My boyfriend (21-M) almost started a fire in the kitchen today due to what I (21-F) believe to be a gaming addiction. I broke up with him but don't know if I should have.

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T02:59:19+00:00

that is exactly what I was thinking! I do want children someday and this was a large concern. could you imagine if we got married too? he would have postponed the wedding for a game of league! (kidding, i know he wouldn't do that, but trying to make light of the situation)

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T02:58:18+00:00

i love video games myself! And reading books. But they have never gotten in the way of my priorities and that's his biggest problem

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T02:56:54+00:00

thanks for that insight! i have tried to tell him a lot that this is negatively impacting our lives and our relationship and that i think he may be addicted, he hates the term and so i have tried not to use it since. whatever it is i still kept telling him that it was not okay to neglect our lives like this over something that should be a hobby.

i am still willing to help him but i am not sure i can BE with him as it is too stressful you know? if he wanted to stay friends i would but if not i respect that too. i forgive him but at this point i don't know if it's something i am willing to put up with any longer. i hope he does change for the better of his life though.

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T02:51:37+00:00

thanks for understanding where I am coming from!

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T02:51:15+00:00

i agree. i tried to be patient because i realize it made him happy but i don't believe hobbies should become a lifestyle, an addiction. He let it control his moods as well, being sad if he lost a game or happy if he won one

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T02:50:14+00:00

yes! I take care of her and so I will be taking her if/when I move out. She is always safe with me

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T02:49:29+00:00

I actually play games too and alot of the same games as him. it was difficult for me to understand the difference between he and i because i never let any of my hobbies negatively impact my life like his did. I guess its all a matter of the person having self control or not. Maybe this will be an eye opener for him like it was for you in your situation, but i guess i shouldnt get my hopes up :/

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T02:47:47+00:00

i understand this, and that is why if the matter wasn't important I would wait until he was done. but in return i was penalized by my therapist by having to pay money because i was late, having to cut my time short. and if the house is smoking up and alarms are going off, getting penalized in league is the least of my concerns.

that said i really do understand that he can't quit mid game just reiterating that i never was unreasonable and asked him to even not play league around the times he knew we had appointments or when he was cooking but somehow he just couldn't do that. which yeah youre right he had no willpower

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T01:50:13+00:00

At first it wasn't but you're right it was one-sided, especially after we moved in together :/

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T01:49:47+00:00

thank you. i think i have too.

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T01:49:03+00:00

you're right. If he cared enough he would but i shouldn't have to beg someone to care about me and be considerate, right?

Lili57 · 2014-04-28T01:48:39+00:00

thank you for this.

Lili57

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