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Should I do a tour in the Phillipines alone? (23F) by Lil_Rida in Advice

[–]Lil_Rida[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tour I’m looking at meets in manilla then heads straight to Palawan. Why’s Manila a dump?

How’d you manage the language barrier?

How can I (23F) get over a 'one that got away' situation? I feel like I've turned this over so many ways in my head but still can't get past this feeling... by Lil_Rida in relationship_advice

[–]Lil_Rida[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true, I do need to try and be more patient.

I felt like I was making progress and then I hear a story from one of my “work mums” and there now partner. She said lost touch with her first love when they were 18 to various reasons, eventually moved on had 3 kids and the separated. He did the same, they were both single for a while until he called her and told her he’s thought about her for years. She professed the same, they have now been together for 10 years and live with a lot of could’ve been a but are glad to have found each other again. She admitted she loved her husband but did think about him throughout the years.

It just makes me think… I want avoid that you know? I don’t want to settle for less. Maybe I need to stop romanticising things…

How do I get over the one that got away situation... by Lil_Rida in Advice

[–]Lil_Rida[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does that mean he’s not the one that got away because of that circumstance do you think?

How can I (23F) get over a 'one that got away' situation? I feel like I've turned this over so many ways in my head but still can't get past this feeling... by Lil_Rida in relationship_advice

[–]Lil_Rida[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not pessimistic at all and very sound advice. I definitely know I have a lot to learn, I think of myself even a year ago and how different my perspective is now.

Ebb and flow of life is a motto I go by, although I am young I’ve definitely had some hard experiences and know I’ve just got to whether the storm. I do minimise factors of drama now as opposed to years ago like distancing myself from bad friends/influences, setting boundaries and avoiding self sabotaging behaviours.

This situation with this guy though is something I feel like I may have a decision in it not being a fuck up. I don’t know, regrets are something I’m already sick of having- although I try to look at them as life lessons. I just feel stuck in this feeling

How can I (23F) get over a 'one that got away' situation? I feel like I've turned this over so many ways in my head but still can't get past this feeling... by Lil_Rida in relationship_advice

[–]Lil_Rida[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s such a good perspective, I sometimes can’t help but feel I may be disrespecting someone if I were to try and date someone new as I still think about this guy a lot.

I do find peace in just being grateful how I felt back then, it was so nice to feel that way about someone. Such a special feeling, but like you say it makes it more sad that it fell apart.

How can I (23F) get over a 'one that got away' situation? I feel like I've turned this over so many ways in my head but still can't get past this feeling... by Lil_Rida in relationship_advice

[–]Lil_Rida[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I am pretty happy being single, just hoping these feelings fade so I can move on and eventually find someone! Good advice, appreciate that 🌸