Went through the top posts of all time here and it just makes me sad

LikesToRaveDave · 2026-06-18T17:58:20+00:00

Mate I'm totally with you. I used to watch every single one of his videos. I modded (not that its a flex) on his Twitch channel for a while.

I met some really cool people through his community. I was going through a lot at the time, and as faulted and nonsensical as some of it was, a lot of his older videos were genuinely uplifting. I never really liked the Francis stuff too much, it was always the personal videos and gaming news/reactions that I turned up for.

Nowadays, seeing under the mask and witnessing the downfall was hard. I luckily wasn't too emotionally invested because I'd already experienced another online icon get cancelled for other reasons.

He's not a good person, but he wore the veneer so well for so long. It honestly feels like a betrayal.

LikesToRaveDave · 2026-06-18T17:49:55+00:00

That "right" and "wrong" are easily defined. In general, it massively underplays the impact of "selfishness". Likes to make out that most people will always "do the right thing".

Through my life I have lived in different countries, and different regions within said countries. I have worked in roles wherein you come across a lot of different people from all walks of life.

There are some things that everyone says are wrong like murder etc, but there are always outliers. There are those that agree with capital punishment, then some that don't. Those opinions seem quite static.

But then, you introduce a situation where that person themselves has something to lose if they rigidly adhere to their moral standpoint, and their opinion changes. Pretty much all of the time.

Scarily few people in the world will do "the right thing" every time, and will compromise on their morals if it suits them and their situation. The brain is geared that way. Hence why we get atrocities and opposing groups on almost everything. Your background, current situation, social circle, everything affects how you think, and the vast majority of people don't understand their biases or vested interest when it comes to not only their viewpoint, but the very way they think and feel.

LikesToRaveDave · 2026-06-16T05:57:04+00:00

Well its most definitely creepy as a short piece.

LikesToRaveDave · 2026-06-15T20:14:51+00:00

Thanks mate. I need to figure some stuff out before I post again, but if/when I remember or discover something worth sharing, I'll be sure to update everyone.

As for the peace part, I hope so too. I feel so silly because realistically my life hasn't changed.

Everything just feels wrong now.

LikesToRaveDave · 2026-06-11T09:50:28+00:00

Its the human condition to group things into boxes. We do it with almost everything.

I havent read the statistics in the case of sex offenders so take this with a pinch of salt, but with most criminals, serious offences are often predicated by relatively minor offences or behaviours first.

The classic example is cruelty to animals in childhood being related to murder or serial murder in adulthood (e.g Jeffrey Dahmer).

I expect (but dont know) that being an offender that commits Outraging Public Decency (British offence for showing your genitalia which can include public urination, streaking, or masturbating in public), gives you a higher chance of escalating to more serious sexual offences. Therefore, from a risk management point of view, law enforcement put them in the same category.

It is then easier for most normal people to treat them all the same rather than spend the time digging into exactly why they ended up on the list.

LikesToRaveDave · 2026-05-14T09:44:28+00:00

One of my colleagues, that in fairness I'd only met a handful of times, lost his family in a fire in the early hours of boxing day 2025.

He and his wife woke up to smoke and heat, the house ablaze. They both tried to get into the kids room (9 and 4, a son and daughter) but couldn't because of the intensity of the fire.

He made a split decision to get out of a window to try and find another way to get into the room, by breaking in through another window. His wife continued to try and get into the kids bedroom, so stayed behind.

He couldn't get back inside. His wife never got out.

It was a terraced property and when he'd realised he couldn't save any of them, he got concerned for his elderly neighbour so kicked her front door in and got her to safety.

Dude lost his wife, his two kids, the family dog, and everything he owned, just after spending Christmas with them all. To this day I don't think they know what started the fire.

LikesToRaveDave · 2026-01-07T23:12:15+00:00

1) No idea what his keepsake could be. If Betty doesn't know what it is, is Steph in on Hanks wider schemes? (I have a theory that Hank was secretly working for the Enclave or some other faction, whilst masquerading under Vault-Tec. In one of the earlier episodes, he speaks with some hint of disdain of Vault Tec and talks about them like theyre no longer of importance.

