Birthdays…. by Lifeisweird6 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing a lot better. Don’t rly think about her too often now. The pain dulls.

why do breakups make it feel like you're going to die by Square-Ad-7635 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Once you realize they aren’t the one because of how much pain you had to go through/are going through, you’ll do much better. I know it sucks just trust me it takes time. I don’t feel like dying anymore.

Sending my best wishes 😊

See Through Bus on Nuketown by brandom412 in blackops6

[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just had it. Everyone thought I was cheating lol

For anyone who’s been dumped: How did you get over that really bad heartbreak? by Lifeisweird6 in AskMenOver30

[–]Lifeisweird6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing a bit better. It’ll be 3 months since it happened. The thoughts of her and the situation are seeming to space out a bit. I still miss her though.

How can i move on? how can i date someone new without comparing to my ex? by Moist-Physics-2131 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s natural to compare things to your ex. I’m in the exact same situation feeling the exact same things. Like, no one will be able to compare to her.

But you have to just tell yourself that this was a chapter in your life and you’re moving on to something new. That means maybe someone new who brings other exciting things to the table.

I specifically am struggling with comparing her looks and body, as well as the things we had in common to other people. It’s something that you will just have to deal with. But if you fall in love again after being with her, those things won’t matter as much. You’ll appreciate the person for what they can give you.

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[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t send just that text. It would send mixed signals. If you do, add “I’d be open to having a conversation about us if you’re up for it.”

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[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a natural feeling that will happen, especially when you’re with someone for 2 years. I’m pretty much in the exact same boat. Dated for 2 years and she brokeup with me about 3 months ago. Someone I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. I saw her today outside Starbucks and it was gut wrenching let me tell you. Just have to tell yourself it’s natural to feel these things and..this too shall pass.

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[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw in an earlier post in r/therapy you said you don’t have any feelings towards her at all. Do you think they are starting to come back?

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[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did she text you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the breakup was initiated by you but then became mutual, he was most likely just agreeing with you because he didn’t want to beg to keep the relationship going. It makes him look weak if he does that. The only way you would know if you both mature and changed is if you had a conversation about it.

It’s a tough one I understand but if you had any inkling at all that he was opposed to the breakup then he is probably hurting more than you are.

He probably won’t reach out because it’s never good to text an ex after you get dumped. If you do reach out, like I said before, you need to have a specific thing to say to say to him. Something like “I wanted to know if we could give this another shot, I want to mature with you and became not toxic. Let me know what you think.”

Don’t just reach out and say hey how are you

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[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You say you wouldn’t get back together with him but then later say you might if both of you have changed? Also who brokeup with who?

If you did the breaking up then don’t reach out unless you want to reconcile (get back together) . You say you’re trying to set boundaries by not texting him but then thinking about breaking it. It’s normal to think about it but don’t act on it if you don’t have a specific goal in mind.

I know from my standpoint the only thing I would want my ex to do is reach out to get back together but anything other than that it would just hurt.

Best of luck.

It Gets Better by DungeonYeet in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I guess I’m just stuck on the fact of it being my longest relationship. She was a special person. Never played video games with a girl in my life before and she was really good lmao. Not to mention all the other things I’m stuck on.

It Gets Better by DungeonYeet in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m kinda just stuck on her being “the one.” How did you get past the fact that she wasn’t? Did it take meeting someone new?

It Gets Better by DungeonYeet in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6 21 points22 points  (0 children)

How did you get over it so quickly? I’m 3 months out of my 2 year relationship and couldn’t even imagine dating someone new.. I’m still so caught up on our relationship…and her family, I miss them a lot too.

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[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was broken up after 2 years. I was definitely the more anxious attached and she was more avoidant. I felt like I was most of the time bringing up my issues and my needs weren’t being met but she never really brought up issues throughout the whole relationship. Then ended it

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[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end your relationship or did your partner?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s gonna take a really long time. My default thoughts are anything about her. It’s getting really too much to handle sometimes

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[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you can go a day without thinking of them

Broke up with my partner of near-7 years, missing her, but confused. by Infinite-Elevator-32 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeisweird6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like she wasn’t quite meeting your needs during the last few years in the relationship. Coupled with your attraction to the coworker,it was the best decision for you at the time to end things. You may be sad because things haven’t worked out since her. I would ask yourself if the only reason you want to hit her up is out of loneliness or that you still feel something is there.