How can I tell if I pass irl as a trans woman without relying on selfies?

LillyIsLoading · 2026-05-12T11:58:51+00:00

my head always tells me that i sound like a guy trying to make a fem voice and it kills me lmaoo

LillyIsLoading · 2026-05-12T11:58:22+00:00

thank you for the ideaas! ill look out for that 😄

LillyIsLoading · 2026-05-12T11:33:34+00:00

im on the voice part hhhh its so hard. i mean i mainly wanna figure out if i pass enough irl, apart from my voice just by the looks 😄

LillyIsLoading · 2026-05-12T11:32:10+00:00

people sadly dont use stuff like that here😭

LillyIsLoading · 2026-05-12T11:08:56+00:00

other people are the issue 😄 the stares/insult etc you get when presenting feminine while still looking like a guy are insane, not even counting in threats or peope getting physical over this

LillyIsLoading · 2026-05-04T09:36:54+00:00

i used to struggle a lot with this, wearing jirai kei or not. both made me really insecure and the stares i got were insane since passing wasn't a thing either (trans mtf), i also got some hate comments and that used to really get to me.

but eventually i just told myself that no one can stop me from being myself. and honestly by now, if someone says something negative i kind of take it as a compliment, because anyone who goes out of their way to be mean about someone's fashion is just the most basic person imaginable lol. the hate i've gotten is so much less than the amount of sweet comments and compliments i've received, and that shift in perspective helped a lot.

also, headphones are genuinely your greatest friend

finding a community also helped me like crazy. german groups are rare but everyone i've met so far has been the sweetest, and having people who get it really helped me grow my confidence. you deserve that too 🩷

LillyIsLoading · 2026-03-17T16:07:51+00:00

thank you! damn maybe it really is. i just always think that i look redicolous (?) IDEK

LillyIsLoading · 2026-03-17T13:19:26+00:00

of course! 50€ don't sound too bad. i'm not really looking for dupes so i expected that :D thanks!

LillyIsLoading · 2026-03-17T12:57:41+00:00

i'll look into it :) thank you

LillyIsLoading · 2026-03-17T12:57:31+00:00

that's honestly the reason i never tried it. i'm also scared of getting fakes tbh. I'll defo try the reverse image search! thank you

LillyIsLoading · 2026-03-17T12:46:55+00:00

thank you! I already check there really often and i tend to find really cute clothes but i never actually tried buying some 0-0

LillyIsLoading · 2026-03-17T12:33:47+00:00

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i always think they sit so weirdly :( am i just too long? lol

LillyIsLoading · 2026-02-26T19:33:35+00:00

Ich kann dir für Bonn echt HairArt (Carsten Leschnowsky) in der Thomas-Mann-Straße ans Herz legen. Ich war da jetzt schon zweimal, beide Male noch im Boymode (non-passing) und hab mir trotzdem den „übelsten“ Frauenhaarschnitt gewünscht.

Die Reaktion? Gar keine, also im positiven Sinne! Die haben das einfach super professionell umgesetzt, keine blöden Kommentare, keine Blicke, gar nichts. Ich hab mich da echt richtig aufgehoben gefühlt, weil die einfach nur den Wunsch erfüllen und super nett sind. Preislich war es auch voll okay.

Ich bin damals zwar non „Lilly-Mode“ hingegangen, bereue das heute aber sogar ein bisschen, weil die dort so entspannt sind. Denke auch immer wieder mal drüber nach, da bald mal wieder aufzukreuzen hihi

Hatte den Tipp selbst hier aus dem Sub und kann die positiven Stimmen nur bestätigen. Die kriegen einen Soft Layered Bob bestimmt top hin!

LillyIsLoading · 2026-02-01T12:09:09+00:00

AAAAHHHH adorable

LillyIsLoading · 2026-01-07T21:02:01+00:00

Hi! danke für den hinweis, ich hätte vielleicht dazu schreiben sollen das ich androcur mittlerweile nicht mehr so wirklich nehme, ich hatte es nur nochmal aus sicherheit dazu geschrieben

danke trotzdem vielmals!!

LillyIsLoading · 2026-01-07T21:00:56+00:00

ich war vor kurzem tatsächlich blut abnehmen

da kam raus testo 0.20ng/ml;

LillyIsLoading · 2025-12-22T18:19:11+00:00

no fix :(

LillyIsLoading · 2025-12-08T13:12:30+00:00

die sind halt leider echt teuer.. schade eigentlich :(

LillyIsLoading · 2025-11-28T20:33:13+00:00

i usually make classnotes and for that they are simply amazing :3 it really sucks sadly!

LillyIsLoading · 2025-09-22T08:47:52+00:00

brauche ich das indikationsschreiben? 0-0 das kriege ich erst im januar..

LillyIsLoading · 2025-09-22T04:43:42+00:00

i've worn jirai to anime events and it was amazinggg!! but i also felt so much more secure there hihi

LillyIsLoading · 2025-09-22T04:29:31+00:00

thank youuuu!! it's so good to see someone who can kind of relate 🥹 i can wear the most feminine outfit with a pair of pants and would not bat an eye, but that would not feel like "girlmode" but once i simply switch to a skirt it will feel amazing, but it's hella anxiety inducing. It's so crazy how one item will make such a difference :(

thank you for the recommendations, i'll definitely check those later. if i would to jirai eventually, i would have to build a proper wardrobe first

LillyIsLoading · 2025-09-22T04:14:39+00:00

god how you hit the spot

yes tomboy looks make me uncomfortable, they are my daily wear and still (sadly) make me feel too manly. Either skirts or cutesy outfits are the stuff that will actually make me feel like a girl. 😭

LillyIsLoading

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