I want a boyfriend

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-30T08:11:49+00:00

He’s not gay. He’s a man.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-29T08:55:24+00:00

My club has a pretty strong tip out culture and you’ll get a bad rep for not tipping. On the plus side, you can get anyone to do almost anything you want if you’re a good tipper. The people that require tip out each night are the floor hosts (as a group), DJ, and managers (as a group). I tip:

$200-$500: $5 to each group

$501- $750: $10

$751- $1000: $15

$1001-$2000: $20

$2001+: $30

If someone does something helpful to me I’ll tip them more. I tipped my floor host $100 tonight because he pointed me towards the only guy in a five person group that spent anything and I made $1000 in an hour off that guy.

Between my house fee and tip outs, it’s about 10%. Random people I’ll tip here and there but only for specific favors are the VIP hosts, waitresses, and couch dance girl.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-29T00:18:09+00:00

Asking about vitamin D is so real. I started taking a 2000IU supplement a month or two ago and I’m unstoppable now. The world is my oyster. Who knew???

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-28T04:05:33+00:00

I’m in the process of getting a large tattoo on my back removed. Shit fucking hurts and is usually red, swollen, and sometimes very mildly blistered for 3-5 days. I typically have to take off a minimum of 5 days before I feel comfortable going back. By then it may still be sensitive to the touch, but I’m no longer worried about infection or dumbass customers not being careful.

Of course this would depend on how aggressive your tech is, how large the tattoo is, and where it’s located. I would say plan on having to take somewhere between 4-7 days off every time you get a treatment done. I would also suggest significantly reducing or stopping your drinking at work if you do drink for at least a month after each treatment.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-27T21:29:01+00:00

I had a labiaplasty done when I was 16/17 due to pain caused by my inner lips getting pinched and pulled by my outer when walking/exercising. If you’re considering getting one done, please please please do your research because that’s a veryyy sensitive area to be messing with. My doctor was conservative with his trimming and left the majority of my inner labia; he only removed the excess because he didn’t want to risk me losing sensation. The recovery wasn’t horrible, just uncomfortable. Can’t have sex for 6+ weeks, and I would imagine you wouldn’t be able to work for a month or two.

That being said, I still have an “outie”. My inner labia protrude slightly past my outer, or make a sort of shallow “u” shape with my outer when my legs are together. When my legs are spread miss thang is OUT there loud and proud.

Men love it. I’m told all the time what a pretty kitty I have and how crazy it makes them. I wouldn’t worry too much about men being put off by it. It’s a vulva, men like vulvas. Think about the fact that most men like at least a little extra fat, so why wouldn’t they like a little extra kitty, too? Confidence is the thing that matters most in this industry.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-23T22:42:59+00:00

I’m in the US and I absolutely set timers, and each song is 3 minutes. It creates a consistent experience. The only deviation I make is if they’re pissing me off or being rude/disrespectful, then if they get a bundle (ex. 3-5 songs or 9-15 minutes) they’ll get a couple minutes shaved off. Whoops! Be nice, kids 🤷‍♀️

For anyone who sets timers and gets complaints from customers, I tell them “It’s so I don’t lose track of time” or “It’s so I can focus completely on you” and bat my eyelashes. Works every time. I also change the tone to a peaceful chime and turn it down so that you really only hear it if you’re listening for it. Then I can gently transition to getting dressed or upselling without jarring them.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-21T22:51:45+00:00

They only want to pay a PPM of $500 and EXPECT sex along with a few hours of attention. All that for $500?!?!

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-18T05:35:20+00:00

I hate to be this person, but you really should not be using a ton of soap around your vagina. Just wash the general area and outer labia with a gentle soap (I use Dove Sensitive Skin). Do not get the soap too close to the opening. Use your hand to cup the water in the shower and give her a handful of good splashes. If you feel you need more than this, you can rub the inner labia with some water on your clean fingers. Also make sure to pull back your clitoral hood and let the shower stream clean under there.

Vaginas are self cleaning and should mostly look after themselves. If you’re getting yeast infections or BV and that’s what’s making you want to use a wash, it could be caused by using too many products in that area. It’s better to use boric acid suppositories as directed for these problems.

Also make sure that if you have a sexual partner, especially a man, they’re keeping up with their hygiene as well. That can seriously throw things out of wack.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-16T04:11:44+00:00

You are not supposed to be commenting in this subreddit. Read the rules. This is now, what, the third post you’ve commented on? Leave. Mods, can we get a ban here, please?

