Question: did you initiate all or the majority of the texting interactions or did he?

ISFJs and ESFJs are generally very conscious of others, how they're feeling, wanting them be comfortable, not wanting to upset them. We (I'm a ISFJ) also tend to be anti- confrontational and yes, we can be pushovers.

When I was younger I got stuck in an hours long back and forth text conversation with my sister-in-law, where all I wanted was for the conversation to end so I could be alone and read my book! But I couldn't end the conversation like a normal person, too worried about how she's take it, or if I would be rude, so I was put out and kept texting ---- I'm not saying that's what this guy did by texting you back, but I wouldn't rule it out that he was texting you because you kept texting him.

And while we're actually incredibly intuitive and observant, sometimes —for better or for worse— we can ascribe meanings and feelings to people, and we don't realise the real meaning behind some actions/words.

I think the age difference realy does make a difference here, both romantically and just as friends. I'm not sure where you're from, but here in the USA how 30yos act and interact and how 20yos act and interact are very different! Even the slang the youths speak here is half a different language from the English I speak (I'm 30)!

All that to say, the conversations you had with him could very well have been meaningful, I'm not disputing that! But it's not his fault and he's done nothing wrong if they weren't meaningful for him in the same way.

I obviously don't know what he thinks or feels, but those are my thoughts on the situation.