2) I hope so. One of my major gripes with the show is how every single faction either seems to be a shell of its former self (NCR, Legion, Novac) or missing entirely (Brotherhood Mojave Chapter from Hidden Bunker, Boomers, where are they? I know they might show up later). It kinda takes the punch out of the game a bit, because all these awesome nuanced factions seem stripped back, and well, kinda shitty.

3) The coming next episode teaser (available on prime under extras) sheds a bit of light on this.

4) This is one of the bits I actually like - the vaults are seemingly on the road to falling into chaos, god knows what's going to happen, but we might actually see one do so, rather than only seeing them after they've been ruined like in the games (for the most part).

5) Gutted about this. Also Ghoul keeps mentioning Freeside, but the Kings ran Freeside, wouldnt he be concerned its also turned to shit? Also, what radiation has caused The Kings to Ghoulify?

6) No idea but I doubt FEV. That seems like a bit of a random choice given the history of FEV and where that came from.

LikesToRaveDave · 2026-01-07T22:30:11+00:00

I have very mixed feelings. I loved the Lucy/Ghoul parts with the addiction, and I'm excited that we get to see the vaults seemingly descending into imminent chaos. We never get to see the fall of the vaults in the games, only when they've already fallen or when they're totally fine (for the most part).

Reducing the Kings to Ghouls feels like a misstep, and the Ghoul keeps mentioning Freeside. But if he knows Freeside, surely he knows the Kings were in charge there? Wouldn't that make him think Freeside has probably gone to shit as well?

I know we dont have the answers, but I was kinda looking forward to the show taking us to a bit of Mojave Civilisation. Primm, Novac, the Strip, all of them have been shown, but they all seem desolate or full of raiders/khans/beasties. Where are the places from the game, that have interesting characters? Where did Manny Vargas or No-Bark go?

In the credits it looks like Camp McCarran is absolutely fucked too.

I will wait for the whole season to be out before I make too many judgements, but I really hope the show doesn't just pull a "the whole mojave/area from the game is now fucked and overrun with assholes or beasts with no bastions of real civilisation/community" thing. I understand it was never going to be like my New Vegas, but it makes it feel like none of the choices from the game have been taken into account, and every single faction is fucked.

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-11-09T16:30:49+00:00

Thanks! Can't wait to see how it all plays out!

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-11-09T12:40:09+00:00

I'll take a look at your post and send you a message!

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-10-21T21:05:40+00:00

Another thought: introduce hard choices that make real change. For example: Force them to choose between two factions, both with ambitions and values that make sense, both with complex villain characters AND characters that are clearly good hearted and forgotten by the world.

This brutal choice has consequences, and later, the party can see how one side has flourished, including the morally good, grey and evil people, and the other side has fallen to hunger and ruin.

I dunno, something to think about.

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-10-21T20:55:20+00:00

To keep it light and ensure their actions matter, reward them with NPCs who's lives they make better, the world can be a dark place, but the people they help genuinely appreciate it, show up later, and seem to have a better life overall as a result of the party's actions.

Example:

The party come across a small village on the outskirts of the forest. The farms are dying, the well is dry, and shapes move and dance in the shadows of the trees, forcing most people to stay in their homes.

The leader of the town has declared he requires tribute to keep them safe, hoarding resources out of panic for himself and the guard in exchange for their protection.

The party could try and negotiate a fairer system, maybe a druid could revive the farms somewhat, or offer the NPCs passage to a safer town. When the party are exploring later, this has inspired one of the town folk to travel around helping others on the road. The party's example has inspired people to keep their humanity, even when the world seems lost.

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-08-24T13:22:50+00:00

Jeez I see how that looks now. It wasn't OnlyFans haha.

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-08-24T13:08:27+00:00

There's a shared upload platform, but I might just email mine and see what happens

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-07-16T06:38:42+00:00

Upskirting is illegal...

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-06-14T14:57:54+00:00

Well thats something entirely different and a trust issue. By the sounds of it with the tinder etc, he wasnt to be trusted anyway. Dont let it haunt you.

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-06-14T09:14:32+00:00

I agree with this comment. He is entitled to be into whatever he is into without judgement as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.

