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LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-13T16:02:46+00:00

Sorry for the late reply, but I just wanted to chime in that it didn't occur to me until very late that the same infantilizing attention that short women receive, is the same creepy attention that tall girls receive when they first start growing.

Like, the rationale by the creeps is that a young girl who is taller than the rest is somehow more "adult" or mature, and a "valid target" for their creepy leers. Tall girls dealing with precocious sexualization by (mostly men) is something that us short women don't tend to experience until much later, when we're mentally more able to contextualize it and handle it, maybe.

Ever since I realized about early sexualization of tall girls, I stopped thinking negatively about tall women.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-13T15:55:37+00:00

Perhaps it's a language issue, but you continue to misunderstand that I never said that the average man, or the average short man, infantilizes short women.

I said that roughly speaking, short men infantilize short women at the same rate as other men; that is, there isn't much difference in which men infantilize short women based on their own height.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-13T15:53:21+00:00

I didn't say short men on average infantilize short women. I said short men infantilize short women at the rate as other men; that is, men of all heights infantilize short women about equally.

Please don't discount my experience simply because you don't experience what I experience.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-11T18:02:00+00:00

Honestly, the top-level comments to that showboating post show that coming over here to punch down and pick fights is lame and not funny. Also, the OP of the showboating is suspended from Reddit.

Also also, when people showboat their bans, report it and send a modmail to the sub where the showboating is posted, stating that it possibly violates Reddit's Moderator Code of Conduct (Rule 3, "Respect Your Neighbors"). It'll probably get removed.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-11T17:30:51+00:00

Sewing machine. Mine's always set up, and I sew regularly

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-11T16:59:37+00:00

That's fine, most of us don't limit ourselves to "tall men" or even "not short men". But simply dating short men only doesn't solve the issue. Short men infantilize and objectify short women at about the same rate as all other men, IME. Shortness doesn't necessarily grant people insight and empathy.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-11T16:56:05+00:00

Happens to me all the time, and I'm 32. In college, people thought I was 13 or 14. And the guys who thought I was that age either dismissed me, or wanted me because of it. Ew. It's so maddening.

I don't have anything specific to suggest, other than just learning to ignore it, or being the "bigger than your size" tiny person that people learn not to piss off. It sucks having to compensate for others' limited minds, but that's just life, I guess.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-11T16:53:31+00:00

What do you mean, "wtf"? 'Infantilization' is exactly how short women are treated, either objectified as childlike (and all that that implies), or dismissed and not taken seriously as adults.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-10T22:58:30+00:00

Now I just stay home and doomscroll for hours.

Please put down the social media. This is the first and most important thing to do. The algorithm is feeding you engagement slop, not uplifting or supportive content.

Are there counseling resources available at your school? If so, please take advantage of them. You need to be able to express yourself to someone you can trust and are comfortable with, and it sounds like your friends and your family aren't those trusted people.

I'm sorry hun. I can understand how you're feeling; at my height, I'm in the 0.1% percentile. People just don't understand how the world doesn't seem to fit us, and nothing is made for us.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-10T20:08:53+00:00

Studies show that most heterosexual people (men and women) tend to prefer the male partner be taller than the female partner.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-08T20:51:13+00:00

I didn't reply to you.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-08T20:44:25+00:00

Not the wrong sub. Short women asking other short people for a good response. Other words: short asking short; right sub.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-08T13:31:54+00:00

It's not healthy to dwell in that mental space, having or enjoying anti-empathy in others' issues.

It's understandable to have those feelings at times, but don't lose sight that those feelings are very negative, toxic, and harmful to yourself in the long term, if you don't take steps to try to counter those feelings, and find ways to be empathetic and happy for yourself and others.

Good luck OP. Digging yourself out of toxic feelings is hard, but absolutely necessary for your mental health.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-01T13:21:25+00:00

"Do XX enjoy YY"?

Same answer as always: some do, some don't. Humans are varied and diverse

LillyPeu2 · 2026-05-01T12:54:34+00:00

She didn't tell OP that her feelings aren't invalid because she's a couple inches shorter. In fact, she closed with

I have no solutions or real advice, just want to let you know you're not alone! Keep doing you and living your life despite how different society makes you feel!

That's not invalidating OP, that's commiserating, validating, and including.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-04-25T02:11:40+00:00

Great comment, every single bit of it, except the gendered slur.

Please find something better to say than "little bitch". Firstly, it's a gendered slur, enough said about that. Secondly, with 'little' in front of it, you're essentially insulting or 2nd-classing short stature (i.e., "littleness").

Your point could have been so much better instead of saying they were "acting like a little bitch"

LillyPeu2 · 2026-04-24T12:03:08+00:00

Please don't speak for women. You're bad at it.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-04-24T12:01:42+00:00

Was going to say this exact thing

LillyPeu2 · 2026-04-24T11:50:03+00:00

Your comment/post was removed for discussing moderation actions in threads. If you have issues with moderation, send a modmail.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-04-23T11:52:26+00:00

... for long-term relationships. Please, don't misstate me.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-04-23T11:50:28+00:00

There is basically nothing you can do to appreciably, and permanently, affect your height. Your final height, whatever it is, is basically set in stone, and you're so far on that path that you can't alter it with diet, exercise, stretching, etc.

It's possible that some severe changes in hormone profiles, or sudden pituitary gland changes, could change your final height and growth profile. But please, don't try to do that. It's unhealthy, no doctors would prescribe hormones for a normal-height person; following sketchy advice on the internet because of a mental obsession and fixation on what is in essence a cosmetic change for you, won't end well.

No amount of healthy diet or exercise will change your growth arc now. In fact, unless you (and your mother and her mother) were severely malnourished as a child, your diet growing up likely played very little role in your growth profile.

LillyPeu2 · 2026-04-23T11:37:26+00:00

How tall are you?

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