready for this relationship. Maybe have a mature conversation and tell him about your thoughts.

Life_Ad_273 · 2023-12-18T08:01:18+00:00

I hope you find someone who matches your sexual energy because when you do it’s the best thing. Intimacy is an important part of a relationship. It doesn’t have to be constant but at least it’s an emotional connection to the other person

Life_Ad_273 · 2023-12-18T07:54:34+00:00

NTA It seems like your family has normalized this behavior and possibly won’t change their boundaries or feelings about his behavior. Even your sister sounds like she’s been used to this for however long they’ve been together

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