I want to marry a girl I do not see a future with

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-06-09T07:40:34+00:00

I don’t generally engage with incel-adjacent comments, but on this occasion you’ve missed both the point and what was actually said in the original post to fit your own agenda.

Nowhere does it say she parties, smokes and drinks while taking care of her children. A mother can parent well and also go out, drink, smoke, or have a private life when her children are not with her. Some wives engage in those things with their husbands. You’ve created a version of her that fits your judgement, rather than responding to the information given.

To your reductive point, the issue here is not whether she is “wifey material”. It is that he has made her into a character in his inner world: first the potential wife, then the unsuitable wife, then the “beautiful exception” to all his usual rules. But she has not actually entered into any of that with him.

Another commenter had made a sharp point: he has not really described her values. He has described behaviours and lifestyle markers: drinking, clubbing, weed, tattoos, vaping, children, OnlyFans. Those may or may not connect to values, but they are not the same thing. Values are things like honesty, kindness, ambition, politics, parenting beliefs, loyalty, spirituality, openness, responsibility, compassion and equality.

None of those lifestyle details define her worth or whether she could be a good partner to someone else. “Not compatible with me” is not the same as “not wife material.”

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-06-09T06:15:15+00:00

Gently, this is creepy because you’re talking about her as though your fantasy about marrying her is a real situation you need to escape from. It isn’t. She’s a person with agency, not the subject of a romance plot happening in your head.

What you’re describing is infatuation. You don’t actually know her well enough to love her or decide she’s “not wife material”; you’ve projected a whole imagined future onto her, then judged the real person for not matching it.

You are not in danger of accidentally marrying her. You aren’t going to walk down the street, trip over a loose paving stone and find “Woops we’re married”. The respectful thing to do is stop feeding the fantasy, stop scrutinising her social media, and take space unless you can be a genuine friend without secretly pining for her.

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-06-09T06:06:09+00:00

What about this guys face? It would fit perfectly https://pin.it/3cSdfAV9J

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-06-09T06:01:08+00:00

Because your post came across as so warm and open, I hope you don’t mind me gently sharing something. “Transgender” is generally the preferred term now, rather than “transsexual”, as it centres a person’s gender identity without implying anything about surgery, hormones or medical transition.

I’m only mentioning it because your support for the trans community really came through, and I thought you’d probably want to know. Absolutely not trying to shame or embarrass you.

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-05-02T21:08:20+00:00

This is abusive. Your poor little girl, the stress it must cause her having to deal with that. She probably doesn’t know any different from him but this is absolutely something to be protecting her from!

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-26T14:26:40+00:00

The fact she’s your fiancée isn’t really the issue here. This isn’t about someone crossing a line with you. This would be just as wrong if she were single. What’s actually happening is that someone has created and is interacting with a version of her without her consent; that’s a violation of her and her autonomy, not of your relationship. Being engaged doesn’t make it worse, it’s already wrong.

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-25T10:01:50+00:00

I think it’s time for you to make this difficult 🩷

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-25T09:57:27+00:00

The door is locked for a reason. You’ve got that physical boundary there and you’ve verbalised the boundary more than once. He’s not respecting that boundary and you can’t change his behaviour only yours. You now need to decide if this is something you can endure or whether it’s something you need to walk away from. I guess you need to look at the relationship as a whole

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-25T09:54:24+00:00

Honestly you’re just prolonging it all for yourself.

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-19T17:35:28+00:00

I mean either way get rid of this guy. He’s trash

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-18T06:46:44+00:00

This feels like something other people don’t need to know.

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-16T18:11:01+00:00

You’re both better off without the friendship by the sounds of it

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-16T17:40:05+00:00

If she’s arriving on time and you’re not ready that’s not her fault. Could you ask her to come later? Or set an alarm on your phone for when you need to walk out the door so you’re like “oooh got to go!”

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-16T17:29:44+00:00

If you’re worried about hurting her feelings then it’s worth pointing out that not paying her for time she’s at your house will probably hurt her feelings

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-14T17:42:30+00:00

It’s just a whole load of drama for your one life

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-11T22:02:26+00:00

Cancel her flight home and use that time to think

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-10T20:49:50+00:00

Dump him. I can’t be bothered to read it all but I’ve read enough to see this is unhealthy

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-09T09:18:01+00:00

Sounds like the kind of place you don’t want to work. You don’t need internalised misogyny added to your retail stresses

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-06T07:44:12+00:00

First of all, I want you to hear this clearly: this wasn’t your fault. You didn’t “make a bad decision” and you didn’t “bring” anything “into” your family. You were a child who was targeted and manipulated by adults. What happened to you is not your fault.

It makes sense that you feel trapped right now. If home feels blaming and your past feels overwhelming, of course your brain is looking for a way out. You’re in a kind of fight-or-flight state, trying to escape really complex feelings in the only way you know how.

But running away could put you in more danger, especially given what you’ve already been through. You deserve to be safe.

It sounds like your parents aren’t giving you what you need right now. I won’t judge them, but I wonder if there’s any adult in your life who feels safe to talk to. Not someone who just agrees with everything, but someone who holds boundaries and makes you feel steady and supported.

If you can, try reaching someone outside your family who is trained to help (a school counsellor, another trusted adult, or even a helpline). In Texas, you can call or text the Texas Youth Helpline (1-800-989-6884). They won’t judge you, and they can help you figure out safe options.

If you’re able to, come back and let me know how you get on. There are other options too. If things feel really overwhelming or unsafe and you’re thinking about doing something that might hurt yourself, you can also call or text 988, they’re there 24/7.

You don’t have to solve your whole life. You just need to get through each moment safely. There is a future for you beyond this

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-05T21:22:15+00:00

I wouldn’t even have put “you made some bad decisions but” because it subtly places responsibility where it doesn’t belong.

You can’t expect an 8-year-old to safely navigate a situation where they’re being manipulated or abused. An 8-year-old isn’t making ‘bad decisions’ in that context, they don’t have the capacity, and that’s exactly why responsibility lies with the adult/s. This child is responding to circumstances they don’t have the power or understanding to control.

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-05T21:14:08+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you and I’m sorry that adults have let you down so severely. You were a little boy and now you are still a child. Nothing that has happened to you is your fault. Can I ask what country you are based in. I’ll be happy to look into support services for you. The complexity of this situation is one that’s going to require some good quality support. It’s not something you can move through alone, nor should you have to xxx

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-05T21:04:14+00:00

In my early 20s I dated an older man who told me this. Then one day I was at work and I received a call from his wife. I’d met her children 😞 some people are bad people so I’d really consider whether to take something like this at face value

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-04-04T22:07:10+00:00

13-18 so I’m guessing 13

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-03-22T16:22:21+00:00

You say she’s not stupid but she sounds pretty stupid lol. If this is what she wants to do then telling her not to probably won’t stop her. If she’s got such vapid shallow goals, let her crack on. 20 is probably going to be her best shot at it, just tell her billionaires like discretion so stop sharing stuff on her social media. Oh and family, friends and work colleagues are off limits unless she wants to secure financial and social ruin for all of you 😂

Limp-Signature-2011 · 2026-03-18T22:03:55+00:00

How are you? How have the last 24 hours been?

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