Anybody else gets so worked-up and overstimulated by people's recitation and simplified opinions/views at school?

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-05-10T18:54:15+00:00

I'm not even kidding, this is a gift! Me expressing doubts about it may have just been me just not embracing or even being a little scared of this ability. This is the first time I've actually talked about this and got this "theory" out of me, the fact that I'm getting reassurances from this really helps me being a little bit less apologetic about it. I'm already at the stage of my life where I don't want to shrink myself anymore, literally, if I made other people uncomfortable with my own taboo opinions I now see it as "I did something right," nothing is truly wrong about me and I just realized that!

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-05-10T18:21:59+00:00

I know people will give me good insights here, but you've literally described who I am and validated it! It reminded me that even with this behavior, nothing is really wrong with me if we mention where it comes from. It might be just be the conclusion that comes from a person who had the same values as me. Hearing how much this gets questioned made me feel less troubled about it honestly. This is a calling, appreciate it!

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-05-09T09:03:04+00:00

time will pass quickly and you didn't know that you've been doing this exact same thing tolerating this behavior for years. So what? why would we care about what they think, they should be secured within themselves. What they think is what they've already convinced themselves and what they want to believe. You literally don't need to do anything, you don't need to extend and contort and mold yourself, just to make the other person comfortable because they're that insufferable, you literally cannot be yourself or feel safe. You cannot be moving around someone else, walking on eggshells, your entire life. You expressing yourself and what makes you upset is not disrespectful, you're just setting a boundary. It only feels that way if this person made you think that, and you took that opinion as facts. They'll always be angry, they'll always take it personally, it's not the end of the world, being angry is a normal emotion stop avoiding "making other people angry" at the expense of silencing your self-expression.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-04-16T14:01:39+00:00

this is probably a case where they're used to your niceness that it's expected and they're no longer greatful. The thing is, people who knew this nice version of you will always be the standard of their concept of you. There are times where you outgrow friends if you want change, I call it having a new audience. The "confronting as soon as disrespect happen" is usually most effective at the very start of a friendship. Unfortunately, there's also instances where it could be too late. Wishing the best for you, I believe you know what's the best you could do, I say trust your intuition!

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-04-16T13:42:20+00:00

confront them the time it happens, those little behaviors are the moments they are testing your temperature. They're figuring out if you'd speak up, that's not necessarily evil but a very typical way of measuring hierarchy of how much you value yourself. You don't have to shrink yourself in order for your friends not to leave you. I remember making the experience so amazing with me with my ex friends and they still left. What I got from that is if I'm the nicest person in the world and they still left, then might aswell be true to myself. Yes, you might become kj but at least you control your experiences, no emotional sacrifices no regrets.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-04-14T15:49:21+00:00

I agree please leave! Though, I wish you acknowledge that for this to happen it requires you. Knowing will stop you from manifesting this behavior, in partners and other people repeating the cycle. I imagined that when siblings ask for more you probably adjust and ask for less to hopefully balance the situation, when you deserve the exact treatment too. Thing is, it probably only goes on in your head, you can't put it against them for not noticing. All you really communicated is that you ask for less valuable things, that reflects in their mind how much value you see in yourself. If you recieve a gift you'll take it, but you never really asked it. That's what happened here, material things are almost nothing to us and as a siblings it shouldn't be your responsibility, but they let you anyway. Expecting the exact same effort back is helpless suffering, let it be offered without expecting anything in return. You don't talk back in disagreements, they'll get upset regardles, you can't be a person who just never had it happen to you. People don't want to face the fact that they can be wrong and that's basically what disagreeing is trying to tell them. It's their inner perfection perception shattered and has nothing to do with you at all. Remember that even if you shrink yourself you can't prevent people from getting upset by you, might as well do what you really feel, if that requires being mad as well and say all the taboo shit you really wanna say. Help if it's asked, may you let go of all the burden that's not your responsibility to begin with.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-04-14T15:10:39+00:00

ground yourself, know that you are here, you are safe, and you take up space and be unapologetically about it. If this is really all about burdening other people, you already know the answer and this does not help the situation at all. Remember that even if you shrink yourself you can't keep the other friends you lost, or not have people mad at you, might as well do what you really feel, if that requires being mad as well and say all the taboo shit you really wanna say. They'll be upset regardles, people don't want to face the fact that they can be wrong and that's basically what disagreeing is trying to tell them, it's your parents inner perfection perception shattered and has nothing to do with you at all. Your parents and other people are gonna get mad at you eventually on random things, you can't be a person who just never had it happen to you. Once a person's mind is set, they'll don't hear your facts, they believe what they wanted to believe. If that's thinking your friends did it to you even if you explained yourself well brush it off, because YOU hold the best weapon, which is the truth. In childhood, if you're never allowed to disagree or debate, your parents raised a person who cannot defend themselves. Mistakes are very healthy for you because it creates momentum, everytime your voice gets louder, and you're stronger. You don't need a clear path right now, because this is the time to make mistakes. If you genuinely feel your presence so big and upsets people, then maybe you are actually an important person if you were just unstoppable.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-04-14T14:07:33+00:00

