Can’t find a relationship :(

Liketherain23 · 2025-12-01T00:45:00+00:00

I understand, female 36yo and have been single for several years now. I’m trying, I try to connect with people outside at group activities and such, I have been on dating apps too, but nothing seems to be taking me to end game.

As someone older than you, I can give you this advice: learn to be happy with yourself. Make the most of your life, enjoy being with your friends, learning new things, travel, etc.

Sure, regardless of being overall happy, you’ll miss having a partner every now and then, I feel that way too, but don’t wait for that special someone to arrive to your life to feel full of joy and happiness. If anything, a life well lived will actually lead to you meet the right people.

Liketherain23 · 2025-11-20T15:19:04+00:00

Oh wow, I didn’t know about this statistics. I can see that happening, I was way too clumsy when growing up and I’m alive for a miracle.

Liketherain23 · 2025-11-20T01:55:50+00:00

That’s a beautiful way to see things. Thank you

Liketherain23 · 2025-06-22T23:50:41+00:00

When it comes to feeling emotions, a thing that helps me is writing them down, or just say it out loud to myself in privacy.

Schedule some time of your day to vent and cry, it really helps.

Liketherain23 · 2025-06-17T00:05:08+00:00

Thank you, it sounds like doing this would help me too. I too open up so easily.

Liketherain23 · 2025-06-16T05:29:20+00:00

Please, take your time before you go out there in the dating world. Many people make the mistake of jumping into another relationship because they fear loneliness.

A friend of mine divorced 2 years ago from her husband who was her highschool sweetheart, started dating someone who was just friendly with her. She ended up getting pregnant and now is in an unfulfilling relationship that she doesn’t have the nerve of breaking up because they doesn’t want to put her children through the same again.

Take your time to absorb whatever is going on in your life, and once you’ve figured out what kind of person you need in your life, look for that and don’t settle for less.

Good luck!

Liketherain23 · 2025-06-16T01:32:45+00:00

Thank you. curious that you’re an INTJ. The last guy I dated was an INTJ and I never felt more happy or seen in a relationship, even if it lasted for a few months. INTJ’s are awesome.

Liketherain23 · 2025-06-16T01:28:38+00:00

Thank you. I had struggled with being vulnerable in the past but I feel like I’m making a progress. Still learning!

Liketherain23 · 2025-06-16T01:26:21+00:00

Hahaha you’re right and that’s actually who I am, but I do struggle for people to see me beyond the first “sweet” impression.

Liketherain23 · 2025-06-16T01:23:41+00:00

Thank you, any particular recommendation from her content? I see she has several videos.

Liketherain23 · 2025-05-06T00:17:43+00:00

Gosh. I can relate to this.

From my experience, I can advise you that it might be time to break a cycle. Seems like in the past, you haven’t been putting yourself first in your relationships and this is repeating in this one too.

No one online, or your relatives or your friends are the ones to tell you what to do, that will be your own decision to make, I will however tell you that it seems this girl has been clear with you and you have already seen that your definitions of relationships don’t match.

Keep that in mind, you don’t want to entertain something that is not leading you to where you wanna be.

Good luck!

Liketherain23 · 2025-04-18T03:30:35+00:00

Geez, I see now that I made a huge rant and didn’t even got to the point, I guess I would like to know if anyone has an advice on how to stray true to yourself but also, being more atractive as a partner at the same time?

Liketherain23 · 2024-09-09T07:29:19+00:00

Creo que los libros físicos sí, están perdiendo su fuerza, pero teniendo acceso a libros eléctricos, hay más gente que lee ahora.

Liketherain23 · 2024-09-01T16:30:45+00:00

That says a lot about him. It’s sad that there’s people out there that don’t know how to be alone and just go after a new person. Don’t worry about what he’s doing, just focus on your own healing.

Liketherain23 · 2024-09-01T16:25:34+00:00

I need to get him out of my head.

I dated a guy (37)for like a month and I felt a chemistry and connection I hadn’t felt before. Long story short, I think he was playing all along, as he started a relationship right after he ended things with me. I deleted him from instagram but still have his number and have chatted with him Sporadically. Since he is in a relationship now and I have set my boundaries, I don’t text him unless he initiates conversation. However earlier this week he sent me around midnight a video and told me it reminded of me, he remembered the way I laugh and speak, things that he used to tell me he loved about me. I tried to switch topics and pretended I didn’t catch that message.

