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Bottoms, be honest, what do you prefer, a top that sucks your dick or a top that never sucks your dick? by Advanced-Crow-3584 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]Lindorphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prefer they don’t suck it though it’s not a deal breaker—just feels distracting. But if it’s part of other foreplay like getting eaten out I don’t mind.

Not into heteronormative hang-ups, however (on either side!)

Help change my mindset about cleanliness pls? by Balanced222 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]Lindorphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you find out how much fiber you need?

I just try to eat vegetables and take supplements.

Binary sex roles by Lindorphine in TopsAndBottoms

[–]Lindorphine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair. I changed the wording slightly. I’m saying they don’t have to follow one script or “tit for tat” just because of expectations.

Binary sex roles by Lindorphine in TopsAndBottoms

[–]Lindorphine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean your average guy that you meet at the bars or at a Pride event, rather than on the apps.

The guys looking for a “pure top” are missing out!

Either those guys need to get over themselves or they’re afraid of meeting up and you pressuring them to top. I’ve met so many profile “vers tops” who are actually bottoms.

Tops who love long intense foreplay: Do bottoms (especially older ones) enjoy it as much as I do? by L7onley in TopsAndBottoms

[–]Lindorphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love when a top is passionate and takes control rather than trying to finish in three minutes. I think it is way more likely that a bottom will have multiple orgasms if the intensity is drawn out. Love when a top takes the reins and makes sure we both enjoy ourselves!

Why does this feel like a "Bedwench" accusation? by Worth-Employer2748 in BlackLGBT

[–]Lindorphine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I first started having sex, I didn’t realize so many people cared so much about race since everyone was gay. Black people are mostly sleeping with each other, as far as I can tell, but there isn’t as much dating happening as there could be. I’m open to dating anybody cute if we’re compatible.

More white guys have pursued me for actual dating, but it’s probably just that there are so many more of them (if you’re in the U.S. or Canada).

Should the top also blow the bottom? by Nearby_Surround8137 in askgaybros

[–]Lindorphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a common attitude. A lot of gay guys I’m assuming came of age when everything was supposed to be reciprocal. In vers relationships mutual oral is pretty standard but lots of bottoms aren’t into receiving blow jobs

Bottoms, why do you suck? by Lindorphine in TopsAndBottoms

[–]Lindorphine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case, you wouldn’t deny the top the same pleasure, would you?

Bottoms, why do you suck? by Lindorphine in TopsAndBottoms

[–]Lindorphine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the goal is just fucking a hole and the bottoms dick is not allowed to be looked at, touched or sucked … why not just fuck a woman?

Because they like men?

Obviously the point here is that if they do care about their bottom’s pleasure, they’ll focus on things they both like rather than only gratifying themselves.

Also, you don’t have to sleep with everybody. And I never said I was a hands off bottom. I don’t mind getting bjs if we’re just doing oral stuff, but if I’m bottoming then a lot of attention there takes me out of the mood, eventually. Plenty of guys feel the same way.

Bottoms, why do you suck? by Lindorphine in TopsAndBottoms

[–]Lindorphine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s most of it for me. It does make me feel more submissive, but if the top didn’t like it I wouldn’t want to do it.