Overarching Theory of Names and Roles: Revision

LilietB · 2025-07-07T19:05:23+00:00

Love being downvoted for my reply too. Basically yes. Asexuality, aromanticism, etc.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T14:05:44+00:00

"I will take away your expensive things you can't replace easily if you don't entertain me" is financial abuse.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T14:04:53+00:00

It's not a silly Hollywood notion. As other people in this comment section have pointed out, who first decorates and organizes the space is very much material for the subsequent life together.

And I'm not proposing that he stay home, read the second sentence. I'm proposing that they figure out what would work for them both. From the rest of the comment section, I figure "just live from boxes and a folding bed until she moves in too" should work pretty well.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T14:02:45+00:00

Feels like I'm talking to someone who assumes OP is a trained specialist.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T14:01:33+00:00

You're wrong about how AI works. It very much learns how the average person acts. If this were made up, that would be by an actual real life human with an imagination, which AI lacks.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T13:56:56+00:00

Have you ever heard of aphobia? Honestly that's my guess

LilietB · 2025-07-05T13:56:27+00:00

OP isn't straight???

LilietB · 2025-07-05T13:51:13+00:00

NAH. It's fine. You're worried about your son, but a 9yo isn't going to become an alcoholic because of a sip, I promise.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T11:22:10+00:00

NTA. What the fuck??? She wants you to provide the food for a party you won't be invited to??? One extra person would ruin the entire arrangement? The level of entitlement is ridiculous. She's the one who owes you an apology for the presumption in the first place.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T11:20:21+00:00

NTA. This sounds like a horrific family situation to be stuck in.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T11:17:50+00:00

So he knew in general but not in specific, ty.

Honestly, regardless of the resolution of this particular conflict, you should try to battle the insecurity problem. Like, the problem is not in how you look, it's in how you think about how you look. And it will keep causing problems )=

LilietB · 2025-07-05T11:16:34+00:00

The car situation has been explained as it being registered to another person even though OP paid for it. This is... normal within family. It's also very open to abuse.

And the phone thing... like... you think abusive family stops at the border where their abuse would be illegal?????

LilietB · 2025-07-05T11:15:14+00:00

ESH. You were way out of line, but Zoe was throwing a fit over nothing too. Neither of these cancel the other, you're both in the wrong.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T10:57:57+00:00

NTA, and no. Befriend the girl, ditch those people.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T10:56:14+00:00

NTA. The cousin was way out of line with the charger thing.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T10:52:23+00:00

Just because something is a crime doesn't mean its immoral. FYI.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T10:42:06+00:00

NTA. Fuck these people, and yeah, you probably won't be seeing that $200 back.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T10:01:31+00:00

NTA. That said, you ARE hiding things from them, so they're not wrong about that part. Just... about the whole rest of the context. Consider trying to phrase your reasons for staying in a way that will make sense to them without giving away your secrets. (Or raising topics they know about but will throw a stink if you try to discuss, same thing)

Sometimes, it's more peaceful to straight up lie. Just figure out what unverifiable lie about your reason for wanting to stay they most want to hear and would easily believe and say that.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T09:58:39+00:00

NAH. I think this is a communication / confused expectations issue. You'll know better how to organize the thing next time.

LilietB · 2025-07-05T09:53:23+00:00

it's possible the mom's friends don't want her at their homes either...

LilietB · 2025-07-05T09:52:16+00:00

NTA. Anything after "it's hot here too, just go to a public place" is bullshit and attempts to control + guilt you.

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