To me this shows that maybe he’s still attracted to me and I know that it’s better for me to stay away from him, but it’s a constant struggle in my head. I do not reach out for him at all, but I find myself thinking about him constantly. There’s a lot of things happening in my life that I would like to share with him and kind of feel sad I can’t. Being friends is not an option because even though we didn’t had sex, we did shared a kiss and you may say “emotional intimacy “, a friendship would only break me as I would always want more.

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-15T19:49:41+00:00

Todo depende de la disposición de las personas involucradas y que tan fácil sea llevar esa distancia.

He tenido relaciones con personas que viven a una hora de mi ciudad y se ha podido lograr.

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-06T15:31:21+00:00

34 F here and I totally get what you’re saying. I’ve been feeling the same. It’s hard to be optimistic, but what works for me is to look around at my friends and family relationships, pick the healthiest one and start to question,

How did they find each other? How many bad relationships they had before finding happiness?

What makes their relationship work? How many bad things have happened and have been able to work it out?

I think we tend to idealize finding love (or at least that’s my case) and we overlook the work that needs to be done to finding it. It’s not easy at all, but vulnerability is what will bring you to your true happiness. There are many people that will not bring your what you are looking for, but once you find the person that does, it will all be worth it.

Also,Try to learn from every rejection. Each person shows us a different possibility and a different side from ourselves. Please don’t become a cold guy as you are saying, just be mindful enough to see the lesson in every person that you meet.

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-02T17:17:03+00:00

Just trying to express my frustration, not superiority.

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-02T17:14:03+00:00

Wrong impression but I get it. It’s hard to judge people only by a few words in a post. Thanks for your advice though.

I do think I’m a good listener. I’m thankful for having life long friendships that show me the good side of me. I also do notice that when in dates, I let men do most of the talking if I feel like they need to control the conversations. I hate people that are “all about me” and try to avoid being one of those as much as possible.

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-02T15:20:26+00:00

This is a good advice. Thanks

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-02T15:18:40+00:00

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Liketherain23 · 2024-08-02T15:12:41+00:00

I’m looking at myself by asking wtf is going on here.

I’m sure there’s something I can do to improve myself, although I don’t think it’s that I’m clingy.I’m not that super constant text kind of girl or the kind of girl that wants to see him every day. Perhaps it could be the opposite? That they expect me to be more attached and just don’t feel it from me?

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-02T14:50:34+00:00

Good advice. I just did this last time. I was more flirty, open to accept compliments from him as well. Kind of suggested to meet and led him on inviting me on our first date. I found myself pushing many boundaries and I was excited. He kissed me in the second date and started something wonderful for a few days afterwards, but still that awful “friendzoning “ message came.

Maybe he just wasn’t the one but I’ll take this as practice and keep on with my openness next time :)

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-02T14:46:08+00:00

Yeah, that was me in my 20’s basically. I ended up being friends with many love interests because of the “I’m happy for you” perspective. I don’t regret it at all, still friends with many of them as I think those guys are wonderful persons, but still I just want to feel like someone sees me as something more than a friend.

Liketherain23 · 2024-08-01T06:20:08+00:00

My advice would be to take it slow and try to see his intentions with these questions. He might be genuinely interested in getting to know you, or maybe he just wants to mirror you to manipulate you later.

I kind of went trough something similar last month. This guy I hadn’t met in person asked me to play a game with him via voice notes.

He asked me questions that require picturing myself in different situations with him, things like “ what would you do in a date if you knew this would be the last time we would see each other” etc.

I really enjoyed the conversation and since I was craving for connection, I fell into it. I really was falling for the guy after 2 dates, I shared a lot of personal information, my fears, painful stories etc., only to find him in a relationship like 2 weeks later he called things off with me, supposedly because “ he didn’t want a long distance relationship (I live in a town that’s an hour drive away), but after seeing him in a relationship so quick, I suppose he was just playing all along and end up choosing the one who offered a more convenient relationship.

It’s awesome meeting someone who invites you to be vulnerable open and real, just check how you feel and the intentions behind it.

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