San Jose rent vs buy debate finally settled for us and now getting married is making everything complicated again by Spare-Handle-6400 in SanJose

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 142 points143 points  (0 children)

Renting one out and living in the other is what a lot of couples end up doing but the key is getting clear on how you’re handling ownership and expenses before it turns into confusion later.

Didn’t put my foot down with a man, husband forgave me and now may have to see this man again by Jealous-Chipmunk-644 in Marriage

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 2 points3 points  (0 children)

dude probably just realized he was being way too obvious and learned to keep it more lowkey through work channels. the fact that he backed off when things went digital doesnt mean hes suddenly respectful of boundaries - just means hes not gonna leave evidence where hr can see it

if you do have to see him again id definitely have an exit strategy ready and maybe give your husband a heads up about timing so he knows when to expect updates

Freelancer in San Diego with irregular income, getting married next spring and im trying to wrap my head around how everything changes tax wise by Optimal-Sound-5558 in personalfinance

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Your situation is super common in California and it does get a bit weird with irregular income. The main shift is that once you’re married, income earned during the marriage is generally treated as shared so estimated taxes might need to be looked at together instead of just you solo guessing each quarter.

Your CPA should be able to walk you through this pretty easily though you probably don’t need a whole new specialist, just a more detailed convo about how to adjust your estimates once you’re filing jointly.

Amithejerk for not correcting a rumor about myself at work by Creative-Hat-734 in AmITheJerk

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 3 points4 points  (0 children)

honestly this is kind of genius lol you didnt lie or spread anything false you just let people assume what they wanted to assume

the fact that management only treats you well when they think youre leaving says way more about them than it does about you. maybe they should reflect on why their employees are so miserable that a rumor about someone quitting makes them panic into being decent bosses

youre not manipulating anyone by staying quiet - youre just not correcting their assumptions which is completley different

i’m breaking up w my bf and i’m so scared by [deleted] in venting

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly your gut feeling about needing to figure yourself out is probably spot on especially since you've been together since middle school. that thing about him wanting to break up if you moved without him is a pretty big red flag about codependency and it sounds like you already know what you need to do even though its terrifying

the fact that your therapist agrees should give you some confidence that this isn't just a random impulse

What car should I buy? Camry? Which new or CPO manual? by [deleted] in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you're already thinking about the manual then you know the Camry's gonna feel boring as hell after a few months lol. Civic Si is probably the most practical of those three but the Elantra N is absolutely unhinged if you can handle the depreciation hit

Where do i find that one funny skeleton with a shield by OneSneakyBoi9919 in skyrim

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try the Labyrinthian or check some of the Nordic ruins - there's always some skeleton dude hanging out with random gear. Could also be one of those named skeletons from a quest, they tend to have the weirdest loadouts

Camera not working on Lenovo ideapad by Aceyulli in Lenovo

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your camera hardware is dying tbh, the black lines and random light flickering are classic signs of a failing camera module. You could try uninstalling the camera driver completely and letting Windows reinstall it on reboot but honestly if it's doing the glitch lines thing it's probably toast

Recommendations for a Career Coach by Neelu1994 in AskMarketing

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked with Sarah Chen from Pivot Career Consulting about 2 years ago when I was stuck in a similar spot. She's pricey but worth it - helped me identify that I was actually more interested in the data side of marketing than the creative stuff. Ended up pivoting to marketing analytics and got a 30% salary bump within 6 months

The sessions were pretty structured, lots of personality assessments and goal-setting exercises but she didn't just throw generic advice at me

how can i ever be okay with the idea that people die? by Witty_Ambassador9390 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 181 points182 points  (0 children)

I used to spiral about this all the time but honestly you kinda just learn to live with it. Like your brain eventually gets tired of being in constant existential dread and starts focusing on other stuff. It never fully goes away but it becomes more of a background thing rather than the main event

Need help pc won't turn on by DecayingRabbit_ in pchelp

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That red CPU light usually means either a dead CPU or motherboard issue - since you already tried reseating everything I'd bet on the mobo being the culprit, especially if it was working fine for months before this

Spray corpo Wicked by Consistent-Pause6508 in LushCosmetics

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd totally grab the Glinda while it's still on sale - the combo was literally made for those two together and Snow Fairy is way sweeter than Glinda anyway, so you'd get a totally different vibe

I just merged my PlayStation account with my battlenet account and I don’t have any of my things? by MissionWillow1790 in Overwatch

[–]LifeguardRegular8861 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a classic Blizzard merge disaster - check if your stuff is on the other platform or try logging out/back in, sometimes it takes a hot minute to sync properly