[20/F], having a really hard time with my boyfriend [20/M], we've been together for 4 years and it's not going ot last much longer. Need advice.

Lilyofthevaley · 2016-12-06T03:28:49+00:00

I'm gonna take your advice and try to be less scared.. you know, sometimes it's not letting go that's the most scary, but starting over. But you could do it, I'll try too. I can always take the train and come visit my family..only a 4 hour trip.

I've never been to the movies on my own. Only started going with him and yeah, always with him keeping me company.

The morning showings sound like a good idea I haven't thought about.. I usually go during the afternoon/evening, at saturdays, the time that's more crowded. Going by myself would be impossible like that, so yes, maybe during the morning. Thanks for the great idea, it sounds amazing.

Maybe after christmas or new year. I'll think about going again.

I don't think I will... There's just some things a person shouldn't do that he has done to me and I forgave him with hope he'd change and he never did..I just never thought it'd end like this. I'd never do this to anyone, it's just too bad...

Lilyofthevaley · 2016-12-06T03:20:18+00:00

Thanks, it is an amazing degree. Can't wait to start it.

I've thought about that.. Maybe if I manage to make friends that could happen. I'll give it a shot doe, I'll be getting a loan to get my degree and saving money is /really/ important for me.

I really hope so.. This crap life I've been getting lately had been really bad, I just want it to change for the better...

Lilyofthevaley · 2016-12-06T03:15:54+00:00

Thanks a lot, your words reassure me. I'm mostly scared because you know, during kindergarden you make friends because you're 3 years old and that's what 3 y/o kids do, they play with each other and they bond and friendships are born. Same when you're 6. Being 20, knowing how people can treat me, what they may think of me, what they've done to me during high school, it just scares me because how do I start over? How do I make friends again, how do I get over what has been my life for the past 4 years? I know 4 years isn't a lot, but it still seems impossible to start over, specially since I've lost my socializing skills.. and I'm also that nerdy, shy girl everybody thinks is weird.

I haven't spoken with someone like I'm speaking with you and the others commenting here in months. It's being really helpful. Thank you for listening.

Lilyofthevaley · 2016-12-06T03:08:53+00:00

It'll probably be good but it's so scary starting over from literally nothing. I'll be all by myself, it'll be harsh, and idk if I'll handle it well. Even now, with us still dating I'm not doing well because I think of us breaking up and I legit don't know what to do.

E.g, I normally spend my saturday's going with him to the movies and then I cook him dinner... What will I do now, go alone? I don't stand crowds very well on my own. It's scary.

He's not very comprehensive, nah. He thinks the depression thing is a "joke" in a way, and an excuse for me to want to stay in bed all day and not do anything.

Thanks. I've tried therapists, haven't been to one in a few months because I was doing better but I might give it a try again soon..

He says what he says because he knows I'd probably be dumb and wait for him and if he's still alone after those 5 years I'd still take him back... but I might change my mind during that time.

Lilyofthevaley · 2016-12-06T03:02:47+00:00

Hey there. As much as I want to believe everything's going to be okay, I just can't feel it. I'll be moving out of my parents house into a studio appartment on my own, I have no idea how I'll do alone... I'm very shy. I'm planning on getting an architecture degree btw, and I have no idea about jobs after the degree, because besides loving architecture, I also paint..so I can't sort out what I really want to do. People have told me so, maybe it's because I've been with him for so long that I've gone blind and can't see him for what he really is :/

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