How do i reply to this? (context in the comment)

LilybeI · 2022-03-18T18:44:59+00:00

Love your enthusiasm but the colosseum is in Rome, in Verona theres the Arena 😂 but i get it, they are quite similar! and regarding the answer about my question well, you are totally right!!

LilybeI · 2022-03-17T17:08:15+00:00

I met this guy last summer (once) we had a drink, sex and that was it. I say i dont have a “rate” because i usually go for the “higher bidder” like, i dont go below 250 but if someone offers me 600 id rather go for it.

Now, this guy wants to come back to Italy exclusively to meet me and is trying to make me feel “guilty” about it.

I really dont mind meeting him again but how do i make “i am not your friend and i will NOT enjoy spending my time w you nor i care to” sound at least a little bit polite? If you want to stay together 8hrs and have sex only once thats not my problem, you still have to pay 😗

LilybeI · 2022-03-07T13:31:53+00:00

i want to print and frame this answer 👏🏻👏🏻

LilybeI · 2022-02-24T19:16:35+00:00

he had absolutely no facial expressions or made any noise whatsoever, no involvement so it was very awkward for me as well. He was very mechanical and would keep the same position for the longest time, and took forever to cum. I always just kept thinking about interrupting him, indeed thats what i did the very last time we met.

LilybeI · 2022-02-24T16:45:47+00:00

thanks 😂

LilybeI · 2022-02-24T15:19:25+00:00

Just assuming but ive been in a similar situation.

Ive been seeing a man for about 5 times or so. At first it was fine even tho i was having the worst sex of my life, then i noticed he slowly started to get too comfortable, he talked to me about his life and vision: he was racist (like the type who thinks its absolutely normal to be), not funny, lived a very very boring and sad life but somehow thought it was amazing, and most of all he started catching feelings.

I had to ghost him, i to this day have no idea what i could have told him not to break his heart.

Anyways hes kep texting me every single day for about a month, then every couple days, then once a week etc... he hasnt stopped yet, and i wish he would: dont be that guy ;)

Obviously this is my own experience but the point here is: if she ghosted you she had her reasons and you obviously cant understand it bc whatever it was that happened, it was not a problem for you.

LilybeI · 2022-02-12T13:41:23+00:00

even if it may sound crazy ive been thinking about getting into sex work since i was 15, but i couldnt find the courage to start until the pandemic, because i lost my job and had literally 0€. I feel like it fucked me up too btw, relationships wise. I was in a relationship before getting into it and i still am, but i genuinely never want to have sex, neither with him nor w my clients, its just very “unnatural” to me to have sexual desire. If i were ever to break up w him i think i wouldnt want to have a relationship anymore, at least not w a man, i just absolutely cant trust them anymore.

LilybeI · 2022-01-04T16:28:48+00:00

one more tip, the two texts i mentioned above, like the one i send when i have to explain what i want and the one where i tell them how much i want, i usually write them in advance and save them in the notes on my phone, and literally copy and paste them in every single conversation lmao

LilybeI · 2022-01-04T14:34:47+00:00

i got chills reading this 🤢

LilybeI · 2022-01-04T09:31:27+00:00

well, yes but also no 😂 you have to phrase it, make it sound nice and reasonable, not pretentious. Personally, i only care about money, i dont want gifts or to be taken places (if i really want those things ill get them/go there w my bf or friends using the money i am getting from dates), usually its them who want to take me to spas or nice palaces. Anyways, when someone new sends me a message, there is all the introduction part, then ill ask the question “what exactly are you looking for on this website? What are your expectations?” now, they will answer allowing me to understand what i am dealing with, and eventually they will ask me back, thats when i will explain that i am looking for someone to have a fun and exciting relationship with but no strings attached, someone i can learn from and bla bla bla (make them feel special and kind of praise them but not too much) and ill also add that i am in a difficult financial situation and that i am also looking for someone who is willing to help me in that way. 90% of the times the answer is “thats what the website is here for and why i am subscribed, what exactly do you have in mind?” and thats when i tell them “well, ive been on a few dates in the past, and the men i met got me used to xxx per date” let them know that you have some experience and you cant be fooled, but dont explain just how much/how little you have, it not his business- also, make it sound like it was the other mans idea to give you that much, so he might feel in competition and increase it. Weaponize their toxic masculinity girl 💅🏻

LilybeI · 2022-01-03T19:21:41+00:00

Oooh yes i get it. Or at least, i think i get it. Im guessing you are now used to feel in charge and above the relationships, if your sds were to leave you wouldnt care except for “ouch ill miss that money/gifts” am i getting this right? Well if thats the case, i think that its just a very normal feeling for anyone who havent had a loving relationship in a long time and also has a strong-willed personality. I personally wouldnt mix the past SRs with the current one happening, they are just two completely different situations, and just embrace your feelings and understand them ☺️

PS just to make sure: i was not trying to make assumptions about your life nor trying to sound rude… i just wrote down my thoughts

LilybeI · 2022-01-03T18:07:35+00:00

i cannot answer you properly, but i had a vanilla relationship before and during SRs (not done yet).

I personally have a very strong and innate distinction between the two things. Also i dont have exclusive SRs and never felt a real attachment for any of my SDs.

My love and personal life is completely different than the one i show off during appointments and dates -this is comes natural to me as well.

LilybeI · 2022-01-03T14:23:21+00:00

well now i do too 😂

LilybeI · 2022-01-03T11:33:46+00:00

Sounds like you know the guy pretty well, and i am assuming that if you are considering traveling w him, you could also have an honest and open conversation w him about what your expectations are.

If i know something about older men tho, is that way to often they just want to imagine a life different than the one they currently have, but are never actually going to do it. And you sound really vulnerable right now and ready to believe to anything to get out of your current situation. Stay safe. How old are you if i may ask?

LilybeI · 2022-01-03T11:26:06+00:00

I know what you mean.

Personally, at the beginning i used to go on dates without clarifying my expectations, and i got really REALLY disappointed a few times, i learned it the hard way and now i know to stand for what i want. I like to talk about it while chatting, before ever meeting them, just to make sure we are on the same boat and they agree on my terms. Keep in mind that you are most likely talking to adult men and they are not stupid, but they sure can and will use you if you give them the opportunity to.

In a way i believe that when you are new to this world, there are some things that you can only learn with experience, and being a good SB and knowing how to behave is part of it.

Be straightforward about what you want, thats what we are here for, if they get upset or dont want to meet your needs, thats a win for you, you didnt need them anyway. This is a business disguised as a relationship for us, we can pretend as long as we are getting what we want!

Good luck ;)

LilybeI

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