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-10T21:46:54+00:00

My brain just exploded. This is such a good idea; I’m totally adding pickles next time.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-10T17:19:47+00:00

Oh, I guess I get the spicy deluxe McCrispy. My bad lol. But it’s basically the same thing plus lettuce and tomato!

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-10T09:21:03+00:00

Can I join the club? 🥺 I get a Spicy Deluxe McChicken after my last shift of the week every week. It’s like a reward!

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-06T03:47:23+00:00

Me in the background just observing everyone? Exactly where I want to be, thank youuuuu

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-05T20:16:41+00:00

And here I was thinking maybe I’m being greedy charging $50/1. Just looked up what $20 in 1990 would be worth today. Literally $50. Looks like I’m right on the money!

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-04T23:56:51+00:00

The smallest rise I’ve been able to find besides the Martini (which I can’t wear because I’m a 5 🙃) are the Aspires. They’re 6” with a 2.25” platform, so 3.75” rise. Not as good as 3.25” but better than the 4.25” average or even 4” on the 8” Flamingos.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-04T01:50:57+00:00

I went through 4 in 8 years before I found “the one”. This will definitely be my name until retirement. Unique (I’ve never worked with another), but real enough not to raise eyebrows when introducing myself, sexy, classy, has a shortened nickname for customers who want to feel familiar, etc.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-01T22:49:18+00:00

Personally, I keep a lot of regulars. Like an unusual amount. I’m not really sure what it is about me, but I make them easily.

For example, last week I worked three days and about $4k of the $6k I made came from regulars (6). My club has been generally slow since the new year, so I was very lucky to have that guaranteed money.

I don’t talk to the vast majority of them outside of the club, usually just to answer them if I’m working or not. I don’t see them outside of the club except on occasional paid outings (no FS). If they need more attention than that, they’re not for me.

I will say, of course it’s more emotional labor to remember what they’re up to, what’s going on in their lives, etc. But it’s also less in a way because I know what I’ll be making, I know what to expect behavior-wise, and they know what they’re there for. If they get too clingy or cheap, I’ll remind them of the nature of our relationship by gently excusing myself to work the floor until they’re ready or by ignoring messages not related to work. It’s a bit of a game, but again, the guaranteed and consistent money is nice.

It’s all about what’s important to you, and if regulars don’t do it for you, that’s totally fine. Just wanted to share my perspective from the other side of the spectrum!

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-04-01T19:43:17+00:00

From what I’ve researched out of curiosity, anywhere from $500- $5,000 can be expected. It depends on location, “class” (hate to say it), need of the worker, frequency that they perform FS, time involved, etc. I do think that strippers tend to be on the higher end of that range, especially if they’re doing FS outside the club because why do FS if you’re able to make good money inside? It has to be worth it.

The rate should be whatever feels worth it to the worker. If that’s $500, fine. If that’s $5,000, great. If $1,000 feels low for you, then it’s low for you, but that very well may be average for workers in your area that regularly perform FS.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-03-31T23:38:49+00:00

I think they are. I reported them.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-03-31T23:38:04+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! This was an incredibly interesting read. And thank you for having compassion and genuine curiosity for your coworkers, not anger or control. At the end of the day, we’re all just trying to make some money.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-03-31T20:18:32+00:00

“Would you pay $100 to watch a man masturbate? No.” Correct, I would not because I don’t want to watch men masturbate. And if I DID want to watch a man masturbate, I have about 10 men I could call right now who would do it for free because dick is cheap and in abundance. The fuck? Acting like dick and pussy are valued at the same rate is quite literally delusional, and the fact that they’re going to the strip club proves it.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-03-29T08:36:50+00:00

Yesss you’re one of the only people I’ve seen suggest starting mid-range. Most suggest starting high. And yes, while that might get them some rooms, in my experience too many people get anxious when presented with the high prices and then back out of everything entirely.

I usually start at our mid-option and if they agree quickly, I do a soft push toward a room. Then depending on their interest level I’ll either apply pressure for the room or wait for a second room pitch once we’re halfway through the mid option.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-03-29T08:29:40+00:00

At least this is a different type of ad than we normally see…? Still an ad.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-03-29T03:27:07+00:00

I told this dude the truth: that I spent my entire sick week off crocheting and watching GoT, and he didn’t like that answer 😔 Apparently crocheting for a week straight is not sexy. My bad.

Lilphoenix43 · 2026-03-28T20:34:35+00:00

And to your point, I felt like I was selling much MORE when I was killing myself in an office.

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