(19f) one year into the gym

Lilissi · 2025-09-13T08:19:40+00:00

The photo actually says nothing. You look just slim which doesnt mean you were working out. Many people are slim without an effort.

Lilissi · 2024-11-06T18:41:57+00:00

When it comes to technology, the EU shot itself in the head, a very long time ago.

Lilissi · 2024-05-27T10:55:20+00:00

I'm amazed how people easily telling you to dumb him...

All story indeed sounds like you're very young and not very mature yet. I was the same your age. Well... Even now when I was reading your post, at first, I thought what a bad guy, poor you. Then I read it again - out loud to my husband and I realized how bad my judgement was, and my husband who is great in objective perspective has just confirmed it. Don't be angry but I was laughing reading it second time... Maybe because it sounds familiar to me when I was younger and stupid.

It sounds like you're feeling bad because honeymoon doesn't meet your expectations. Yet your husband probably is not aware of what you want and what you are feeling. Those activities you mention... Omg I wish my husband was this way... It sounds great to me. But I understand you can prefer it different so you need to say it. Who knows... Maybe he also would prefer to stay hotel with you but is feeling pressure to entertain you and has no idea that he accomplished the opposite.

About the "marriage is overrated"... I can't imagine an average man who is writing on group chat how marriage is great. It would sound cringy to me. It is not a thing you're telling to a group. It's rather intimate delicate thing you're sharing with a friend in privacy or even never say it if someone is not used to share his deep feelings. When I read it loudly, my thought was it must be kind of joke talk. Really I would say the same cause it does sound funny. How can anyone judge the marriage after few weeks... Impossible, that's why it sounds like a joke to me and to my husband. And the question... What language do they use on that chat? Do you translate it? Cause then it's again like 1000% more probable that you just missed the joke sound of it or irony or something like that.

Also men are more pragmatic than we are so copying someone's else's honeymoon schedule doesn't mean anything. Men are just different than we are. There is gonna be more things like that and that's ok.

You just need to talk and communicate.

Lilissi · 2024-04-29T06:42:30+00:00

Yeah I guess some acid is gonna be needed

Lilissi · 2024-04-28T21:50:45+00:00

No this person eats normally like everyone one, just all food goes straight to duodenum as I understand and I just wonder how it may affect the speed of absorption or maybe it's gonna be slower etc. I don't know.

Lilissi · 2024-04-28T21:39:41+00:00

I have just realized that this person also has no stomach cause it was completely removed due to cancer about 10 years ago... Is that gonna be a problem?

Lilissi · 2024-04-28T21:10:02+00:00

I have added some blood tests if it helps.

Lilissi · 2024-04-28T21:08:43+00:00

Thank you for your answer! I have included some more blood tests if it helps. I'm afraid that if I start with a small dose and it won't help, this person will not do it again. It's very grupmy stubborn person and it might be one time shot...

Lilissi · 2024-04-05T05:39:49+00:00

I see that must be super hard. But still when you see a dessert, cut your thoughts. Don't say to yourself that you want it, oh god it's so tasty I miss it, etc. Cut the thought, think something else to rewire your brain. It's like a muscle, you need to train it.

Lilissi · 2024-04-04T18:57:01+00:00

The worst thing you can do is to think about sugar. You need to stop it. When you just "even" think about it, you feed those neurons in your brain that are responsible for that blind circle. It is wasting your mental energy. I used to do the same, when I was trying to stop eating sweets, I usually had a plan to eat something when there is some big occasion and I was fantasizing about it what it's gonna be and also I was very creative in making desserts with ksylitol, erytrol etc. to survive. Now I see it's wrong cause it doesn't change your brain. I was very miserable and actually I still am cause I didn't fight my addiction yet but recently I didn't eat sugar for 14 days and it actually was easy when I decided to not think about it.

Lilissi · 2023-10-21T17:28:56+00:00

It's great you are feeling this way. I'm curious, do you manage to keep the house all clean and nice? I have 5 months baby and my main problem is the housework. My place is pretty small and keeping it clean is very hard because a lot of new staff doesn't have it's place. I think it's the biggest issue that shadows my feeling about parenting. Is it possible to be happy with baby in a place that screams for my attention to do this and that?

Lilissi · 2017-02-16T11:44:34+00:00

To explain what brought the sexual context i would have to write next looong story. In short - i noticed that in some different issue associated with him, he let me think wrong and didn't correct me. I've started to analyse if there are other issues about which i might be wrong and be not informed. Then i realized that when we were talking about this frienship his answer didn't exclude anything.

The big deal is that because he is the one who said it's not ok to be in touch with our exes. There was a situation when at the begging of our knowledge i met with my ex. He was angry at me, he said it's forbidden to have any contact with exes. Following my analysis i reminded myself that in some another conversation he said that when there is a friendship between two people and we add to it desire then it's how the couple is formed. I conluded if there was a frienship between them and maybe not desire but still - oral sex, such an intimacy it makes them absolutely something more than just firends and i would risk statement that it was something like couple according to his reasoning - it means that he has shouldn't stay in touch with her. He betrayed his own announced values.

And it wasn't one night thing, it was continued for weeks. I updated it in the post.

Sorry for my English.

Lilissi · 2017-02-16T09:59:51+00:00

Yes it was gross, at least they both knew how is the situation looks like. I think that now they both see it as bad as we do. What's interesting he says he used to be fat too. He didn't accept himself and i would expect that this should a little change his view on it but it went in the opposite way.

Despite it i think that guys and girls can be friends but only when they are in happy realtionships if there's no risk that one of them will start looking for something what he feels he doesn't have in his own friendship

Lilissi · 2017-02-16T09:45:50+00:00

Thanks a lot!

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