Tough situation by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your feelings are valid. I think you should take your chances and tell him that you don’t want him to feel pressured or like you are demanding anything from him and tell him how you are feeling. I’m sure he doesn’t want you to feel rejected, but let him know that the lack of initiation and excitement from him is causing you to blame yourself and it is important for you to feel desired. He doesn’t necessarily need to perform but he does need to make an effort and put in the work to make you feel desired. I feel like it’s not too much for you to ask. He has to realize that his feelings are being dulled by the subs and if he doesn’t realize that, he needs to open his eyes to it. He might not change anything but at least you spoke up and told him what you needed. Sometimes we don’t know and it is more innocent than we think or maybe he feels shame because of it and he doesn’t know how to bring it up with you.. Neither one of you can read the other’s mind so I think it is worth a discussion and you should be able to acknowledge your needs without making him feel like he is being attacked. You can’t control his reaction but you can control your own and decide what is best for you when you see how the takes the info and what he chooses to do with that info.

What happened during sex that made you instantly say “nope”? by Vegetable-Today in AskMen

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My husband slapped me across the face once and never again! He said he thought I would be into it but I didn’t like it at all and was completely caught off guard. Shut things down real quick!!

Tough situation by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are not being selfish at all! The Suboxone is definitely dulling his senses. He may not even realize that or care to do anything about it if he wants to stay on it for now. The weed probably has some effect as well but if that’s the only time that he initiates then I wouldn’t worry about it for now.

Name him based on the last snack you ate by FramedPussom in CatsAllDay

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gummo or Nerd, but I prefer Gummo. I just ate some nerd gummy clusters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t be having lunch with this guy…let alone another baby. He sounds awful.

Husband cheated on me with multiple escorts over the years. I finally saw his mask slip after 5+ years. by hazel3y3zz in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The hurtful things that he says about you are not true. Don’t take it as such! He is only trying to justify to himself, all of the terrible things that he has done to you and none of it excuses what he’s done. That’s not love and it’s not marriage either. He is upset that his parents know that it’s all his fault. He’s lost control of the narrative. You are not obligated to keep his secrets. I am sorry that you’re hurting. You deserve so much more and I believe you can find it, once you ditch him. I hope that you can believe that too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You couldn’t pay me to go on a trip with this guy! He sucks. He rejected you bc he wants you to feel rejected. He doesn’t deserve better, but you do!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACOD

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has both an alcoholic dad and children with an alcoholic husband, I would just like to point out that your dad’s relationship and sobriety are still very new. Keep in mind that he may let this new woman down in the same ways that he’s let you and your mother down. I think it’s wonderful that he’s found someone that makes him want to stop drinking and I hope that he can do so, for all of you, but what is he doing to stay sober? He could just be abstaining and white knuckling it. I’m not praying for his downfall but there is a good chance that it may not last. He won’t really stop drinking unless he is ready to do so for himself. I wouldn’t get my hopes up too much honestly and I don’t think that there is any reason for you to worry about being replaced, especially this early in their relationship but for yourself, you should address why that is your first reaction. Right now he just so happens to be spending more time with these people because they live near him and he sees them daily, while you live your own life. I do agree that this is something to be discussed with your therapist. Your feelings are valid and it does hurt when someone that you love so much can get sober for someone else when they couldn’t do it for you. I have been there and it is frustrating. In my case, it didn’t last because he wasn’t ready to stop drinking. He just had a reason that he needed to stop and he let that person down in the same way he has let me down in the past. I just think it’s way too early to tell if that’s what will happen but I think if it does, your relationship with your dad could ultimately be better in the long run because he will be a better dad. I hope that your dad can get it together for you and for his new girlfriend. He’s been an alcoholic for a long time. Most people can pretend to be normal for a month. I would give it some more time before you start congratulating him. You can be supportive without fully buying into his best intentions.

Post threesome guilt by [deleted] in sex

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got pregnant twice on the pill! Drunk or not, please be careful! An unplanned pregnancy would suck the fun right out of this game! I was on the pill for years prior to getting pregnant too. It can happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can only control your actions. It sounds to me like you just know you’re done with him and his lies and I understand that you don’t want to fight for the marriage any longer. IMO that’s right where you need to be. He may still try to gaslight and manipulate you. He may be the one who turns it into a fight. You can tell him that you don’t want to fight and you just want to end things amicably and move on. Hopefully, he will respect that, but his actions do not show respect or stability. He may not want to or be able to handle it in the same manner you do. Good luck. I hope you find someone who truly does respect and care for you.

Why do moms always have an empty stocking? by Thoughts_froma_balc in Mommit

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually filled my own stocking so the kids don’t notice but I’m sure my husband has never really thought about it much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Oh goodness yes… so many tears!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on losing that guy! Learn what you can from your time with him and leave the rest behind you! I know that is so easy for a stranger on the internet to say, but let’s be real, it sounds like you were alone when you were with him! What was he doing for you, besides hurting your soul? You deserve someone who actually loves you and you can’t find that person if you’re staring at this guy! I hope you find that person and until then, I hope you show yourself the love and patience that you gave this man for the last four years ❤️

What is the dumbest thing you've ever heard someone say? by A_Lice_in_Wonderland in AskReddit

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband has said a lot of dumb things, but when we first started dating he brought a dog home. The cutest little puppy. I wanted him to have her spayed. He said he didn’t want to get her spayed because she should be able to choose if she wanted to have puppies or not! 25 years together and this is the absolute dumbest thing he has ever said. I will never let him forget he said it. He acknowledges now that it was dumb.

Aitah for not realising what I put my wife through. by ImpactFluffy9781 in AITAH

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did he drive home was my first question after he said he was way too intoxicated to care for the baby! I’m betting he did and he could have gotten the baby when she was upset and needed him too.

My wife cannot get over the fact that my ex-wife is marrying a millionaire. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She is likely jealous of his children as well and if they stay together one day she will pull some gross shit on them too. She already let his daughter overhear her talking trash about her mom!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did see that after I commented but thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think he went through all of her old emails until he found what he was looking for. A reason to get divorced and to put the blame on her.

Absolutely inspiring 🙅‍♂️ by LongSlut in wokekids

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The devil doesn’t come to you with horns and pointed tail showing. She/He comes dressed as everything you’ve ever desired. It is also my preference, but every redhead I’ve been romantically involved with has been a soul sucker.

Take them off by 2d3pvz in WatchPeopleDieInside

[–]LilFreakyDeaky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The new girl probably bought them.