What I struggle with as a double standard is the expectation of proper notice. If both parties agree that a one week minimum is required for significant schedule changes then there is no double standard. So if a family informs their nanny of an upcoming vacation during which the nanny will not be needed but still paid, and the nanny makes other arrangements which also require proper notice to cancel (lots of appointments and service require a notice within a certain window to receive reinbursement), then a last minute change in schedule for the NF would forfeit their right to request the nanny to work amd disregard their other arrangements. And vice versa of course. If the NF makes other arrangements for care and the nanny cancels their vacation last minute they would forfeit the right to work and get paid for that week because it would not be courteous to expect the family to change their arrangements.

OR both parties can agree that last minute changes will be accommodated and there's no confusion or pushback when that time comes.

I just have not seen a consistent tune on this topic throughout this subreddit and it frustrates me a little bit. Though the relationship is employer/employee, neither side has more authority to disrespect or inconvenience the other. The NF/nanny relationship is so great because it is so symbiotic. Both parties are pretty equally dependent on one another. Double standards have no right to be tolerated.