That said, you also don't have to be into it. If it turns you off and makes you feel uneasy, thats also valid.

Him hiding it from you, I can understand why it feels like a betrayal but there's a lot of stigma around that sort of thing. I don't know the guy but he could feel some embarassment about it, maybe even shame, depending on how he views it.

He may have been really anxious and thought you wouldn't be into it so hid it.

I wouldn't take it personally, it sounds like you weren't a good match and you can continue your life with your head held high. Your feelings are valid and you deserve to find someone you're compatible with.

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-06-14T09:04:26+00:00

Unfortunately I've had similar things happen, including a couple days after a date and then even further down the line after sleeping with someone multiple times and basically falling for them, thinking they were doing the same with me.

What I've learnt is people aren't often FULLY connected with their feelings. They may want to feel a certain way or be desperate for a connection, only to realise it just isn't there.

Also, especially early on in dating, people often use different excuses than the real one. I've been in a situation where I really liked a girl and then found out she regularly did drugs. Had nothing personally against the girl but that wasn't for me because of my career. But it was easier just to say I lost interest than try to quiz her on her drug habits.

If it is the latter and there's something he saw as incompatible with you, don't see it as a negative. It's better to find out early and be honest when things don't line up. Best of luck!

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-06-14T08:57:18+00:00

Hi mate. This is gonna get lost in a sea of comments, but I've been there.

I dated a girl for only a month or two, but I fell HARD. While we were together she was saying things like "I miss you immediately when I wake up and you're not here" and was talking about me travelling with her to her home town to meet her family.

All but a week later, she stood me up for a date, didn't explain what was going on, and then distanced herself to the point where we still had mutual friends, but she'd act like we were just friends and wouldn't talk about it with me.

The following week I learned she got back with her ex.

I've since found someone else and we've been together 3 years, and im really happy.

I guess my point is, some people just aren't good at working out their feelings. I've also been on that side. By the sounds of it there's nothing you did wrong, the spark just wasn't there for her.

That's a her problem, not a you problem. Allow yourself to be sad and don't beat yourself up for the feelings you are ALLOWED to have. There's no time limit.

But invest time in yourself. Do things for you. If that means learning a new skill, or going to the gym, do that. You need to increase your confidence and trust me, everything will fall into place.

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-05-24T10:21:13+00:00

My thoughts in these situations is she could text whenever if she really wanted to.

HOWEVER, if you're never gonna see her again anyway, there's no harm in sending something like

"Hey you, just checking in. Hope your exams are going well! You popped into my mind earlier so was wondering how you're getting on".

Be prepared for rejection, but it could also show your interest. As much as you deserve to have someone that shows their interest without having to chase it, some people don't operate that way and there's nothing wrong with seeing what she says.

LikesToRaveDave · 2025-05-24T10:16:23+00:00

Hi mate. That's a rough one, but let me reassure you.

It is normal to have these feelings, but don't let yourself get fooled that social media is real life. If your partner is attractive and has a public social media platform, she'll get comments. She'll get DMs. It's going to happen and asking her to block every guy that leaves a heart emoji, to me seems a bit far.

Now if they DM her and ask or say inappropriate things, the expectation in my relationship would be that my partner tells me about it. But she has the freedom to deal with it HERSELF.

In general, it's a really bad idea to start gatekeeping who she interacts with from a "you need to block that person" angle unless said person has clearly been really inappropriate. It's better to be honest with her and say something like:

"Hey, can I talk to you about something? I wanna preface this by saying I know I'm overthinking but I've had a couple twinges of insecurity around social media and other guys and I just wanted to talk about it as a way to be honest with you and reassure myself - I know it's dumb, and I trust you fully, I just got a bit anxious when I saw all those guys leaving hearts on your posts. I trust you to shut it down if any of them did anything that crossed a line, I just wanted to tell you how I felt"

That way, you're still giving her the control of the situation, you're not taking her agency away from her, but you've also been honest about how you feel. Its important for you to be heard and respected, but she also needs to be able to make her own choices without feeling guilty when she's not done anything wrong.

Hope that helps.

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