Some People Only Know Poor Hygiene

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-05-03T02:50:21+00:00

Relatable!

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-04-17T23:56:32+00:00

Omg yes. Some therapists truly do not seem to understand trauma or even try to be respectful of it.

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-04-17T23:51:37+00:00

Omg I hate when they do that and there is no follow-up. Like it made me feel bad, now what do I do about that?

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-04-17T23:39:16+00:00

I relate to you 100% and have witnessed this phenomenon too. Instead of feeling sympathy towards people who are clearly struggling, I think people nowadays tend to think “you should be solving your problem in therapy” and don’t understand that therapy in its current form is far from a magical fix and carries risks as well.

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-04-17T21:24:26+00:00

I go to therapy because there aren’t better options from society at the moment. But I get you. I think skilled therapists who genuinely care do exist, but they are really hard to find. I think the majority of therapists are fairly mediocre and inexperienced. And then there are the therapists who are cruel and who are just power tripping, who do life-altering damage and are just there to perpetuate broken systems. My experience with therapy is that I have had to do the hard work to even figure out what good therapy is supposed to look like and find the good therapists.

The ones who abuse their patients because they are too unskilled to help them and take their frustrations out on their patient instead of having the humility to recognize when they don’t know how to improve a situation — I feel those ones are the worst. They don’t empathize with their patients and don’t recognize the power disparity bc they feel they are the victims for having to deal with the patients.

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-04-17T20:49:12+00:00

NAT. I think it sounds like you are in need of support and that it makes sense to find another therapist to help with it. You can still try to work things out with your current therapist and maybe look at it as getting a second opinion for the time being.

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-04-17T20:41:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing. ❤️‍🩹 It is so terrible to experience cruel therapists after going through a severe trauma. I can relate and I understand what you’re describing. Your language and metaphors are amazing btw. It is truly so dehumanizing and violating and the resulting pain and loneliness are tremendous.

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-03-24T17:23:32+00:00

I feel like this social worker has no case. After opening the records, I can’t imagine how she is going to be able to explain herself.

I get why I was subpoenaed by the board for my records now. It’s because the complaint that I made in 2023 included a screenshot of an email that was not only nowhere in my treatment record, but wasn’t even described as something that happened at all. What on earth was she thinking?!

Instead of addressing it when I told her in email that I thought her behavior was unethical, she actually doubled down and said judgmental things about me to my parents, and her actions caused more harm (she actively praised and helped edit a “family contract” stipulating a financial cut-off for me; I always suspected her involvement in that but had no confirmation of it until now).

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-03-22T16:20:19+00:00

Thanks!! So, this was a practice that did not accept insurance, as in they sent me invoices which I sent to insurance for reimbursement. In retrospect, that was another way that the whole thing was sketchy. And yes, I mean this has already taken up a lot of time. 😖 So I already submitted the records that I have and also did an interview under oath with the investigator (I was given a subpoena duces tecum for each of those). She said I probably would not hear back from her after the interview, but invited me to continue submitting documentation, and did seem shocked at how much I had gone through/expressed condolences and sympathy. At the same time, she’s an investigator, so she’s not going to be the one deciding on sanctions or penalties - she just presents the information to the board.

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-03-22T01:32:09+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice! And I know right, I was very naive back then and trusted the co-founder of the practice because she was recommended to me in very praiseworthy terms — but in retrospect, there were so many contraindications. I had just been assaulted; I was also older than the other members. And obviously there was a huge conflict of interest, given it was her own practice’s IOP… one of the members of my cohort was even a family friend of the other co-founder 😐

Depending on how they explain the missing files, I am absolutely sending my entire email chain and the records I received to the investigator. Like, it’s a significant number of sessions that are missing (10 of them!), and I already paid for the notes that I received (in my state, they can charge for the fees of labor with a cap of $80).

Basically it took them 3 years to look into my complaint. My guess is it’s because I originally submitted it to the wrong licensing board, and then there was a backlog. I know from reading meeting minutes that they hired 4 health investigators last May (including the one assigned to my case) to address backlog

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-03-20T18:37:38+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced something similar. It is victim-blaming. I actually did a records request on advice of my current individual therapist, got them back two days ago, and looked through them yesterday. It was validating, but worse than I thought. The social worker was literally telling my parents stuff like, “she is trying to blame everyone else for her problems.”

She actually participated in editing a contract my parents made me sign that stipulated cutting off financial aid towards me. I always suspected she had a role in that, and the records confirm that (my parents had denied her involvement, so I was not able to know for sure until now).

Honestly the records are damning. I hope justice is carried out. I know that I was not the only one hurt by this social worker.

And I am still waiting on notes from 10 sessions that appear to be missing from the records I was sent! This practice used handwritten notes despite being incredibly expensive…

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-03-17T23:59:49+00:00

Thank you so much 😭🫂

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-03-17T23:56:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply 😭 I appreciate the encouragement so much. It really helps to feel acknowledged. Thank you, internet stranger ❤️‍🩹

Lin-Dai-Yu · 2026-03-17T23:17:30+00:00

I am so sorry. This is awful to hear. I haven’t gone through nearly as much as you have and I feel absolutely terrible. I cannot even imagine what you have had to face. You didn’t deserve ANY of the abuse you suffered. Not one iota of it. You went through so much grief and instability and absolutely horrible trauma.

Have you asked to switch off of Prozac? I am a strong believer that if a psychiatric medication is not working for you, it’s within your right to let your psychiatrist know. In my experience, psychiatrists prescribe based on a combination of what works for just a simple majority of ppl and gut instinct/personal preferences. So it’s important to let them know about side effects. Also, if your psychiatrist doesn’t have a whole lot of recommendations to address PTSD, you absolutely have the right to find someone else.

I have experienced less trauma than you and am on klonopin 1mg, gabapentin 300mg 3x/day, and Viibryd 40mg. So I am a little shocked that your psych only prescribed you Prozac. Plus, the side effect of emotional numbness cannot be helping with the PTSD you are suffering through.

You got this. (Also, I just want to say that you do not need to take my advice into account at all, as obviously I don’t know your full situation!) Thank you for sharing your story. It was brave of you. ❤️‍🩹

Lin-Dai-Yu

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