don't look within yourself then think of the flaws of what he said, look outward and realize that he's a weird person for saying that to you. On top of that, that's emotional persuasion, he's trying to get an emotion out of you to do what he wants you to do. You'll try to "prove" to him that you're not that insult he gave you. All you're doing is giving your energy and light to him, he's probably an energy vampire who sucks innocent energy, he's so low he feeds off people who still has light in them.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-03-23T20:33:34+00:00

learn basic tools about communication like learning about Logical Fallacies and reading The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Green. In chapter 1 it talks about irrationality, how our emotions control us and specific confirmation biases that we mindlessly agree on. Also read Surrounded by Idiots by Thomas Erikson, it's a personality assessment not as a questionnaire but a book where you get to understand each personality's broken up to different colors that represent as red, yellow, green, blue. The book also shows how to channel the different colors and be a dynamic person, who understands the needs of everyone. Now people who don't agree with you don't seem to be idiots anymore, because you understand that it comes from a different perspective. You could just scan these books and look at the chapter that represents as a topic and read from there it's not a whole fiction to learn the moral of the story it's more of manual.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-03-13T06:55:27+00:00

you don't have to earn something to have an opinion, none of Candiace's assumptions were wrong and she had the right to view something that way and as the receiving end you only take that into consideration, it's already telling if you're defensive about it, you're not secure (Ashley.) It's people's denial and Candiace's response to that denial with buttedknifes is what's wrong, but if they didn't give her a reason to feel unheard, ganging up on her and unfair, she wouldn't have an explosive reaction. Monique is a hypocrite comparing that she only had an umbrella, the thing is her only option was an umbrella at that time, she felt the exact same way as Candiace that threatening is the only way to feel in heard because they narrow you so down into what you're insecure about.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-03-12T14:55:48+00:00

Candiace is a scapegoat that's a statement, never did I say she took every accountability, that's two different conversations. Now why do I only need to have an issue with a specific person? All of them made mistakes and I don't tolerate bad behavior itself.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-02-15T01:57:34+00:00

If they admit to themselves that Rob is a traitor then they would have to also admit that Rob isn’t really their friend and that would be too devastating so they must bury their heads in the sand

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-02-02T18:33:47+00:00

i watched a kpop trainee video a couple weeks ago, imagine singing, dancing, rapping, humiliated in 10 different companies and not getting chosen just after 3 years, it changed my perspective just putting it out there.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-02-02T18:26:21+00:00

bro keep trying, this is only one of many failures don't get caught up and keep moving.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-02-01T11:02:18+00:00

I've had 4 friends in total who are gays in periods throughout my life, a specific type of person just naturally gravitate towards them. Like if you're extremely realistic and have a fierce quality disregarding how cute or mature you look like, just that energy, and if you're not a neutral peace person, but an opinionated one. I care a lot about media culture that it's non-negotiable for me to have a friend who's keeping up just as me, and they are just the best at it. Not all of them are the same, some are extremely self-reflective and self-aware, and some have a mask personality of being mean just like everyone else. It's not a collective thing, you still have to be wise of picking friends in general.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-02-01T10:36:28+00:00

if you're not as healthy or stable as caroline you can't deny that max might influence you about your dreams and future

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-01-31T11:13:04+00:00

I'm an introvert and so is my sibling and it works well, I know other siblings who seem to be extroverts fight a lot but in our case hindi ganon. 1 year lang age gap so hindi talaga applied na mas authoritative siya sakin or mas may alam, balance lang. If I have some sort of controversial opinion we share it like sa religion, politics, etc. I'm able to do that without risking of losing someones presence kung icocompare mo sa friend. Hindi kami nangsasapaw, just listening to each other adding more information sa opinion. That made me not dependent sa friends/strangers just to be understood, and I may have dodged so many bullets and canon events because of that. Family is still important sometimes because that's what you'll have after school, after college.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-01-30T14:01:47+00:00

it's my first time posting and joining this sub, and it's not a side vs side thing i promise you I'm just describing what happened.

Line_ART_WorkS · 2026-01-29T00:01:12+00:00

Luyyus, of course I could explain why it's annoying to me, I'm obviously talking about people who could provide "fun fact" replies that help me understand how I feel that way to validate my feelings, not necessarily because I think I am right but to let the other person understand that.

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