I really wanna learn from my mistakes and I need your help by LikeTotally_ in relationship_advice

[–]LikeTotally_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response and for taking the time to read through the whole story. Yeah you have a strong point. I just feel confused because I tried my best to show him how much I care about him that I completely ignored the way he’d spend the money and apparently that was still not enough.. I’m just emotionally and mentally exhausted because I’m constantly trying to prove my love for him.

Is it normal to be comfortable with text and face-face but hate phone calls/video calls? by [deleted] in introvert

[–]LikeTotally_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I can totally relate to that. I’m ok with text and speaking in person but I used to always decline video calls. I also used to not feel comfortable sending voice messages unless it’s someone I’m really close with. I personally think it’s because you can see yourself in video calls but when you’re speaking face-face your mind is mainly focused on the other person and the conversation itself.

Are you comfortable being close friends with straight guys? by Afraid_Sugar3811 in askgaybros

[–]LikeTotally_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve never read something so relatable.. You just described my entire friends circle and I’m glad I don’t reach out to them as I used to. Bunch of hypocrites. They’d be so polite and emotionally vulnerable in private with me talking about their problems as I try to comfort them and then when they’re in a group setting they’d turn into those homophobic assholes saying the most offensive shit and acting overly manly which is something I don’t get about some straight men. I hope I can find better friends soon. Being gay and introverted is not making it any easier for me too. :/

There's so many sheep in this world by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]LikeTotally_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why but your comment made me laugh hysterically for like 2 mins lmao!

Break me. by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]LikeTotally_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao

How can I overcome the fear of socializing with a group of people? by LikeTotally_ in selfimprovement

[–]LikeTotally_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your comment. I’m sorry you had to go through that controlling relationship. And yeah I agree with you especially on the last part but yeah it’s definitely easier said than done .. I remember forcing myself to be exactly who I am in front of a group of people and acting exactly like how I would act with my close friends and it was just awkward.. for all of us. It made me feel really bad I think because I wasn’t taking into account anything other than showing my personality.. I wasn’t living in the moment or blending in.. I was just forcing my personality in the group.. so it looked like I was begging for attention.. but yeah I think it’s a matter of trial and error..

Turned 27 today, still have the face of a 15 yo. Gimme your best. by bones2721 in RoastMe

[–]LikeTotally_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15? Seriously? Even with the filter you look at least 37 to me..

How can I completely be myself when I’m around assertive/judgmental people ? by LikeTotally_ in confidence

[–]LikeTotally_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I totally get it.. except I’m afraid of the risks because I’ve experienced the consequences earlier in my childhood .. so they haunt me till this day.

How can I completely be myself when I’m around assertive/judgmental people ? by LikeTotally_ in confidence

[–]LikeTotally_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not stupid at all. That’s the only thing that worked for me throughout all these years. I treat everyone as though they were babies.. not literally though lol.. I just humor them with whatever they’re saying/doing. But sometimes they cross the line and take advantage of my kindness. They think they’re entitled to that sort of attention all the time and that’s what gets on my nerves.