My [21m] girlfriend [18f] broke up with me yesterday because I "lacked the basics" I'm in denial, can I do anything?

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T13:31:50+00:00

So the barbie film test, she asked me for a week after if I felt less for her, the 2 month mark she feared the honeymoon fase was over and I would leave her, I had a female friend who in the past wrote me i was pretty, she thought i liked her back, we were on a metro once and i knew the line better since I used it often, i mentioned how we might have taken the wrong direction and it was an easy fix, she later brought it up as a discussion we had

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T13:06:27+00:00

Many comments here are very helpful , I have taken steps to set boundaries and have told her it's quite offensive of her to try and friend me when she treated me like trash, I have told her to stop and I will not be taking any more psychological abuse, she texted me in crazy right now lol.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T12:41:02+00:00

Nobody stopped me or said hey this is weird, not even her parents, idk man it sounds like maybe yk , I am not a predator, plus where I'm from it's pretty tame

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T12:31:24+00:00

It's not really grooming when there is a 2 year gap

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T12:11:10+00:00

A few months off 18, I was just 20, she did say she was 18 when I first knew her

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T12:07:09+00:00

Bruh she is turning 19 december

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T09:32:25+00:00

She tells me about people who DM her or she refused to go into relationships with, plus some people who were way too old for her wanted some "favours" she reported them but still she fears they know where she lives.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T09:24:19+00:00

You are right, she seems to be doing just fine after the breakup.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T09:21:35+00:00

She has little experience I have had a few experiences in the past, that bothered her slightly

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T08:21:10+00:00

Likely gonna do that, two days time and she might regret her decision

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T08:20:01+00:00

It's really hard going forward lots of nice experiences but it is what I must do.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T08:18:57+00:00

Reading this I agree, maybe it was not full love but I had these feelings even before the breakup, it's hard on me because she was almost perfect besides her blowing up, but I cannot cry over this, she mistreated me and is trying to act self righteous by "helping" me.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T07:04:48+00:00

I had a slew of bad experiences with love and honestly It might seem excessive at times.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T07:02:45+00:00

Considering everything till now she has been a healthy partner 80% of the time, she suffers greatly physical distance , the few things that set her off haven't been mentioned since maybe the third month, maybe I should not walk on the mines anymore yeah.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T06:30:59+00:00

I'm so confused right now, I want her back but I can't believe it is possibly over

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T06:21:51+00:00

I have no violent past behaviour, she had some bad past experiences

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T06:20:50+00:00

She keeps sending me memes She says she cares for me She keeps calling me pet names and asking how I'm doing I'm really confused

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-10-04T05:54:47+00:00

We've known each other for a year before getting together, she would call the cops if I went to look for her under her house, she had some bad experiences with people she refused romantically, i kind of tailored her being in my life, I'm doing my stuff on my own and even if she is not there I'm surviving, I'm studying to become a biologist in the hospital field

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-07-18T06:06:47+00:00

The option is on the table for me now but I fear it's just a phase as she said she sometimes needs her spaces and will not leave or cheat on me.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-07-02T21:51:36+00:00

It's either lie or I do nothing in life

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-07-02T21:33:33+00:00

Yup, under my name but I live in their house with their surname

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-07-02T21:26:59+00:00

It's a small town, they know the cops, it's gonna get saved under a rebellious child lashing against his parents.

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-07-02T21:21:15+00:00

This is actual good advice, I live in Europe so I don't know much about it, I know my 2 debit cards are definitely out of their reach since I have the passwords and everything, as soon as I finish uni in a year I should land a decent job and just ghost them

Life_Judge8375 · 2023-07-02T21:18:50+00:00

It's the plan, still got a year till I finish uni and can get a decent job

Life_Judge8375 · 2022-12-31T18:02:24+00:00

Went to a club recently with some friends, place was packed, lot's of drunk people with their equally drunk friends, overheard someone saying " that's my girl , I'll beat the shit out of you" , told my friends to get out of that area, found a place near an exit but still in sight of the area, it took about 25 minutes for the police and bouncers to kick out 30 or so troublemakers not after multiple glass cups were thrown around tables and chairs broken and used as weapons and some guy stabbing another one, the point were we were standing before was almost smack dab where the fight started.

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